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Patience Day 30 -Reflect On How Far You’ve Come And Where To Go From Here

September 18, 2018 Leave a comment
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Reflect Back Over The Last 30 Days

Let’s take a quick walk down memory lane and browse through all the different topics we covered over the past 29 days. Here’s a quick rundown:

1. Welcome And How Patient Are You?
2. What Exactly Is Patience?
3. The Importance Of Becoming A More Patient Person
4. Patience Is A Skill – Practice Helps
5. Quick Patience Tip – Count To Ten
6. Patience Is A Virtue! Or Is It?
7. 5 Signs That You’re An Impatient Person
8. Get In The Habit Of Realizing When Patience Is In Order (Part 1)
9. Get In The Habit Of Realizing When Patience Is In Order (Part 2)
10. Reflect On When You’ve Been Too Impatient
11. Times To Be Patient vs. Times To Act
12. Using Visualization Exercises To Help With Patience
13. 3 Things You Must Do After An Impatient Outburst
14. The Physical Side Of Impatience
15. The Physical Side Of Impatience
16. Create Awareness About Losing Your Patience
17. Pinpoint What’s Causing You To Lose Your Cool
18. How To Avoid Emotional Explosion Infographic
19. Scriptures On Patience
20. Give Yourself A Time Out To Recoup Your Patience
21. Give Yourself A Time Out To Recoup Your Patience
22. Meditate Your Way To Patience
23. Why Do You Feel Rushed?
24. Build Cushions Into Your Daily Schedule To Make Time For Patience
25. Selah! – Rest Day
26. How Gratitude & Thankfulness Can Make You More Patient
27. Get Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable
28. It’s Ok To Act Patient Until You Develop It
29. Patience Is A Choice
30. Reflect On How Far You’ve Come And Where To Go From Here

We’ve reached the end of our journey. I can’t believe it! I hope this time together has been as enjoyable for you as it’s been for me. More than that, it’s my hope that you now feel you possess the information and tools you need to become a more patient person. We’ve covered a lot over the past month.

We started off our journey by defining patience and talking about why it’s important. Beginning with an understanding of the concept and a strong framework is necessary to continue learning. We then discovered some tangible tools and techniques to put in place in order to begin to demonstrate more patience and to calm down when you’re feeling frustrated.

It was early in our time together that I first introduced the idea that patience is a skill that can be learned. Because it’s so essential to the process, we re-visited the idea toward the end of our 30 days. It’s empowering to know that patience can be learned, practiced and improved upon. You aren’t a bad person or less worthy simply because patience doesn’t come easily to you.

In addition, we learned about some of the things that cause us to feel less patient. Personal triggers are a big problem for some of us. Knowing what triggers you is essential to overcoming it when you feel it happen. Feeling less rushed and more gratitude are also practices that can reduce your tendency to feel impatient.

Finally, we looked at your motivations to want to become more patient. These are all very personal to you. Knowing and acknowledging them can push you to move forward on your journey of learning ways to become more patient. Recognize that this won’t happen overnight. Bring out your list of reasons when you feel like giving up.

Assignment Day 30:

Take a few minutes today to reflect on not only how far you’ve come, but more importantly how this simple 30 day challenge has influenced you and changed you for the better.

What has had the biggest impact on you?

What tips and ideas have you found the most helpful? Those are the posts that you want to go back to again and again.

What positive experiences have you had as a result of the information you’ve gained?

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Patience Day 23 -Why Do You Feel Rushed?

September 11, 2018 Leave a comment
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Why Do You Feel Rushed?

If you’re like most people in today’s hectic world, you often feel pressed for time. We have a lot of obligations. In addition, we’ve become pressed to multi-task much more in the digital age. This can leave us in a state of constant urgency, and that’s no good for our health. Both our emotional condition and physical state are compromised when living on high alert. Let’s examine some ways to deal with this ever-present issue.

Become Comfortable with Discomfort

One of the keys to overcoming this need to hurry all the time is to actually learn to deal with how uncomfortable you feel when something has slowed you down. Learning to sit quietly when you’re in line at the store, stuck in traffic or otherwise in a place you’d rather not be is something that will help you tremendously in the long run. Practice just being, without the aid of your smartphone or a magazine to keep you occupied. You’ll soon find yourself feeling less impatient.

Focus on One Thing at a Time

While multi-tasking has become a way of life these days, experts have indicated it’s not an especially productive strategy. Practice doing just one thing at a time and giving it your undivided attention. This focus will likely help you to get more done and to feel more accomplished, leading you to also feel less rushed.

Put Limits on Screen Time

I’m a big fan of electronic devices and social media. I am. However, I also know that along with the benefits they offer can come some significant drawbacks. One of these is that you can become a slave to your devices if you’re not proactive in putting a stop to it. Try to give yourself a time limit for each social media visit and don’t answer every email as it arrives in your inbox. By choosing when and how much time you will engage in these activities, you’ll start to notice less of an urgent need to be readily available.

