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GTGMT 28 – Tell The Truth

January 29, 2014 1 comment

 

Have you ever come across the type of person that you felt you just couldn’t trust for some reason? You didn’t know exactly what it was, but he just wasn’t on the level. Or how about the type of person who always has a story, it’s just not a story you believe. Most of us have come across those types – they’re easy to spot because they’re obvious. The truth is, though, we all have some “masking” in us.

As we were growing up and forming our ideas about how to act safely in this world, we all began to wear masks in varying degrees. We say and do the socially acceptable things, and we defer to people in authority over us, no matter what our age. We’ve been doing it for so long and it’s so automatic, that many of us have no idea what we really think or feel. We do it because we don’t want to be rejected by others and because we’re not so sure about ourselves to begin with.

These masks keep us safe. They also imprison us. All of our “shoulds” and “have to’s” and “ought to’s” obscure who we really are. Some people are afraid of repercussions if they decide to be more authentically themselves. But authenticity is not a license to be boorish, and most people know that, so fear of repercussions is invalid. A few people may be threatened by your authenticity in and of itself, but more people will probably welcome it, and studies have shown that the more authentic you are, the more authentic people you attract.

The more people trust themselves and are comfortable with themselves, the more authentic they become in what they say and in their behavior. The more people give up their masks, the more they can explore and celebrate their real self. This releases all the energy that went into maintaining their masks so that it can be put into celebrating their lives.

Do a little investigating into what you think and feel. Is an authentic? Is it working well for you? Is it time to replace those old thoughts and feelings with more authentic ones, ones that represent who you really are. 

We are all changing and growing all the time. Choose the beliefs, feelings, and values that are real for you now. You will be freer, more alive, and happier.

 

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GTGMT 25 – The Heart of Self-Improvement is Motivation

January 28, 2014 Leave a comment

Colorful Heart

Pain may sometimes be the reason why people change. Getting flunked grades make us realize that we need to study. Debts remind us of our inability to look for a source of income. Being humiliated gives us the ‘push’ to speak up and fight for ourselves to save our face from the next embarrassments. It may be a bitter experience, a friend’s tragic story, a great movie, or an inspiring book that will help us get up and get just the right amount of motivation we need in order to improve ourselves.

With the countless negatives the world brings about, how do we keep motivated? Try on the tips I prepared from A to Z…

A – Achieve your dreams. Avoid negative people, things and places. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”

B – Believe in your self, and in what you can do.

C – Consider things on every angle and aspect. Motivation comes from determination. To be able to understand life, you should feel the sun from both sides.

D – Don’t give up and don’t give in. Thomas Edison failed once, twice, more than thrice before he came up with his invention and perfected the incandescent light bulb. Make motivation as your steering wheel.

E – Enjoy. Work as if you don’t need money. Dance as if nobody’s watching. Love as if you never cried. Learn as if you’ll live forever. Motivation takes place when people are happy.

F – Family and Friends – are life’s greatest ‘F’ treasures. Don’t loose sight of them.

G – Give more than what is enough. Where does motivation and self-improvement take place at work? At home? At school? When you exert extra effort in doing things.

H – Hang on to your dreams. They may dangle in there for a moment, but these little stars will be your driving force.

I – Ignore those who try to destroy you. Don’t let other people to get the best of you. Stay out of toxic people – the kind of friends who hates to hear about your success.

J – Just be yourself. The key to success is to be yourself. And the key to failure is to try to please everyone.

K – keep trying no matter how hard life may seem. When a person is motivated, eventually he sees a harsh life finally clearing out, paving the way to self-improvement.

L – Learn to love your self. Now isn’t that easy?

M – Make things happen. Motivation is when your dreams are put into work clothes.

N – Never lie, cheat or steal. Always play a fair game.

O – Open your eyes. People should learn the horse attitude and horse sense. They see things in 2 ways – how they want things to be, and how they should be.

P – Practice makes perfect. Practice is about motivation. It lets us learn repertoire and ways on how can we recover from our mistakes.

Q – Quitters never win. And winners never quit. So, choose your fate – are you going to be a quitter? Or a winner?

R – Ready yourself. Motivation is also about preparation. We must hear the little voice within us telling us to get started before others will get on their feet and try to push us around. Remember, it wasn’t raining when Noah build the ark.

S – Stop procrastinating.

T – Take control of your life. Discipline or self-control jives synonymously with motivation. Both are key factors in self-improvement.

U – Understand others. If you know very well how to talk, you should also learn how to listen. Yearn to understand first, and to be understood the second.

V – Visualize it. Motivation without vision is like a boat on a dry land.

