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How To Develop A Motivated Mindset

From time to time, each of us will find ourselves in a rut of boredom and disinterest. We seem to lose our zest for life and feel tired, irritable and unmotivated. We want to hide under the covers rather than face the day. Perhaps you’re feeling overwhelmed by work, or sad about the pain and suffering in the world, or just bored with the routine of your daily life.  

You are not alone. We all go through periods like this at some point. The good news is that we can do something about it. Here are some tips to help break out of the rut and feel excited about life again:  

1) Take a “Time Out” – Prolonged stress can wear us down and zap any enthusiasm we once had. Before doing anything else, take a few minutes to breathe and just BE. Empty your mind of all stress and worry. This takes practice, but don’t give up! As thoughts come into your mind, gently push them back out and continue to keep your mind empty and calm. Take slow, deep breaths and let all of your muscles relax. Sit quietly and recharge your batteries. Try to do this daily, or even twice daily (morning and night). We need quiet time as much as we need anything else in life. Give yourself the gift of inner peace 

2) Get Inspired – Read something motivational, inspirational or uplifting. Look at some beautiful nature photos, or read something humorous. Consciously move your thoughts to a more positive place. Focusing on nothing but work and our daily tasks in life can leave us feeling pretty uninspired. It’s easy to turn it around if we want to. We just have to seek out things that will lift our spirits and our moods. Make it a point to laugh, be happy, joyful and lighthearted each day. Don’t wait for inspiration to come knocking on your door, go out and find it, or create it. Conjure up some funny or touching memories. Write them in a journal so you can go back and read them when you’re feeling down.  

3) Get Excited – Think about the things you have planned for the day, and rekindle the enthusiasm you once felt for them. When we first begin a new project, or start a new job, we are excited about the possibilities and eager to get moving! Over time, we can lose that enthusiasm for a variety of reasons. Travel back in time for a Happymoment, and think about what got you so excited at the beginning. What made your heart beat a little faster? Recapture that feeling and hang onto it! Even if your tasks aren’t anything to be really excited about, at least think of some positive benefits to doing them. For example, list the ways they will benefit your children, your spouse, yourself, your job or your home. Identify the payoff, and focus on that. Even mundane tasks have some benefits. Sometimes, it’s just a matter of switching our mindset to see the positive side 

4) Baby Steps – Sometimes the hardest part is actually getting started. A project seems so monstrous that we cringe at the thought of all that time and energy we’ll have to expend. Instead of overwhelming yourself, start small. Set a timer for 15 minutes and just start working on it. Allow yourself to stop after 15 minutes if you really want to. But most often, once we actually start working on something, we won’t want to stop. Don’t focus on the big picture, look at the smaller details and take them on one at a time. Any large task seems manageable once we break it down into smaller steps.  

5) Care of the Body – Sometimes our feelings of fatigue are caused by physical deficiencies, not mental. Be sure you are getting enough rest, eating food that nourishes your body, drinking enough water, getting enough exercise, etc. Especially when we’re very busy, we tend to grab the quickest, easiest meals, which aren’t always the best choice for our bodies. Eating a lot of highly processed foods and sugar is like putting watered-down gasoline into our cars. In order for our cars to run smoothly, we need to maintain them properly, and so it is with our bodies also. Remember, the body is the vehicle for the mind and soul!   

Finally, remember to reward yourself from time to time, and be gentle with yourself! There will always be things that “need” to be done. But some of us take on way more than we can handle, and our lives turn into a pit of drudgery because of it. Try to eliminate the things that truly don’t bring you joy, or at least minimize the time you spend on them. Do what you can, and let the rest go. Or ask for help. Don’t feel you have to do everything yourself.

 Remember that motivation, just like happiness, is something we CHOOSE. We may need to give ourselves a little push at the beginning, but once we get into the right mindset, it’s simple to stay there if we choose to.

 

 

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5 Tips on Creating A Happy Family

Family Reunion 2015

Family Reunion 2015

Davis Sisters 2015

Davis Sisters 2015

Many families now are suffering from issues such as separation, divorce, turmoil and even domestic violence. So how are you going to make your family a happy one? Here are five simple tips.

