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GTGMT Relationship 2 – All My Relationships Are Loving and Harmonious – Self-Reflection Exercise

February 8, 2014 Leave a comment

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All my relationships are loving and harmonious.

I have such wonderful relationships. I understand that the key to harmony is communication, so I make it a point to communicate effectively and compassionately with everyone I know. I only enter into relationships that are healthy and beneficial to me.

My relationships are full of love because I have caring people in my life. I show my love toward them, too. I have a genuine interest in others and want them to be happy.

At work, I remain professional, but I reach out to others. My clients, co-workers, and boss know that they can trust me. I feel comfortable with all of these people. My work place is loving and harmonious.

At home, I regularly ask myself what I can do to strengthen my relationships. I accept that positive relationships require daily time and effort. It is 100% worth it. Good relationships make life worth living.

With my friends, I strive to be understanding, even when it is challenging. Everyone is different and has his or her own needs and challenges. I am always kind and considerate. My relationships with my friends are very important to me.

Today, I choose to do what I can to make all of my relationships even better. I choose to be open, supportive, compassionate, and loving to everyone in my life.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What can I do to strengthen my relationships?
2. How can I be a better friend and partner?
3. Why are my relationships important to me?

4 Strong Qualities Of Genuine Friendships

October 7, 2013 2 comments
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Close Friends

According to Webster’s Dictionary “friend” is defined as one attached to another by affection and esteem; an intimate association.

Life long friendships, the ones that are lasting, will require good relating skills. The people involved will have to agree to being attached to one another by affection and commit to highly esteeming the other. A life long friendship will take a lifetime of practice. It will require treating others the way you want to be treated and relating to others the way God relates to you.

There are four strong qualities of strong friendships: interest, love, sympathy, and sacrifice.

1. Interest is when the inner souls of the friends are knitted together. In 1 Samuel 18:1 Jonathan’s soul was knitted to David’s soul. They instantly became friends. There will be a common thread between friends.

2. Love is the most powerful force in the universe. Love in friendships is expressed through trust, shared confidences, and kept promises. Jesus said in John 13:34, “A new covenant I give unto you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.” The expression of love in friendships requires that we love and relate to one another as God relates to us.

3. Sympathy in relationships and friendships is a genuine concern for the other person. It is shown by being there in a time of need with an understanding heart and willing hands to help through trying times and joyful times of a friend’s life. Sympathy is also expressed through a listening ear for a troubled heart.

4. Sacrifice in friendships is shown when you recognize that there will be times when you put your friend’s needs before your own. There will be times when your friend will need you to lay down some of your plans, ideas and agendas to help him/her. As a friend are you willing to do that? Jesus teaches the believers that sacrifice is the greatest love. “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for friends (John 15:13).”

When these four qualities are present and developed in a friendship/relationship you have built on a strong foundation that will sustain the friendship for a lifetime. The values of a strong foundation in friendships are: constructive criticism (Proverbs 27:6), helpful advice (Proverbs 27:7), and faithfulness (Proverbs 17:7). These values also help the friendship to past the tests of continued loyalty (2 Samuel 1:23), the willingness to sacrifice (John 15:13), an obedient spirit (John 15:14,15), and like-mindedness (Philippians 2:19-23).

The Power Of Choice In Relationships

October 6, 2013 Leave a comment

The power of choice is the “ability” to “select” one thing rather than another. “Choose you this day whom you will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord (Joshua 24:15).” Some relationships are chosen based on the “other gods.” The gods of loneliness, fear of being alone, fear of being rejected and wanting to be accepted. People who have these feelings and fears usually involve themselves with others that appear to satisfy their unhealthy emotional needs. Unfortunately, these relationship choices compound the problem leaving more damage than deliverance, leaving more hurt than happiness, and more pain than pleasure. People making these choices in relationships are usually making their choices from a feeling of powerlessness rather than from a position of power. The power of choice is only effective in the life of the person who is “free to choose.”

Free To Choose

For the power of choice to be effective in your life, you must be free to choose. Choices are made in your mind. The Bible admonishes you in I Chronicles 28:9 to serve God with a perfect heart and a willing mind. Also, the Bible assures you in 2 Corinthians 3:17 “where the Spirit of the Lord is there is liberty [freedom].” There is a generosity of grace, you are no longer subject to the bondage of corruption. It is hard to make godly choices without God and it is hard to be liberated if your mind is not free.

To be “free” means to open wide, loose, release, untied, unshackled and liberated. Simply said, your mind is not secluded and isolated because of an “issue of life” or and event that occurred in your life, which has caused it to be in a “shackled” or “locked” position. A position where it is not expanding or growing, it is immovable.

In a shackled position the only thing that your mind can do is function off of the information that was in it when it became shackled. It can’t function off future knowledge because the shackles won’t allow any new knowledge to come in. It can’t function effectively off existing knowledge because the shackles don’t allow for growth and expansion; therefore, lessons are hardly ever learned from experiences.

In order to free your mind, you will have to use God’s mighty weapons to knock down and unlock the devil’s strongholds as the Bible teaches in 2 Corinthians 10:4. The New Living Translations says it clearly, “With these weapons we break down every proud argument that keeps people from knowing God. With these weapons we conquer their rebellious ideas, and we teach them to obey Christ.” The King James Version says, “Casting down vain imaginations [thoughts still in the mind].”

You can free your mind by casting down vain imaginations with the weapons of God, which are the Word of God and the Power of the Holy Spirit. Your mind must be free in God in order to make the right decisions and choices in life.

You are free to choose when you decide to trust God instead of yourself.

You can read more about choosing right relationships in the study manual “Friends, Foes, and Fellow Christians.”

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