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Patience Day 24 -Build Cushions Into Your Daily Schedule To Make Time For Patience

September 12, 2018 Leave a comment
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Make More Time For Patience

In yesterday’s post, we covered the concept of feeling rushed in today’s hectic world and how it can lead to impatience. Part of becoming more patience and lowering stress is to learn to slow down. You can do that and limit the sense of urgency that tends to creep up on you by building cushions into your daily schedule. These strategies will help you to feel less hurried and to actually get more done. Your patience will surely increase as a result.

Wake Up Earlier

One way to get more time in your day is to make it. You can easily do this by waking up just a little bit earlier than your usual time. A half hour to an hour of downtime each morning can be a lifesaver when it comes to collecting your thoughts and planning your day. You can use this time in whatever way you desire, and once you do it for a week or so, it will become routine. You won’t even miss the extra sleep.

Build Time In

Another strategy to getting more time in your day is to build it in. This is an easy tweak once you get the hang of it. For example, if you’re an entrepreneur or professional with lots of out-of-office obligations, you can build down time into your day by leaving a period free after lunch. You can use this time before your next client or appointment to sneak in some time of refreshing before starting more work. It’s too tempting to shirk the studying once you get home and comfortable. This strategy can help for working meetings and other duties, as well. Some strategic scheduling can give you extra time to get more accomplished, and you’ll feel far less hurried.

Avoid Overscheduling

Many of us feel pressure to get things done. We want to cram as much as possible into our days, thinking we’re being more productive. Instead, we’re just burning ourselves out and whittling away our patience reserves. Limiting your to-do list involves learning to say no. This is a tough one for many of us, but it’s also what will ultimately set you free from unwanted obligations and help you to stop feeling so on-edge. Part of this involves learning to tell yourself no, as well. Cut down on the things you schedule. When you do, you’re bound to feel more relaxed and truly enjoy the activities that remain.

Building cushions into your day will help you to intentionally structure your time in a way that lessens the sense of urgency you experience. You’ll be less hurried and, thus, have more patience to attend to what’s on your plate. Give it a try and see for yourself how well it works.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Patience 12 – Using Visualization Exercises To Help With Patience

August 31, 2018 Leave a comment
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Visualization Can Help With Patience

 

Cultivating patience is something that takes time, and ironically, also requires a great deal of patience. However, you don’t have to just sit around idly twiddling your thumbs and hoping to become a more patient person. In fact, that approach would likely not result in the spiritual maturity or self-development you desire. I’ve already shown you a few ways you can proactively work to become a more patient person. In today’s post, I’d like to explore one more. Visualization is a powerful tool to reaching a number of positive gains, and it can definitely help you to acquire more patience if you take the time to invest in the practice. Let’s look at how using visualization exercises can help with patience.

About Visualization

Visualization is a process in which you create an image in your mind of a future event you’d like to see come to light. It involves imagining and seeing events unfold in a way that is desirable to you. For visualization to be effective, it is best if you focus on the details of a scenario, down to the individual steps involved and the surroundings in which the event occurs. People have been using this method for centuries to help them attain success and to achieve their goals. It’s actually been scientifically studied and proven to provide tangible benefits. “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.”

Benefits of Visualization

You can gain many benefits from visualizing yourself becoming more patient in life and in pursuing your dreams and goals. Many of the positive results of this practice can be used to help you increase your patience. In fact, one of the advantages of visualization is its versatility; it’s a tool that can be used anywhere at nearly any time and tailored to your specific needs. Professional athletes have used variations of this strategy to improve their performance. Visualizing your desires can help you to gain clarity and enhance your potential. As with meditation, this practice also has a track record of improving focus and lowering stress. Both of these are useful in becoming more patient. Seeing yourself becoming more patient, you can decrease nervousness, increase confidence, and increased patience.

Why It Works

Visualization is a process that can help you reach your goals. It actually transforms your brain and rearranges the connections within it. According to research in the field, neurons that control communication within the brain interpret visual imagery just as they would concrete actions. Therefore, actions are set in motion within our minds to form these pathways in the same manner as if you’d actually completed the steps you imagined.

Assignment Day 12

Find a quiet place where you can begin to practice visualization to develop patience in your life.

 

Patience Challenge Day 5 -Quick Patience Tip – Count To Ten

August 24, 2018 Leave a comment

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In yesterday’s post, I gave you some ways to practice patience. However, there’s one I left out. The reason I did is because it deserves its very own post. That’s how important and useful I think this tip is. And it’s probably one you’ve known about since you were a child. That’s right, counting to ten. This tried and true strategy works. Let’s take a closer look at this quick patience tip and count to ten.

Why It Works

Thomas Jefferson is quoted as saying, “When angry, count to ten before you speak. If very angry, a hundred.” This is still very sage advice today. The trick to this simple strategy lies in two components. These are time and distraction. It’s quite perfect, actually, because it buys you some time to disengage from whatever is frustrating you. You can’t possible react impulsively or aggressively if you’re busy counting. It similarly distracts you because you won’t be thinking about your current problem. Counting forces you to stop obsessing for just a bit in order to gain your bearings. Just this short break can be enough to really put things in perspective.

