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GTGMT Relationship 3 – New Relationship? 5 Tips to Reduce the Stress

February 8, 2014 Leave a comment

Black Love

New relationships usually spark excitement because they provide a brand new angle on life for you to take advantage of.

Your natural curiosity as a human being makes you anxious to see just what this new relationship is all about. As thrilling as this may be, however, new relationships also invariably bring along new stresses.

Use these tips to reduce that stress:

1.   Remember to embrace the real you. Try not to alter your actions, behaviors or beliefs to fall in line with expectations of the other person. The pressure to please others can be great, especially if you want the relationship to work, but avoid compromising who you really are. Such compromises can cause a great deal of unnecessary stress.

  •  Be true to yourself. If that isn’t what the other person is looking for, move on.
  • Know that you’re fabulous just as you are and avoid allowing the other person’s opinion of you to force you to try to change.

2.   Be honest about your feelings. Your feelings are true to who you are, and you should always try to stand behind them. Being honest about your feelings is the best way to start a trend of being honest in a relationship. The more upfront you are about how you feel, the more respect you’ll get from the other person, and the less stressful you’ll feel.

  •  If you don’t like when something is done in a particular way, just say it. Both of you will either agree to disagree, or decide there’s no room for compromise or meeting halfway.
  • If the person’s actions make you happy, say it. That’s the best way to provide reassurance that things are going smoothly.

3.   Let things flow naturally. Try not to force the relationship into new stages before it is ready. Just enjoying getting to know each other and letting the relationship build at its own speed is the stress-free way to progress.

4.   Take the time to get to know the person. It’s important that as you spend time together, you make the effort to truly know the person you’re with. What are their likes and dislikes? What makes them happy or upset? What are their beliefs? How compatible are both of you, really?

  •  Simply wondering about these important matters can cause undue stress, so find out what your inquiring mind wants to know!

5.   Be optimistic. Going into a new relationship with a positive outlook, instead of telling yourself that it’s probably not going to work out, keeps you from stressing yourself out about the whole situation. Also, it enables you to focus on (and enjoy) what’s good about the relationship rather than agonizing over every detail.

Your ultimate objective is to build relationships with others that truly work. Of course, there will be times when things don’t go as you would like them to, but that doesn’t mean that they can’t be corrected along the way.

The stress of a new relationship doesn’t have to be a burden. Instead, use these tips to reduce your new relationship stress and build a stronger bond as well.

GTGMT 25 – The Heart of Self-Improvement is Motivation

January 28, 2014 Leave a comment

Colorful Heart

Pain may sometimes be the reason why people change. Getting flunked grades make us realize that we need to study. Debts remind us of our inability to look for a source of income. Being humiliated gives us the ‘push’ to speak up and fight for ourselves to save our face from the next embarrassments. It may be a bitter experience, a friend’s tragic story, a great movie, or an inspiring book that will help us get up and get just the right amount of motivation we need in order to improve ourselves.

With the countless negatives the world brings about, how do we keep motivated? Try on the tips I prepared from A to Z…

A – Achieve your dreams. Avoid negative people, things and places. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”

B – Believe in your self, and in what you can do.

C – Consider things on every angle and aspect. Motivation comes from determination. To be able to understand life, you should feel the sun from both sides.

D – Don’t give up and don’t give in. Thomas Edison failed once, twice, more than thrice before he came up with his invention and perfected the incandescent light bulb. Make motivation as your steering wheel.

E – Enjoy. Work as if you don’t need money. Dance as if nobody’s watching. Love as if you never cried. Learn as if you’ll live forever. Motivation takes place when people are happy.

F – Family and Friends – are life’s greatest ‘F’ treasures. Don’t loose sight of them.

G – Give more than what is enough. Where does motivation and self-improvement take place at work? At home? At school? When you exert extra effort in doing things.

H – Hang on to your dreams. They may dangle in there for a moment, but these little stars will be your driving force.

I – Ignore those who try to destroy you. Don’t let other people to get the best of you. Stay out of toxic people – the kind of friends who hates to hear about your success.

J – Just be yourself. The key to success is to be yourself. And the key to failure is to try to please everyone.

K – keep trying no matter how hard life may seem. When a person is motivated, eventually he sees a harsh life finally clearing out, paving the way to self-improvement.

L – Learn to love your self. Now isn’t that easy?

M – Make things happen. Motivation is when your dreams are put into work clothes.

N – Never lie, cheat or steal. Always play a fair game.

O – Open your eyes. People should learn the horse attitude and horse sense. They see things in 2 ways – how they want things to be, and how they should be.

P – Practice makes perfect. Practice is about motivation. It lets us learn repertoire and ways on how can we recover from our mistakes.

Q – Quitters never win. And winners never quit. So, choose your fate – are you going to be a quitter? Or a winner?

R – Ready yourself. Motivation is also about preparation. We must hear the little voice within us telling us to get started before others will get on their feet and try to push us around. Remember, it wasn’t raining when Noah build the ark.

S – Stop procrastinating.

T – Take control of your life. Discipline or self-control jives synonymously with motivation. Both are key factors in self-improvement.

U – Understand others. If you know very well how to talk, you should also learn how to listen. Yearn to understand first, and to be understood the second.

V – Visualize it. Motivation without vision is like a boat on a dry land.

W – Want it more than anything. Dreaming means believing. And to believe is something that is rooted out from the roots of motivation and self-improvement.

X – X Factor is what will make you different from the others. When you are motivated, you tend to put on “extras” on your life-like extra time for family, extra help at work, extra care for friends, and so on.

Y – You are unique. No one in this world looks, acts, or talks like you. Value your life and existence, because you’re just going to spend it once.

