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Free Yourself – You’re Worth It!

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Do you sometimes feel like you are a work in progress?  Do you feel the drive to keep improving yourself and then find yourself in a spiral of despair because you just never feel like you measure up? For many people, this is their reality. Research has shown that this may be one of the most common causes of weight gain and emotional eating disorders.

All of us need to find freedom from the cycle that we are imperfect .While we all have room to grow and develop; the most freeing of all realities about ourselves that we need to absorb and accept is that we are a unique and beautiful human being. There is no one quite like us on this earth and there never will be. Once we accept this for ourselves, we can then look for ways to make the good in us better. Without this perspective, we will constantly strive to find some self-acceptance and won’t move much beyond this point in our life.

An old African proverb reminds us that if we don’t have any enemies inside us, then no external enemies can cause us harm or hurt. Have you noticed when things are going well on the inside and you are feeling secure and happy with life, things that go wrong in your life don’t seem to be so bad, but when you are feeling bad about your self, things are so different. The world seems to take on a much darker feeling and it’s more difficult to cope when things are not going right?

Learning to love yourself and to appreciate the uniqueness you are is often the first stage of learning how to control your weight, feel confident in studying or changing careers, or learning a new hobby. Many of the things we procrastinate over that are for our own benefit and enrichment are often the things we don’t do, because perhaps deep inside we don’t think we are good enough or worthy enough to do these things for ourselves.

Challenge those thoughts and starting tomorrow – Choose one thing you want to do for you. – Because guess what, you are worth it! Most people have to battle the self-talk and rarely say anything nice about themselves. Try looking in the mirror when you wake up and tell your reflection what you would tell your best friend… You are worth it!

GTGMT 25 – The Heart of Self-Improvement is Motivation

January 28, 2014 Leave a comment

Colorful Heart

Pain may sometimes be the reason why people change. Getting flunked grades make us realize that we need to study. Debts remind us of our inability to look for a source of income. Being humiliated gives us the ‘push’ to speak up and fight for ourselves to save our face from the next embarrassments. It may be a bitter experience, a friend’s tragic story, a great movie, or an inspiring book that will help us get up and get just the right amount of motivation we need in order to improve ourselves.

With the countless negatives the world brings about, how do we keep motivated? Try on the tips I prepared from A to Z…

A – Achieve your dreams. Avoid negative people, things and places. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”

B – Believe in your self, and in what you can do.

C – Consider things on every angle and aspect. Motivation comes from determination. To be able to understand life, you should feel the sun from both sides.

D – Don’t give up and don’t give in. Thomas Edison failed once, twice, more than thrice before he came up with his invention and perfected the incandescent light bulb. Make motivation as your steering wheel.

E – Enjoy. Work as if you don’t need money. Dance as if nobody’s watching. Love as if you never cried. Learn as if you’ll live forever. Motivation takes place when people are happy.

F – Family and Friends – are life’s greatest ‘F’ treasures. Don’t loose sight of them.

G – Give more than what is enough. Where does motivation and self-improvement take place at work? At home? At school? When you exert extra effort in doing things.

H – Hang on to your dreams. They may dangle in there for a moment, but these little stars will be your driving force.

I – Ignore those who try to destroy you. Don’t let other people to get the best of you. Stay out of toxic people – the kind of friends who hates to hear about your success.

J – Just be yourself. The key to success is to be yourself. And the key to failure is to try to please everyone.

K – keep trying no matter how hard life may seem. When a person is motivated, eventually he sees a harsh life finally clearing out, paving the way to self-improvement.

L – Learn to love your self. Now isn’t that easy?

M – Make things happen. Motivation is when your dreams are put into work clothes.

N – Never lie, cheat or steal. Always play a fair game.

O – Open your eyes. People should learn the horse attitude and horse sense. They see things in 2 ways – how they want things to be, and how they should be.

P – Practice makes perfect. Practice is about motivation. It lets us learn repertoire and ways on how can we recover from our mistakes.

Q – Quitters never win. And winners never quit. So, choose your fate – are you going to be a quitter? Or a winner?

R – Ready yourself. Motivation is also about preparation. We must hear the little voice within us telling us to get started before others will get on their feet and try to push us around. Remember, it wasn’t raining when Noah build the ark.

S – Stop procrastinating.

T – Take control of your life. Discipline or self-control jives synonymously with motivation. Both are key factors in self-improvement.

U – Understand others. If you know very well how to talk, you should also learn how to listen. Yearn to understand first, and to be understood the second.

V – Visualize it. Motivation without vision is like a boat on a dry land.

W – Want it more than anything. Dreaming means believing. And to believe is something that is rooted out from the roots of motivation and self-improvement.

X – X Factor is what will make you different from the others. When you are motivated, you tend to put on “extras” on your life-like extra time for family, extra help at work, extra care for friends, and so on.

Y – You are unique. No one in this world looks, acts, or talks like you. Value your life and existence, because you’re just going to spend it once.

Z – Zero in on your dreams and go for it!!!

