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Striving For Excellence In Ministry D2 – The Power of Compassionate Ministry

October 2, 2014 3 comments


Compassion is identifying with someone else’s needs by doing for them what you would want them to do for you if you were in their shoes.

Compassion is the key to earnest ministry. Having a spirit of excellence in ministry means functioning in ministry out of a heart of compassion for people and ministry, not with the cold hands of duty. You should have a sensitive, compassionate motivation. The compassion you have will be your spiritual empowerment for the task God has assigned to you.

When striving for excellence in ministry, you must have a love for people. You can’t hate people and say that you are doing excellent ministry work. God is love and compassion is a characteristic of God. When you are striving for excellence in ministry you move past the saying “I’m tired of church folks” and move in ministry from a position of compassion.

In ministry, compassion is the cure for selfishness and the energy for giving.

One of the most important elements of ministry is to minister with the wisdom and compassion of God. You should not rush to do ministry without careful consideration and godly wisdom.

Those who unlock your compassion are those to whom you have been assigned ~Mike Murdock.

5 Facts About Compassion To Help You In Ministry

  1. Everyone is hurting somewhere – they many not always show it because the things that make people cry often embarrasses them.
  2. Those around you have painful experiences that they are not discussing with you or anyone else – their decisions about everything are being made to avoid the continuance of the pain.
  3. You may be the only compassionate healer that ever crosses someone’s path during their lifetime – Listen to the Holy Spirit. When you concentrate on the needs of others, God will focus on your needs.
  4. Uncommon passion must come from the Holy Spirit – ask the Holy Spirit for special compassion for those to whom you are assigned.
  5. Your compassion affects the destiny of thousands – compassion is the intense desire to heal the hurting.


Day 2 Assignment:

1. When you think of compassion what comes to mind?

2. How would you rate your compassion in ministry on a scale of one to ten with ten being very compassionate?

3. Read the following scriptures – Psalm 78:38; 2 Peter 1:4, and Galatians 3:14


GTGMT Relationship 2 – All My Relationships Are Loving and Harmonious – Self-Reflection Exercise

February 8, 2014 Leave a comment

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All my relationships are loving and harmonious.

I have such wonderful relationships. I understand that the key to harmony is communication, so I make it a point to communicate effectively and compassionately with everyone I know. I only enter into relationships that are healthy and beneficial to me.

My relationships are full of love because I have caring people in my life. I show my love toward them, too. I have a genuine interest in others and want them to be happy.

At work, I remain professional, but I reach out to others. My clients, co-workers, and boss know that they can trust me. I feel comfortable with all of these people. My work place is loving and harmonious.

At home, I regularly ask myself what I can do to strengthen my relationships. I accept that positive relationships require daily time and effort. It is 100% worth it. Good relationships make life worth living.

With my friends, I strive to be understanding, even when it is challenging. Everyone is different and has his or her own needs and challenges. I am always kind and considerate. My relationships with my friends are very important to me.

Today, I choose to do what I can to make all of my relationships even better. I choose to be open, supportive, compassionate, and loving to everyone in my life.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What can I do to strengthen my relationships?
2. How can I be a better friend and partner?
3. Why are my relationships important to me?

GTGMT 19 – Qualities of Inspired Living

January 20, 2014 2 comments


Inspired Life

Many qualities are spoken of by the few people who live a truly inspired life. Take a quick look at 5 prized qualities that are the hallmarks of inspired living and how they can be expressed in your daily life:

Honesty and Conviction  – Be yourself and believe in yourself. Ask for what you want and express yourself clearly. See everything clearly for what it is. Seek and follow only the truth.

Love and Compassion – Care for the less fortunate and love your fellow human beings as much as you love yourself. Love your work passionately too or find your true vocation where love of work comes naturally.

Courage  – Follow your deepest and highest dreams. Dare to jump out of the box of conventional thought. Clobber your bad habits. Defeat your deepest fears. Never say never to even the most impossible ideal. Persevere even in your darkest hours.

Efficiency – Optimize your work, but remember to also smell the flowers. Stop complaining and start working. Utilize every hour of the day.  As the Romans say, “Carpe Diem!” – Seize the Day! Get rid of the weeds in your mind. Dream of the future, but live in the present

Inspiration and reflection– Mentor someone.  Speak an uplifting quote and smile throughout the day.  Appreciate the good around you. Meditate and explore the farthest corners of your heart and mind.

The opposites of these qualities are always lurking around to overpower the weak-willed mind. But stick to it and make these sterling qualities your own. And you will have surely started laying the foundations under those dream castles that you have built.

GTGMT18 – How To Go From Stuck to Unstuck

January 20, 2014 2 comments


If you find yourself stuck, perhaps it’s time to explore the reasons why. With some simple self-exploration you can pinpoint the areas of your life that require change. It may require you to leave your comfort zone, but in the end you’ll likely find that it was all worth it!

It’s also important for you to build an action plan. If you stay organized and follow a simple plan of action step by step, there will be nothing that can stop you from achieving your goals.