  • Focus on teamwork

In any successful sports team, teamwork is extremely important and forms the backbone of the team. A happy family need that too. You could start by doing simple things together like chores and move on to planning a vacation together. If your child has a problem at school, both parents can sit down together and try to solve the problem together.

  • Spend time together

Try allocating time everyday to spend some quality family time together. Try having activities together like a jog in the park or game night on Friday where all of you can sit down together and play board games.

Family together in New Orleans, La

Family together in New Orleans, La

  • Enjoy each other’s company.

While spending time with each other, don’t treat it as a chore. You need to learn to enjoy each other’s company. When you enjoy each other’s company, it creates a happier and enjoyable environment at home.

Ginger London and Tremekia Dabney (cousin)

Ginger London and Tremekia Dabney (cousin)

* Have dinner together

This may sound simple but families hardly do it! The parents might come home late or the children may be busy with their after school activities. You need to start doing this. Family dinners are absolutely essential. When you eat together, you will be able to spend time together and know how each other days went. You may learn what went on during school and you can tell them what happen in yours. So you are actually encouraging your kids to share.

  • Be understanding.

Try to be understanding of each other. You need to accept each other for all your talents and limitations. By understanding each other it will create an environment of warmth and trust.

Most importantly, you need to remember, friends may come and go, but your family will always be there for you. So start creating your happy family now.

Dad, Me, and Mom

Dad, Me, and Mom

The Truth About Procrastination Infographic

October 16, 2014 Leave a comment
Teaching and Coaching Ministry of Ginger London, MA, BCC

Teaching and Coaching Ministry of Ginger London, MA, BCC

Striving For Excellence In Ministry D3 – Understanding Excellence In Ministry

October 4, 2014 Leave a comment

Ministry Excellence

1 Corinthians 15:58 (The Message Bible)“With all this going for us, my dear, dear friends, stand your ground. And don’t hold back. Throw yourselves into the work of the Master, confident that nothing you do for him is a waste of time or effort.”

1 Corinthians 15:58 (NIV), “Therefore, my dear brothers and sisters, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.”

Excellence in ministry is a prevailing mindset that motivates you to always choose to be and do your best, giving attention to detail which gives birth to your full potential, doing greater works, without compromising any standards of righteousness.

There are five enemies to excellence:
1. Comparison
2. Compromise
3. Corrupt Communication
4. Inconsistency
5. Cheap Mentality

 
The Law of Excellence says that you must have an uncompromised progressive commitment to quality and outstanding performance at the highest and best of your ability which causes success acceleration, speaks in your absence, summons attention, and is the source of attraction for your life and ministry. The reason for development of excellence must be established above and beyond natural reward or human praise.

The conditions that I am willing to tolerate speaks volume about who I really am. To walk in excellence, I must abandon all excuses for a mediocre lifestyle.

Excellence is not what you do, but who you are.

Day 3 Assignment:

1. How focused are you in ministry (business, life)?

GTGMT Relationship 3 – New Relationship? 5 Tips to Reduce the Stress

February 8, 2014 Leave a comment

Black Love

New relationships usually spark excitement because they provide a brand new angle on life for you to take advantage of.

Your natural curiosity as a human being makes you anxious to see just what this new relationship is all about. As thrilling as this may be, however, new relationships also invariably bring along new stresses.

Use these tips to reduce that stress:

1.   Remember to embrace the real you. Try not to alter your actions, behaviors or beliefs to fall in line with expectations of the other person. The pressure to please others can be great, especially if you want the relationship to work, but avoid compromising who you really are. Such compromises can cause a great deal of unnecessary stress.

  •  Be true to yourself. If that isn’t what the other person is looking for, move on.
  • Know that you’re fabulous just as you are and avoid allowing the other person’s opinion of you to force you to try to change.

2.   Be honest about your feelings. Your feelings are true to who you are, and you should always try to stand behind them. Being honest about your feelings is the best way to start a trend of being honest in a relationship. The more upfront you are about how you feel, the more respect you’ll get from the other person, and the less stressful you’ll feel.