GTGMT 23 – There Is A Huge Demand For My Skills and Abilities Exercise

January 27, 2014 Leave a comment

Skills and Abilities

My abilities and skills are in high demand. I have many opportunities available to me, all I need to do is take the time to look. I have a lot to offer the right employer, and the right employer is searching for me right now. Plus, I have the right to be well compensated for my exceptional skills and abilities.

Even if I decide to work for myself, my skills and abilities are in high demand. I can rapidly sell my services for a significant income. It makes me excited to even consider the possibilities!

I make a list of my greatest skills and capabilities and each day I add to it. The more I work on it, the more impressed I am with myself. I can easily sell my time and skills. I am excited and motivated to use my skills and talents to best of my ability.

When searching for a new job, I consider all the possible ways I could best leverage my skill set. I ask myself which employers would be most interested in what I have to offer. Then, I make a plan to approach these employers and market myself to them. I am certain to hear from them quickly after putting my plan into action.

Today, I am making a list of everything I have to offer the world. I am finding the best opportunity to take full advantage of my skills and abilities. I am changing my life with the realization that there is a huge demand for my skills and abilities.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What are my greatest skills and abilities?
2. Who wants someone with my skills and abilities?
3. What can I do right now to find the right opportunity to use my talents to their best advantage?

Are You Your Own Worst Enemy?

October 17, 2013 Leave a comment
Special Teaching by Minister Ginger London

Special Teaching by Minister Ginger London

Obstacles. Hurdles. Barriers. Roadblocks. These are all common sights along the road to achievement.

If you have ever worked towards a goal that most people would label as “unrealistic”, then you have undoubtedly faced one challenge after another. In fact, when you reach the point where you feel like giving up, that is usually when things get even tougher.

Believe it or not, these external obstacles are actually the easy part. They are obvious. We can examine them and devise a plan to work through them or around them. For example, if you want to start a business but lack the funding, there are a variety of tangible action steps you can take to resolve your funding issues.

The real barriers to success are the internal roadblocks. This is where it gets difficult. This is where you battle your own self doubts, worries and feelings of unworthiness.

You may have the best work ethic in the world. You may have the strictest discipline and self control. But if your mind is listing all of the reasons why you shouldn’t have what you truly want, you are fighting a losing battle.

For many of us, these negative tapes have been playing the same dis-empowering messages in our minds for years.

The only way to cross the invisible line from feeling unworthy to feeling powerful and capable is to change the internal dialog. Instead of repeating patterns of thought telling you why you can’t do something, you flip the switch. You spend time every day reprogramming those internal tapes. When an old dis-empowering message begins to play, you train yourself to switch it to a positive.

Slowly but surely you forge a new path. A new way of thinking. A new internal dialog. Instead of being your own worst enemy, you become your own cheerleader. It is in that moment that everything in your life changes.

7 Wrong Reasons To Be In A Relationship

October 8, 2013 Leave a comment

Do you feel that all of your relationships are perpetually going downhill – even though it is not your fault? You should take a moment to think about if you are starting relationships for the wrong reasons.

Getting involved with someone for the wrong reasons is one of the ways in which many people create unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships. There are many reasons why people decide to have relationships other than being in love. One of the main reasons for falling in love for the wrong reasons has to do with low self-esteem.

Some of the wrong reasons to be in a relationship are: peer pressure, rushing into relationships, loneliness and desperation, to avoid growing up, or to fill emotional and spiritual emptiness.

There are 7 wrong reasons to be in a relationship:

1. Pressure (age, family, friends, etc.) – are most of you friends part of a couple, but you are still single? Are you unmarried and over thirty? Are you the last person in your family to “settle down?”

Age – if you are over a certain age and not married something must be wrong with you.
Family/Friends – some people are susceptible to the opinions of their family and friends and allow themselves to be pressured to get into or stay in relationships that aren’t making them happy.

2. Loneliness and Desperation – loneliness is a period your life when you feel emotionally empty to the point where you become desperate for someone – anyone to love. When you are feeling lonely and/or desperate, you are much more likely to make poor love choices and end up in unfulfilling relationships. You may lower your standards.

3. Sexual Hunger – have you ever overlooked things in a partner you didn’t like so you could prolong your relationship and keep having sex?

4. Distraction From Your Own Life – some people get into a relationship not because they have found the right person but as an excuse to avoid their own life. You become obsessed with love to avoid paying attention to your own life.

5. To Avoid Growing Up – some people get into a relationship because they “want to be taken care of” and not to share the fullness of their life with someone else. (big age difference, big difference in financial success, looking to your partner for help and advice).

6. Guilt – have you ever ended up in a relationship because you didn’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings by rejecting him/her? Have you ever stayed in a relationship much longer than you should have because you were afraid to hurt your partner by leaving? You remain in romantic situations not because you want to stay, but because you are afraid of what might happen if you left.

7. To Fill Up Your Emotional or Spiritual Emptiness – two problems: you get involved in relationships to fill yourself up, rather than because you have found someone who is right for you; you get involved in relationships that could be right for you, but look to them to fill you up in ways you should be filling yourself.

If you are entering into relationships for any of these reasons, then it is time for you to go on a “Relationship Fast!” You need a period of time away from love relationships with others to learn how to love yourself more.

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