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GTGMT 27 – Let It Go

January 29, 2014 Leave a comment

Let It Go

 

The surprising thing about judging is that the more judgmental we are about others, the more judgmental we are about ourselves. The real reason to let things go is that we ourselves will benefit from it.

Judgment is all around us all the time. We learned it as children. We heard from parents, friends, religious leaders, and the media. So, we began to do it ourselves at an early age. The result of all that judging is that we have a lot of opinions; many of them may easily be based on bias that we have learned in the past but may not be valid today.

Our habit of judging is exhausting since, now more than ever, we are bombarded by the media with more things to judge. Furthermore, media concentration on negative events leaves us stressed and anxious.

Another aspect of judgment is forgiveness. People have a problem with forgiveness because they feel that if they forgive someone who did something wrong, they are letting that person off the hook. So, a way to look at that is to concentrate on what it is doing for you, not what it is doing for the other person. When you let something go, you are freeing yourself from that burden of resentment that you have been carrying around with you. You have become more compassionate person. The great benefit is not in your compassion for the person who wronged you, but in the compassion you are showing for yourself. By becoming less judgmental, you have freed yourself. It’s not an easy concept to understand or to practice, but it works.

Take a look at all the people and things you are judging. Are your judgments valid? One question to ask yourself in each case: “Is this hurting me or helping me?” If it’s not helping you, you should try to drop it. Does that sound simplistic? It’s really not. We are talking about happiness, so the bottom line is to let go of whatever is hurting you. It never had any value. The more negative judgments you can release, the greater your happiness and freedom will be.

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GTGMT 19 – Qualities of Inspired Living

January 20, 2014 2 comments

 

Inspired Life

Many qualities are spoken of by the few people who live a truly inspired life. Take a quick look at 5 prized qualities that are the hallmarks of inspired living and how they can be expressed in your daily life:

Honesty and Conviction  – Be yourself and believe in yourself. Ask for what you want and express yourself clearly. See everything clearly for what it is. Seek and follow only the truth.

Love and Compassion – Care for the less fortunate and love your fellow human beings as much as you love yourself. Love your work passionately too or find your true vocation where love of work comes naturally.

Courage  – Follow your deepest and highest dreams. Dare to jump out of the box of conventional thought. Clobber your bad habits. Defeat your deepest fears. Never say never to even the most impossible ideal. Persevere even in your darkest hours.

Efficiency – Optimize your work, but remember to also smell the flowers. Stop complaining and start working. Utilize every hour of the day.  As the Romans say, “Carpe Diem!” – Seize the Day! Get rid of the weeds in your mind. Dream of the future, but live in the present

Inspiration and reflection– Mentor someone.  Speak an uplifting quote and smile throughout the day.  Appreciate the good around you. Meditate and explore the farthest corners of your heart and mind.

The opposites of these qualities are always lurking around to overpower the weak-willed mind. But stick to it and make these sterling qualities your own. And you will have surely started laying the foundations under those dream castles that you have built.

GTGMT#15 – Top 10 Emotions of Power Pt 1

January 17, 2014 1 comment

Emotions

Here are the first five emotions of power.

1. Love and warmth – A consistent expression of love seems to be the most powerful emotion of all, since it can melt away any negative emotion. The book A Course in Miracles says that all communication is either a loving response or a cry for help.

2. Appreciation and gratitude – Spiritual teachings tell us that appreciation and gratitude are the most powerful emotions for us to have because they set us up to receive more from the universe.

3. Curiosity – The easiest path to growth is constant curiosity. Then all of life’s lessons are interesting. Nothing is work, nothing is boring.  4. Excitement and passion – The great secret of passion is that it turns any challenge into an opportunity. It replaces fear with excitement.

That gives us the power to take action quicker and more easily than anything else does. Guess what? You can choose to feel passionate about the things you need to do and learn. You can visualize the task as exciting because it will get you farther along your path. These are the goals that you have chosen. Get excited about them!

5. Determination – If you want to see your dreams come true, if you want to reach your goals, this is the quality that will get you there. More than any other. Again, you can put yourself into a state of determination. Then you’ll do whatever it takes to meet your goals. Determination is your emotional muscle.

GTGMT #14 Emotions

January 15, 2014 3 comments

Managing Emotions

Many times people see emotions as things they have no control over or they look at emotions as things to avoid at all costs. Managing your  emotions is critical to being able to focus for your highest accomplishment. Emotions are nothing to be afraid of; they are something to be managed.

See if you recognize yourself as having one of the following patterns for dealing with your emotions:

1. AVOIDANCE – You are afraid of the intensity of your feelings so you do anything you can to avoid acknowledging them and dealing with them. There are a couple of problems with this approach. First, when you try to avoid negative emotions like fear or jealousy or anxiety, you also shut yourself off from feeling positive emotions like love, intimacy, and connection to other people. Second, you really can’t avoid feelings, so when you ignore them, they go underground and come out in more destructive ways.

2. COMPETITION – Some people try to outdo other people with the intensity of their bad emotions and experiences. They try to show others that they have it even worse. The problem with this is that it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. A much better way to deal with your emotions is to recognize them, see if they have a purpose, and learn from them.

3. LEARNING and USING – You don’t really have a choice on this one if you want to live a productive life. You can’t run from your emotions, and you can’t give in and wallow in them. The only productive thing you can do is understand what your emotions are and why you’re feeling them. And you need to see them as a call to action – you are having these emotions because something needs to change. Once you understand that, you look at negative emotions as your friends since they are the things that will make you act to improve your life.

Choose to replace negative emotions with emotions of power and focus on these emotions everyday.  You will be on your way to experiencing your highest accomplishment.

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