  •  If you don’t like when something is done in a particular way, just say it. Both of you will either agree to disagree, or decide there’s no room for compromise or meeting halfway.
  • If the person’s actions make you happy, say it. That’s the best way to provide reassurance that things are going smoothly.

3.   Let things flow naturally. Try not to force the relationship into new stages before it is ready. Just enjoying getting to know each other and letting the relationship build at its own speed is the stress-free way to progress.

4.   Take the time to get to know the person. It’s important that as you spend time together, you make the effort to truly know the person you’re with. What are their likes and dislikes? What makes them happy or upset? What are their beliefs? How compatible are both of you, really?

  •  Simply wondering about these important matters can cause undue stress, so find out what your inquiring mind wants to know!

5.   Be optimistic. Going into a new relationship with a positive outlook, instead of telling yourself that it’s probably not going to work out, keeps you from stressing yourself out about the whole situation. Also, it enables you to focus on (and enjoy) what’s good about the relationship rather than agonizing over every detail.

Your ultimate objective is to build relationships with others that truly work. Of course, there will be times when things don’t go as you would like them to, but that doesn’t mean that they can’t be corrected along the way.

The stress of a new relationship doesn’t have to be a burden. Instead, use these tips to reduce your new relationship stress and build a stronger bond as well.

GTGMT Relationship 2 – All My Relationships Are Loving and Harmonious – Self-Reflection Exercise

February 8, 2014 Leave a comment

Black Love

All my relationships are loving and harmonious.

I have such wonderful relationships. I understand that the key to harmony is communication, so I make it a point to communicate effectively and compassionately with everyone I know. I only enter into relationships that are healthy and beneficial to me.

My relationships are full of love because I have caring people in my life. I show my love toward them, too. I have a genuine interest in others and want them to be happy.

At work, I remain professional, but I reach out to others. My clients, co-workers, and boss know that they can trust me. I feel comfortable with all of these people. My work place is loving and harmonious.

At home, I regularly ask myself what I can do to strengthen my relationships. I accept that positive relationships require daily time and effort. It is 100% worth it. Good relationships make life worth living.

With my friends, I strive to be understanding, even when it is challenging. Everyone is different and has his or her own needs and challenges. I am always kind and considerate. My relationships with my friends are very important to me.

Today, I choose to do what I can to make all of my relationships even better. I choose to be open, supportive, compassionate, and loving to everyone in my life.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What can I do to strengthen my relationships?
2. How can I be a better friend and partner?
3. Why are my relationships important to me?

GTGMT 28 – Tell The Truth

January 29, 2014 1 comment

 

Have you ever come across the type of person that you felt you just couldn’t trust for some reason? You didn’t know exactly what it was, but he just wasn’t on the level. Or how about the type of person who always has a story, it’s just not a story you believe. Most of us have come across those types – they’re easy to spot because they’re obvious. The truth is, though, we all have some “masking” in us.

As we were growing up and forming our ideas about how to act safely in this world, we all began to wear masks in varying degrees. We say and do the socially acceptable things, and we defer to people in authority over us, no matter what our age. We’ve been doing it for so long and it’s so automatic, that many of us have no idea what we really think or feel. We do it because we don’t want to be rejected by others and because we’re not so sure about ourselves to begin with.

These masks keep us safe. They also imprison us. All of our “shoulds” and “have to’s” and “ought to’s” obscure who we really are. Some people are afraid of repercussions if they decide to be more authentically themselves. But authenticity is not a license to be boorish, and most people know that, so fear of repercussions is invalid. A few people may be threatened by your authenticity in and of itself, but more people will probably welcome it, and studies have shown that the more authentic you are, the more authentic people you attract.

The more people trust themselves and are comfortable with themselves, the more authentic they become in what they say and in their behavior. The more people give up their masks, the more they can explore and celebrate their real self. This releases all the energy that went into maintaining their masks so that it can be put into celebrating their lives.

Do a little investigating into what you think and feel. Is an authentic? Is it working well for you? Is it time to replace those old thoughts and feelings with more authentic ones, ones that represent who you really are. 

We are all changing and growing all the time. Choose the beliefs, feelings, and values that are real for you now. You will be freer, more alive, and happier.

 

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