When tempted to pick up your smartphone or log into your computer, try choosing a different activity. Go for a walk. Call a friend. Clean your living room. You’ll start to see less dependence on your devices also.

Cut Down Your To-Do List

Much of our hurry is self-imposed. You are the only one who can help in these situations. Take inventory of the things you think you “have” to do. Try to find ways to cut some of them off your list. By lessening your obligations, you’re bound to feel less rushed and pressured. This is one act that might help the most.

Give these suggestions a try if you think you’re feeling too rushed lately. Lowering your sense of urgency will go far toward increasing your patience levels.

Assignment Day 23: Answer These Questions. Use Your Journal to Record Your Answers

  1. Why do you feel rushed, and what can you do about it?
  2. What role does this sense of always battling the clock have on our overall patience?

 

 

 

 

Patience Day 19- Scriptures on Patience

September 7, 2018 Leave a comment
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Here are some scriptures on patience to help ease your evening before you take your sleep rest for the night.

Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick-tempered displays folly.
Proverbs 14:29 | NIV |

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.
Ephesians 4:2 | NIV |

Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.
Romans 12:12 | NIV |

Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city.
Proverbs 16:32 | NIV |

Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; do not fret when people succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes.
Psalm 37:7 | NIV |

Be always humble, gentle, and patient. Show your love by being tolerant with one another.
(Ephesians 4:2)

Hot tempers cause arguments, but patience brings peace.
(Proverbs 15:18)

Let your hope keep you joyful, be patient in your troubles, and pray at all times.
(Romans 12:12)

 

 

 

 

Patience Day 10 – Reflect On When You’ve Been Too Impatient

August 29, 2018 Leave a comment

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It’s a fact of life. Sometimes we’re going to be impatient, and we’re also going to feel bad about it. Perhaps we’ve hurt someone’s feelings due to our lack of patience or maybe we’ve made a fool of ourselves because we let our frustration get the best of us. It happens. We’re only human. It’s what you do about these lapses that really matters. Let’s take a look at how to reflect on what you’ve been too impatient and how to handle such situations.

Recognize Impatience Has Occurred

First, it’s important to recognize your impatient transgression. Sometimes it can be tempting to just push such things under the rug, but doing so rarely helps us to do better in the future. It’s when we acknowledge our weaknesses or mistakes that we can correct them. So take time to admit what has happened so that you can deal with it. You definitely need to admit the issue to yourself. It can also be helpful to admit your mistake to others if you’ve hurt someone or caused hard feelings.

Reflect on the Incident

Once you’ve recognized what you’ve done, the next step is to reflect upon it. Think about the underlying reasons you might have acted so impatiently. Consider how you were feeling at the time, whether there were specific things that triggered you and if this might be a pattern you encounter often. The more questions you can answer for yourself, the better you will be at resolving the problem and getting better at avoiding such un-pleasantries in the future.

Make Amends

If you have hurt someone’s feelings, you really should take time to apologize. You’ll feel better, and so will they. In addition, you’ll be letting go of any negative feelings that may hold in a pattern of continuing to exhibit such behaviors in the future. It’s easier to make change when you’ve freed yourself from the burden of regrets. Starting with a clean slate will let you move on in a positive manner.

Plan for the Future

Finally, you need to learn from your mistakes and plan for ways to avoid making the same ones in the future.

Assignment Day 10

Write down the specific things you have done wrong that caused some impatience in your life.

Beside each one, make a note of what you could have done better. This is a fantastic exercise for gaining perspective and for making real, lasting change. Seeing your proposed actions steps on paper is a powerful tool for pushing you forward along your journey to do better.

Follow these steps when you feel you’ve been impatient. Doing so will feel so much better than wallowing in your regret or simply trying to forget about the incident. The hard work of self-reflection is all a part of your journey to becoming a more patient person

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Every Day Is A Fresh Start!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Patience Day 7 – 5 Signs That You’re An Impatient Person

August 26, 2018 Leave a comment

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You’re taking part in this challenge, so it’s likely you want to improve upon your level of patience. However, do you consider yourself to be an impatient person? It can be difficult to see ourselves in a less-than-pleasant light and to actually admit to our weaknesses. However, self-improvement requires honest introspection. You don’t have to tell anyone else, but it’s good for you to be able to admit to yourself if you could use some work in this area. So here are five signs you may be an impatient person.

You Rarely Live in the Moment

Are you always looking ahead to tomorrow, next month or someday? Failing to live in the moment may be an indicator of impatience. You want great things to happen, and you want them now. While that’s understandable, it’s also not very realistic. I suppose this may be a case for the saying of, “Good things come to those who wait.” It’s very unlikely that you’ll get what you want immediately, so learning to deal with the discomfort of waiting will definitely help to make your life a lot easier. Plus, it’s just more fun to enjoy the here and now. Otherwise, you’re missing out on some great stuff.