Here are some ideas that can get you on your way to getting unstuck:

1. Set Up Accountability. When you hold yourself accountable and keep a close eye on your goals, you’ll be better able to identify when you’re stuck in a rut. The first step is to really figure out why you’re feeling stuck in the first place.

2. Set A Time Goal. You’re stuck and you’d like to be unstuck, but chances are you’ve been put-ting off working toward your goal. You’ve already decided to make yourself accountable and now it’s time to give yourself a time limit – so do it!

3. Be Not Afraid. Being afraid of change is one of the biggest reasons why you get stuck in the first place. Perhaps you’re feeling trapped in your job and, in order to get the job you’d like, you have to go back to college. You need to get over your fear and see what you need to do to apply. You’ll be happy you did when you land your dream job someday.

4. Look For Role Models. Find someone who has been through your situation or something similar and see how he or she was able to overcome obstacles. If possible, ask this person questions.

5. Change Your Thinking. It’s true: your actions first start as thoughts. When you think positive and brave thoughts, you’ll be motivated into action!

6. Take Time. Remember to take some time for yourself to collect your thoughts. You may dis-cover some insight into how to solve your challenges. Make sure you’re completely alone with your thoughts without any distractions.

Taking Action

It’s easy to remain in your “stuck” situation because it’s familiar and you know what’s going to happen. You might even feel safe. However, eventually the dissatisfaction you feel will take over and you’ll realize that the only way to get “unstuck” is to take immediate action to change.

Make the Change

Once you choose your timetable, you’ll want to break down your changes into small steps. Track your progress and tweak your system to make sure your changes are making a difference.

For example, if you’re feeling stuck in a relationship, you’ll first evaluate where you think the concern lies. Perhaps you aren’t communicating effectively. If so, you can set a timetable of three months to overcome this challenge.

You can then break down the problem into smaller steps by reading a book on communication, talking about it with your partner, or attempting counseling sessions. As you go through these actions, you’re constantly keeping a close eye on how it affects your relationship.

In the end you have a firm decision about your relationship’s progress and you no longer feel stuck. If you hadn’t taken action, it’d be impossible to improve!

Repeat the Process

Once you’ve applied this system to one aspect of your life, you can use the same strategies whenever you’re feeling stuck (in every area of your life). Whether large or small, there are always actions you can take to break through barriers!

GTGMT17 – 5 Ways To SuperSize Your Life

January 18, 2014 3 comments







McDonald’s does it, why shouldn’t you? Life is filled with choices; why not choose to live life in a more satisfying way.

1. Say Yes to Life. “Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create the fact.” -Henry James

Saying yes to life allows wonderful blessings to come to you. Say yes to opportunity and success. Say yes to a life that you live by your standards. Say yes to making your own decisions and not seeking approval of others. Say yes to a fulfilling and rewarding career. Say yes to a relationship that energizes, supports and stimulates you. Say yes to a promising future. Say yes to living without guilt, resentment or regrets. Say yes to spending more time on your self-improvement. Say yes to living an authentic life. Say yes to taking chances and freeing yourself from fear. Say yes to happiness and achievements. Say yes to a well-lived life.

2. Love Yourself and Others Unconditionally. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude; it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs…..” I Corinthians 13: 3, 5)

When was the last time you loved without hesitation or caution? Withholding love as a means of control only leads to distrust and resentment. Loving unconditionally means loving without judgment. Free yourself from unrealistic expectations and accept the person you love for who they are. Do not expect your needs and wants to be fulfilled by someone else. Allow those you love to express themselves without fear of rejection. Do not punish yourself or loved ones for past mistakes. People use the word love very loosely, but do not stop to think of the implications of using the word. Take the time to be responsible in how you show love. Allow yourself to love and be loved.

3. Take Risks “There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” – Anais Nin

Everything in life involves a risk. Are you allowing fear of rejection and failure to dictate your life? Fear inhibits success. Take chances and free yourself from limiting beliefs. Taking risks empowers you to take charge of your life. Be curious about life; experiment and try new things. Set goals for yourself and take action. Step out of what is safe, comfortable and familiar to you. Examine what feelings emerge when you are thinking about taking a risk. Ask yourself, “What am I afraid of?” Concealing yourself in a safe container prevents you from exploring other possibilities. Embrace the unknown and anticipate success. You will never know the outcome if you don’t take the risk.

4. Make the Impossible, Possible “The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”- Winston Churchill

Think it can’t happen; then it won’t. It is possible to get through the difficult times in life. Learn from failures and take responsibility for your life. Listening to your inner critic can sabotage your dreams. Silence the critic by reaffirming all the things you are capable of doing. Dream big and be excited about your future. Find and release your untapped talents. Believe in your abilities and discover what you have to offer the world. Think about all the things you can’t do and try to do them. Think back to a time, when something was difficult and you were able to overcome the challenge. Continuing to live life in a safe container doesn’t help you gain anything in life. Take the necessary actions to achieve your goals. Stop assuming and start achieving!

5. Make Your Life Really Count. “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.” – Annie Dillard

What’s your legacy? How do you want to be remembered? The life you live defines who you are and the choices you make will determine what impact you will have on the lives of others. Never underestimate the power of your words and actions. You were uniquely created to make a contribution to the world. It is your right and your obligation to make your mark in this world. Surround yourself with people who are supportive, positive and encouraging. Show appreciation and gratitude to those around you. If you have a message to share, then share it with the world. Staying small and thinking small will not get you where you need to be in life.