W – Want it more than anything. Dreaming means believing. And to believe is something that is rooted out from the roots of motivation and self-improvement.

X – X Factor is what will make you different from the others. When you are motivated, you tend to put on “extras” on your life-like extra time for family, extra help at work, extra care for friends, and so on.

Y – You are unique. No one in this world looks, acts, or talks like you. Value your life and existence, because you’re just going to spend it once.

Z – Zero in on your dreams and go for it!!!

GTGMT #14 Emotions

January 15, 2014 3 comments

Managing Emotions

Many times people see emotions as things they have no control over or they look at emotions as things to avoid at all costs. Managing your  emotions is critical to being able to focus for your highest accomplishment. Emotions are nothing to be afraid of; they are something to be managed.

See if you recognize yourself as having one of the following patterns for dealing with your emotions:

1. AVOIDANCE – You are afraid of the intensity of your feelings so you do anything you can to avoid acknowledging them and dealing with them. There are a couple of problems with this approach. First, when you try to avoid negative emotions like fear or jealousy or anxiety, you also shut yourself off from feeling positive emotions like love, intimacy, and connection to other people. Second, you really can’t avoid feelings, so when you ignore them, they go underground and come out in more destructive ways.

2. COMPETITION – Some people try to outdo other people with the intensity of their bad emotions and experiences. They try to show others that they have it even worse. The problem with this is that it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. A much better way to deal with your emotions is to recognize them, see if they have a purpose, and learn from them.

3. LEARNING and USING – You don’t really have a choice on this one if you want to live a productive life. You can’t run from your emotions, and you can’t give in and wallow in them. The only productive thing you can do is understand what your emotions are and why you’re feeling them. And you need to see them as a call to action – you are having these emotions because something needs to change. Once you understand that, you look at negative emotions as your friends since they are the things that will make you act to improve your life.

Choose to replace negative emotions with emotions of power and focus on these emotions everyday.  You will be on your way to experiencing your highest accomplishment.

Are You Your Own Worst Enemy?

October 17, 2013 Leave a comment
Special Teaching by Minister Ginger London

Special Teaching by Minister Ginger London

Obstacles. Hurdles. Barriers. Roadblocks. These are all common sights along the road to achievement.

If you have ever worked towards a goal that most people would label as “unrealistic”, then you have undoubtedly faced one challenge after another. In fact, when you reach the point where you feel like giving up, that is usually when things get even tougher.

Believe it or not, these external obstacles are actually the easy part. They are obvious. We can examine them and devise a plan to work through them or around them. For example, if you want to start a business but lack the funding, there are a variety of tangible action steps you can take to resolve your funding issues.

The real barriers to success are the internal roadblocks. This is where it gets difficult. This is where you battle your own self doubts, worries and feelings of unworthiness.

You may have the best work ethic in the world. You may have the strictest discipline and self control. But if your mind is listing all of the reasons why you shouldn’t have what you truly want, you are fighting a losing battle.

For many of us, these negative tapes have been playing the same dis-empowering messages in our minds for years.

The only way to cross the invisible line from feeling unworthy to feeling powerful and capable is to change the internal dialog. Instead of repeating patterns of thought telling you why you can’t do something, you flip the switch. You spend time every day reprogramming those internal tapes. When an old dis-empowering message begins to play, you train yourself to switch it to a positive.

Slowly but surely you forge a new path. A new way of thinking. A new internal dialog. Instead of being your own worst enemy, you become your own cheerleader. It is in that moment that everything in your life changes.

MY LIFE’S CALLING IS ONE OF MY TOP PRIORITIES

October 3, 2013 8 comments

While I have many responsibilities, my life’s calling is always a top priority. I realize that callings from God are what make life worth living. It is easy to get caught up in day-to-day responsibilities, but I always remain aware of my calling.

I regularly schedule time to work on my life’s calling. I know it requires time and attention to come to fruition. Each day, I spend at least a few minutes making my calling a reality.

My God-given calling is worthy of my time.

It can be easy to become sidetracked, but I always remember to focus on my calling, because what I focus on is what I learn to master.

At work, I use spare moments to remind myself that my calling is important. I especially like to use the time while I am driving to reflect on my calling visualizing myself launching out into it. I review my goals and create plans that enable me to achieve them.

I surround myself with people that support and respect my calling and dreams. Life is too short to allow anyone else into my life. I allow people in my life who will celebrate me and my dreams and not those who only tolerate my existence.

My environment is supportive of my calling and dreams as well. I am certain that my calling will manifest and my dreams are coming true.

Today, my life’s calling and dreams are one of my top priorities. Making my dreams come true and walking in my life’s calling is up to me obeying God’s will for my life and I am up to the challenge.

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