When to Do It

The great thing about this technique is that it’s so easy. It’s also quick and requires no specific tools. In fact, no one even has to know that you’re doing it. Any time you’re feeling overwhelmed, agitated, annoyed or frustrated, you can employ this strategy. It can be used in the moment by simply taking a pause in the conversation. It will look as if you’re just thinking of what to say next. You can also count to ten before a big event you’re anticipating in order to feel more relaxed. It’s quite versatile.

Tips That Might Help

Using this technique in combination with other strategies tends to be most helpful. For example, taking deep and controlled breaths when counting to yourself can help you to relax and to become more mindful. It’s quite grounding to engage in breathing exercises. Also, taking note of the feelings within your body at the current moment is a way to bring you back to the here and now, as well as to release the tension you’re feeling. These little extras will ensure you’re cooled off and thinking more clearly at the end of your ten count.

You might not have realized just how powerful this little exercise can be. I hope you now remember to count to ten during impatient times. I assure you it is likely to bring you positive results.

Assignment Day 5:

Try counting to 10 over the next two days 3 times a day. Write in your journal how you felt physically, spiritually, and mentally when counting and afterwards.

 

 

 

 

Patience Challenge Day 4 – Patience Is A Skill – Practice Helps

August 22, 2018 Leave a comment

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Patience doesn’t come easily to all of us. It’s a skill that has to be practiced in order to be fully developed. Rather than feel frustrated with yourself for your lack of this precious trait, I’d like to show you just how you can work to gain competence and start to become a more patient person. Don’t worry. You can learn to improve upon this skillset. It just takes practice.

Why You Need to Practice Patience

Patience can hurt you in a great many ways, even in areas you may never have suspected. If you’re regularly an impatient person, chances are good that others have noticed. When you develop a reputation for being short-tempered or unsympathetic, people will begin to react accordingly. You could miss out on career opportunities due to your reputation, and your personal relationships could be damaged.

Signs and Causes of Impatience

Pay attention to your body and its reactions when you find yourself feeling impatient. There are probably some common signs you exhibit during such times. Once you recognize them, you can take proactive steps to address your emotional state. Perhaps you find your fists clenching or your muscles becoming tense. Many people first notice they are becoming agitated when their breathing changes. It may become shallow and rapid. Maybe your feet start to become restless or particular emotions are running high. Take note of your particular physical cues to help identify when you are feeing less than patient. Once identified, you can work harder to overcome these specific issues.

Ways to Practice Patience

If you feel tension in your body, practice relaxing your muscles in order to release that pent-up energy. You can start from the top of your body and slowly relax each muscle group. This focus will give you time to calm down and to then deal with the cause of your impatience. Also, some positive self-talk can help. Remind yourself that you are in charge of your feelings; they don’t control you. This type of encouraging yourself can change your mood dramatically. Another strategy is to move your attention from yourself and how you’re feeling onto others. If you’re impatient with someone else, try to imagine what is causing them to act in the manner they are. A little empathy goes a long way.

If you’re not a naturally patient person, it’s okay. It truly is. You can practice patience on a regular basis in order to become better at showing it. You’ll soon see it really is possible to be more patient with yourself and with those around you.

Assignment Day 4:  Write down in your journal the things that cause you to become impatient. Then look over your list once it begins to accumulate so that you can search for common patterns.

 

 

 

Patience Challenge Day 2 – What Exactly Is Patience?

August 21, 2018 Leave a comment

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“Patience is a virtue!” But what exactly is patience? It’s important to have at least a basic understanding of the concept and the areas of life that are affected by it if you are to cultivate more of this virtue in your life. That’s what today’s post is all about. We’ll look at brief definitions of what it means to be patient spiritually and naturally, along with an overview of the ways patience touches your life and why it’s important.

About Patience

Here are a few of the ways Merriam-Webster defines patient. Patient is, “bearing pains or trials calmly or without complaint.” “Not hasty or impetuous,” and “steadfast, despite opposition, difficulty or adversity,” are also definitions found within this dictionary. While the concept can be used in different ways, it generally seems to refer to the ability to tolerate discomfort.

This tolerance can be in terms of waiting for something we greatly desire, managing negative feelings during difficult times or maintaining composure when feeling rattled by the behavior of another. One thing to note is that, despite the dictionary definition, how each of us defines patience is likely to be different, even across various stages of our lives.

Biblically, patience comes from a Greek word which is derived from two words. Hupo which means “under” and Meno which means to abide. Simply said, “If you rest or remain in God, no matter what things or circumstances you are brought under you will endure” (Ginger London). God uses patience to as one of the processes to make this happen in your life.

The Impact of Patience Throughout Life

Because patience involves tolerating discomfort across settings, it makes sense that the concept would have unique significance to individuals at various times in their lives. The ability to be patient also affects different parts of your life, no matter what stage you may currently be in.

Being able to handle frustration in whatever form it presents itself is beneficial to your mental health. The ability to be patient during particularly stressful or hectic life stages can save you a great deal of unhappiness and strife. It can improve relationships when you are better able to manage your emotions with regard to the behavior of others. Patience is necessary on the job, during life transitions such as becoming a parent or moving away and as you reach old age when you find yourself unable to complete tasks with your former ease.