Starting today, this year, have a new perspective on life. Start a new chapter in your life.

GTGMT 6 – 6 Ways To Motivate Yourself To Take Action

January 8, 2014 Leave a comment


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Taking action towards your dreams and goals is clearly vital, but it’s not always easy to stay consistent and build momentum. However, taking action is one of those important pieces to the puzzle along with proper planning and the drive to succeed. Those that take action are the ones that see results.

How do you motivate yourself to continue working toward your goals, especially when you face challenges? Although some strategies will motivate you more than others, it’s good to experiment with several different ways of finding your motivation. Then, when the chips are down, you can depend on one of these strategies to get back on track.

Try these techniques to motivate yourself to take action:

1. Break your goals into smaller, attainable steps. Especially if you’re working toward a bigger goal, break it up into a series of small steps that you know you can achieve. After each step, celebrate and reward yourself for a job well done. With small steps, you’ll be more likely to stay on task because your rewards come often.

2. Know your limits. You know yourself best and only you can identify your personal limits. If you move too slowly, you’ll know deep down that you could be taking more action. However, when you try to do too much, you risk burnout. Figure out that magic point where you can achieve success without much stress, and you’ll remain motivated to keep taking action.

3. Take away your distractions. There are some things that might be more likely to distract you than others. Remove yourself from these situations when you know that you need to be taking action.

* For example, if you’re a social person, perhaps you’ll need to stay away from friends and family during the times you want to work. Also, avoid surfing the net, video games, and television when it’s time to work.

4. Ask for the help you need. Don’t be afraid to get help from others. There’s only so much you can accomplish in one day all by yourself. It’s true that sometimes you’ll have to accomplish certain things on your own, but if there’s any way at all that someone else can help, consider that possibility and ask them.

5. Find an activity that energizes you. Sometimes you’ll find that there’s a period in the day where you go into a slump. Maybe you have trouble starting your engines in the morning, or perhaps it’s the afternoon that causes you to feel sluggish.

* In these times, find some activity to re-motivate and energize you. One thing that can energize you is a good exercise routine. It’ll get your heart rate up and send fresh oxygen to your brain. This will refresh you, help you think more clearly, and make you feel more like doing your work.

6. Keep a tight schedule. A good schedule and organized plan will help keep you motivated and on track. In the beginning phases of planning your goals, be very specific when deciding what you need to do and when. This way, when you complete a step, you won’t have to spend time figuring out what you’re supposed to do next.

If you want to succeed, you can do it through purposeful action. Just think about what you’ve done to accomplish goals in the past. Chances are you had a plan and followed through. It might not always be easy, but when you remain motivated, you’ll reach whatever goal you set out to accomplish!

Note: This is an excerpt from the full “Got To Get Myself Together!” 45 Days Challenge.

The Company You Keep – Do Friends Hold You Back

October 2, 2013 Leave a comment

667-Space-800x600What kind of people do you hang out with? Do you feel you’re losing connection with them because you’re into self growth and development and they aren’t? Are you striving to make improvements in your life, but somehow can’t seem to get your momentum going? What’s holding you back?

Sometimes, in personal growth you’re faced with the question of why you hold yourself back. The answer can be simple or it can be very complex and often a deep-seeded issue. You may think there’s something wrong with you.

It’s been said that your personality and your financial situation will match your five closest friends. Look around and see if that’s where you want to be or if you want to have more than that. It’s likely that you do want more or you wouldn’t be working so hard on yourself. However, you may unconsciously be holding yourself back from fear of leaving them behind. Or maybe it bothers you that they may not see you as the same when you reach a certain level of success. In reality, you won’t be the same. You will be a better person. Anyone who deliberately tries to hold you back, by making snide remarks or even making fun of you, isn’t really your friend.

It’s hard to leave people behind when you’ve grown beyond them. However, it’s not your responsibility to pull them along unless they want to follow your lead. Life is about growth and changes. If your current friends are content to remain where they are, you need to think about yourself and where you want to be. This is not a selfish act. It is merely striving to be the best you can. You know you want more in life. You know you can do better in life. Stop letting your friends or even your past with them stand in your way.

It’s possible that some of them will be very proud of you and your accomplishments. Some of them may stop being friends with you. That only opens the door for other friends to step in. You will not end up friend-less, you will find other friends that are more aligned with your new personality and your new ideals.

The people who really care about you will support you. Those who get angry and stop speaking to you are the ones being selfish. It’s likely that they don’t want to put forth the effort to change themselves, so it becomes easier if they try to hold you back.

Take a good inventory of your friends and decide who supports you and who doesn’t. Value the ones who support you and let go of the ones who don’t. You’ll be much happier and have less worries in the long run.

It will be difficult in the beginning. You may even grieve for these lost friends, but holding yourself back from your destination or your destiny will only make you feel worse. Strive for the best, strive to be your best. You will find new friends who support you in your endeavors.

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