You Get Angry Over Little Things

Do you find yourself losing your temper frequently? That can have disastrous results on your health, your mental state, your job and your relationships. If you get mad a lot, consider the reasons. It could be that you’re not very patient, and you’re becoming frustrated when things don’t immediate happen as you’d like them to. Gaining some perspective and learning to employ patience can truly help you to overcome a lot of your agitation.

You Interrupt

Are you constantly interrupting others so you can make your point? It may not be that you think what they have to say isn’t important. You probably are just so impatient to make your own contribution to the conversation that you find it hard to resist jumping in. Frequent interrupting is definitely a sign of impatience and is one small area you can begin to work on.

You Lack Empathy

This one may be hard to admit. Impatient people sometimes lack empathy for what others are going through. They find themselves being frustrated with people instead of trying to relate to them and figure out why they’re behaving as they are. If you find yourself being critical of those around you quite frequently, consider whether this is a sign you could stand to work on your patience.

You Hate Wasting Time

Does the idea of wasting even a minute of time make you cranky? Impatient folks often despise being anything other than efficient as they go about their day. Time wasted is seen as opportunity lost. If this is you, it’s important to understand that not everyone is on your time table. They aren’t likely to view things in the same way. What’s important to you may seem rather insignificant to them. People don’t mean to be inconsiderate when you perceive them as slowing you down or wasting your time. Go easy on them and try to decide what absolutely must get done now and what can wait a bit.

Do you see yourself in any of these five signs? If so, you may be an impatient person. You now have a starting point or two to begin practicing more patience.

Assignment Day 7:

How do you feel about what you are learning about patience and what you are learning about yourself as a patient or impatient person?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Revive Me Again, O Lord!

July 23, 2018 3 comments

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It has been some time since I have written on my blog. This year so far has been one that has required me to focus on others. My dad had some medical challenges at the beginning of the year and I did some traveling with him to make sure he would be okay (not to mention I got a trip out of it). He still has some challenge with getting his blood count number up, but things seem to be going well. If you know of any foods he can eat to bring the number up, please post below. I will be very appreciative for any information that will help him. 

After doctor appointments and several trips (fun trips!), I find myself saying the words that can be found in Psalm 51:10-12, “Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a loyal spirit within me. Do not banish me from your presence,  and don’t take your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of your salvation, and make me willing to obey you.”

I know my life’s purpose and assignment and my prayer now is to be restore with joy and renewed with a loyal spirit.  I love my family, but it is mid-July and time for me to regroup and refocus on what I am suppose to be doing in the earth. I have a trip planned in September that will bring a “time of refreshing” opportunity so that I can “get myself together!”

Keep me in your prayers as I finish this year strong and on top.

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The Power Of Choice In Relationships

October 6, 2013 Leave a comment

The power of choice is the “ability” to “select” one thing rather than another. “Choose you this day whom you will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord (Joshua 24:15).” Some relationships are chosen based on the “other gods.” The gods of loneliness, fear of being alone, fear of being rejected and wanting to be accepted. People who have these feelings and fears usually involve themselves with others that appear to satisfy their unhealthy emotional needs. Unfortunately, these relationship choices compound the problem leaving more damage than deliverance, leaving more hurt than happiness, and more pain than pleasure. People making these choices in relationships are usually making their choices from a feeling of powerlessness rather than from a position of power. The power of choice is only effective in the life of the person who is “free to choose.”

Free To Choose

For the power of choice to be effective in your life, you must be free to choose. Choices are made in your mind. The Bible admonishes you in I Chronicles 28:9 to serve God with a perfect heart and a willing mind. Also, the Bible assures you in 2 Corinthians 3:17 “where the Spirit of the Lord is there is liberty [freedom].” There is a generosity of grace, you are no longer subject to the bondage of corruption. It is hard to make godly choices without God and it is hard to be liberated if your mind is not free.

To be “free” means to open wide, loose, release, untied, unshackled and liberated. Simply said, your mind is not secluded and isolated because of an “issue of life” or and event that occurred in your life, which has caused it to be in a “shackled” or “locked” position. A position where it is not expanding or growing, it is immovable.

In a shackled position the only thing that your mind can do is function off of the information that was in it when it became shackled. It can’t function off future knowledge because the shackles won’t allow any new knowledge to come in. It can’t function effectively off existing knowledge because the shackles don’t allow for growth and expansion; therefore, lessons are hardly ever learned from experiences.

In order to free your mind, you will have to use God’s mighty weapons to knock down and unlock the devil’s strongholds as the Bible teaches in 2 Corinthians 10:4. The New Living Translations says it clearly, “With these weapons we break down every proud argument that keeps people from knowing God. With these weapons we conquer their rebellious ideas, and we teach them to obey Christ.” The King James Version says, “Casting down vain imaginations [thoughts still in the mind].”

You can free your mind by casting down vain imaginations with the weapons of God, which are the Word of God and the Power of the Holy Spirit. Your mind must be free in God in order to make the right decisions and choices in life.

You are free to choose when you decide to trust God instead of yourself.

You can read more about choosing right relationships in the study manual “Friends, Foes, and Fellow Christians.”

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