Benefits of Being Patient

Beyond aiding one’s mental state, there are lots of benefits to being patient. With patience, you’re better able to achieve the goals you set for yourself. Because you don’t have the need for immediate gratification, you can weather the struggles in order to wait for the reward of achieving your desired result. You’ll form stronger relationships when you’re a patient person because you are able to be tolerant of behaviors that frustrate you. This tolerance, combined with communication, allows relationships to withstand adversity and continue to grow. Learning to be more patient may even be good for your physical health because it helps to lower stress, which is associated with problems like headaches, digestive issues and ulcers.

Patience is different things to different people. It manifests itself and is needed more at various times in your life and across a number of settings. Above all else, it can benefit you in countless ways to learn to cultivate patience, and that’s just what we’ll do throughout this journey.

Day 2 Assignment:

Write down in a journal five areas in your life you need to practice and develop more  patience. (for example, relationships, work)

 

 

 

Family Comes First

April 10, 2018 Leave a comment

 

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Sleep At The Family Reunion!!!!

 

This has been an interesting year so far. I made some new year’s commitments and set some goals for the first quarter and the rest of the year. Well, my father had some health challenges that took precedent over all other things. His medical challenges were more important than any business goals, any training I planned to host, and anything else. One thing I have learned over the last two years is family comes first. My mom and dad, brothers, sister, aunties, cousins and nieces and nephews are very important to me. How about you?

Can you truly say that you put your family first all of the time? If you don’t, there is no need to feel guilty. Many people unintentionally let other things get in the way when they shouldn’t. All that it takes to start putting your family first is a shift in your priorities.

A great example of this is when you start to work crazy hours. While your objective may be to provide those “extras” for your family, it results in you neglecting them. So you may come home with gifts and new toys, but is that what your family really wants? They would probably prefer to spend more time with you instead. Over the last 6 six years or so I have purposefully traveled with my parents on their bowling tournament trips, especially with my dad. When I travel with them, they go out of their way to make sure that I am having a good time.

One way to put your family first is by being there for them. When your son or daughter has a sports event, or is in the school play, make of point of attending. If a family member gets sick, help them out as much as possible. My God-mother, my mom’s sister, lives in New Orleans, Louisiana about 98 miles from where we live. Every chance I get I go to spend a couple of days with her in her home. She loves it! When I tell her that I am coming, she counts on it.

Creating stability within your family is a good way of putting your family first. Everyone loves to know that they have someone who they can count on. You can easily do this by creating family routines such as:

  • Regular dinner times
  • Chores for each family member
  • Set bed times
  • Movie night

Though, these things may sound trivial they are very important. By creating a structured routine you are also setting expectations for your family. They know that they are expected for dinner at 6pm each day. Or that every Saturday they have to spend an hour or two helping out with chores.

When you put your family first, each family member will start to follow suit. In turn this creates a caring family that will always be around for each other.

Family is important so don’t neglect yours. Yes, work and being social is important, but they shouldn’t always take precedence over your family.

Oh yeah! My next trip with my dad for one of his bowling tournaments is this May. We are going to Detroit, Michigan. We are driving (ha, ha, ha). He is doing much better, we are working on getting is blood numbers up again.

Finding Your Inner Circle of People

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An inner circle of friends is an awesome way to create and maintain a harmonious and balanced life. But who makes up your valued inner circle may surprise you! You want those people in your inner circle to be the ones who challenge you, make you think in new and different ways, and above all, are honest with you all the time.

It’s great to have friends who think you’re wonderful because you are, but it’s valuable to have friends who can also point out (nicely, of course, and with love) where you might need some work. And luckily, if your inner circle is made up of the right types of people, they’ll help you do the work that needs to be done to create a happier, healthier you!

Your inner circle is a circle of close friends that surrounds you that you trust implicitly. They are the people who you naturally turn to for advice and reasoning. They know how to listen, and give you their opinions without bias. It goes without saying that choosing the people who are in your inner circle is a decision that should not be taken lightly.

Your inner circle will grow organically – you can’t simply go out and pick and choose who is involved. You meet and learn about people, and get together with them, and you’ll notice that some will naturally gravitate to the top of your “favorites” list. Ask yourself why.

Be aware of what it is about them you enjoy and value. It’s easy to choose inner circle members who think you’re wonderful, but much more difficult to choose those who will challenge you instead. This takes an honest assessment of yourself, your strengths and weaknesses, and helps you choose your inner circle according to what is best for you – not necessarily what feels best at the time, or all of the time.

Overall, the people you want closest to you should be supportive, empathetic, honest, energetic, trustworthy, intelligent, kind, loving, and enthusiastic. Above all, each member must be positive-minded, and optimistic! You should admire each of the members and look up to them.

Surrounding yourself with challenging people who you feel are “above” you in certain areas of your life will help you rise to their level, and you’ll see successes in areas you may never have dreamed of! This is the true beauty of an inner circle that challenges you.

Challenge Assignment:

Review the list of names that make up your inner circle. Should you remove any of them?

 

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