Z – Zero in on your dreams and go for it!!!

GTGMT#15 – Top 10 Emotions of Power Pt 1

January 17, 2014 1 comment


Here are the first five emotions of power.

1. Love and warmth – A consistent expression of love seems to be the most powerful emotion of all, since it can melt away any negative emotion. The book A Course in Miracles says that all communication is either a loving response or a cry for help.

2. Appreciation and gratitude – Spiritual teachings tell us that appreciation and gratitude are the most powerful emotions for us to have because they set us up to receive more from the universe.

3. Curiosity – The easiest path to growth is constant curiosity. Then all of life’s lessons are interesting. Nothing is work, nothing is boring.  4. Excitement and passion – The great secret of passion is that it turns any challenge into an opportunity. It replaces fear with excitement.

That gives us the power to take action quicker and more easily than anything else does. Guess what? You can choose to feel passionate about the things you need to do and learn. You can visualize the task as exciting because it will get you farther along your path. These are the goals that you have chosen. Get excited about them!

5. Determination – If you want to see your dreams come true, if you want to reach your goals, this is the quality that will get you there. More than any other. Again, you can put yourself into a state of determination. Then you’ll do whatever it takes to meet your goals. Determination is your emotional muscle.

Deciding To Choose Right: Trusting God

October 6, 2013 Leave a comment
Special Teaching by Minister Ginger London

Special Teaching by Minister Ginger London

In the New International Version Proverbs 3:5-7 reads, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not to your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes, fear the Lord..” It is clearer in the New Living Translation, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will direct your paths. Do not be impressed with your own wisdom. Instead, fear the Lord.”

The duration of your life will involve you in making important decisions. The outcomes will be determined by who you trusted in the decision making process. Did you trust a friend? Did you only trust yourself? or Did you whole-heartedly trust God? God knows what is best for you and who is best for you. His ways are not your ways and His thoughts are not your thoughts. His ways and thoughts are higher and better than yours. He knows what you don’t know and sees what you can’t see. You have to learn about people. God doesn’t, He is the creator of people. You must learn to trust God completely in every choice that you make.

What Should You Do?: Trust God – The word “trust” in the Hebrew language means, “to attach oneself,” “confide in,” “feel safe,” “be confident,” “secure,” and “rely on.” This word expresses the sense of well-being which result from knowing that the “rug won’t be pulled out from under you.” When making choices in life, you should attach yourself to God. Jesus said in John 15:5, “I am the vine, ye are the branches. He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit; for without me ye can do nothing (KJV).”

You must stay connected to your source. Your source is Jesus Christ. Being attached to the true vine gives you a sense of well-being from knowing that the “rug will not be pulled out from under you.”

•You can feel safe (the name of the Lord is a strong tower – Proverbs 18:10).
•You can be confident (Being confident of this, he that began a good work in you will perform it, Philippians 1:6).
•You can confide in God (talk to, Isaiah 1:18)
•You can rely on Him (Psalm 118:8)

Trusting in God keeps you from leaning or supporting yourself! Your heart must have complete confidence in God. You must trust God with every area of your life.

You Must Stay Connected To The True Vine – Jesus Christ.

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The Power Of Choice In Relationships

October 6, 2013 Leave a comment

The power of choice is the “ability” to “select” one thing rather than another. “Choose you this day whom you will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord (Joshua 24:15).” Some relationships are chosen based on the “other gods.” The gods of loneliness, fear of being alone, fear of being rejected and wanting to be accepted. People who have these feelings and fears usually involve themselves with others that appear to satisfy their unhealthy emotional needs. Unfortunately, these relationship choices compound the problem leaving more damage than deliverance, leaving more hurt than happiness, and more pain than pleasure. People making these choices in relationships are usually making their choices from a feeling of powerlessness rather than from a position of power. The power of choice is only effective in the life of the person who is “free to choose.”

Free To Choose

For the power of choice to be effective in your life, you must be free to choose. Choices are made in your mind. The Bible admonishes you in I Chronicles 28:9 to serve God with a perfect heart and a willing mind. Also, the Bible assures you in 2 Corinthians 3:17 “where the Spirit of the Lord is there is liberty [freedom].” There is a generosity of grace, you are no longer subject to the bondage of corruption. It is hard to make godly choices without God and it is hard to be liberated if your mind is not free.

To be “free” means to open wide, loose, release, untied, unshackled and liberated. Simply said, your mind is not secluded and isolated because of an “issue of life” or and event that occurred in your life, which has caused it to be in a “shackled” or “locked” position. A position where it is not expanding or growing, it is immovable.

In a shackled position the only thing that your mind can do is function off of the information that was in it when it became shackled. It can’t function off future knowledge because the shackles won’t allow any new knowledge to come in. It can’t function effectively off existing knowledge because the shackles don’t allow for growth and expansion; therefore, lessons are hardly ever learned from experiences.

In order to free your mind, you will have to use God’s mighty weapons to knock down and unlock the devil’s strongholds as the Bible teaches in 2 Corinthians 10:4. The New Living Translations says it clearly, “With these weapons we break down every proud argument that keeps people from knowing God. With these weapons we conquer their rebellious ideas, and we teach them to obey Christ.” The King James Version says, “Casting down vain imaginations [thoughts still in the mind].”

You can free your mind by casting down vain imaginations with the weapons of God, which are the Word of God and the Power of the Holy Spirit. Your mind must be free in God in order to make the right decisions and choices in life.

You are free to choose when you decide to trust God instead of yourself.

You can read more about choosing right relationships in the study manual “Friends, Foes, and Fellow Christians.”

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