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Patience Day 7 – 5 Signs That You’re An Impatient Person

August 26, 2018 Leave a comment

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You’re taking part in this challenge, so it’s likely you want to improve upon your level of patience. However, do you consider yourself to be an impatient person? It can be difficult to see ourselves in a less-than-pleasant light and to actually admit to our weaknesses. However, self-improvement requires honest introspection. You don’t have to tell anyone else, but it’s good for you to be able to admit to yourself if you could use some work in this area. So here are five signs you may be an impatient person.

You Rarely Live in the Moment

Are you always looking ahead to tomorrow, next month or someday? Failing to live in the moment may be an indicator of impatience. You want great things to happen, and you want them now. While that’s understandable, it’s also not very realistic. I suppose this may be a case for the saying of, “Good things come to those who wait.” It’s very unlikely that you’ll get what you want immediately, so learning to deal with the discomfort of waiting will definitely help to make your life a lot easier. Plus, it’s just more fun to enjoy the here and now. Otherwise, you’re missing out on some great stuff.

You Get Angry Over Little Things

Do you find yourself losing your temper frequently? That can have disastrous results on your health, your mental state, your job and your relationships. If you get mad a lot, consider the reasons. It could be that you’re not very patient, and you’re becoming frustrated when things don’t immediate happen as you’d like them to. Gaining some perspective and learning to employ patience can truly help you to overcome a lot of your agitation.

You Interrupt

Are you constantly interrupting others so you can make your point? It may not be that you think what they have to say isn’t important. You probably are just so impatient to make your own contribution to the conversation that you find it hard to resist jumping in. Frequent interrupting is definitely a sign of impatience and is one small area you can begin to work on.

You Lack Empathy

This one may be hard to admit. Impatient people sometimes lack empathy for what others are going through. They find themselves being frustrated with people instead of trying to relate to them and figure out why they’re behaving as they are. If you find yourself being critical of those around you quite frequently, consider whether this is a sign you could stand to work on your patience.

You Hate Wasting Time

Does the idea of wasting even a minute of time make you cranky? Impatient folks often despise being anything other than efficient as they go about their day. Time wasted is seen as opportunity lost. If this is you, it’s important to understand that not everyone is on your time table. They aren’t likely to view things in the same way. What’s important to you may seem rather insignificant to them. People don’t mean to be inconsiderate when you perceive them as slowing you down or wasting your time. Go easy on them and try to decide what absolutely must get done now and what can wait a bit.

Do you see yourself in any of these five signs? If so, you may be an impatient person. You now have a starting point or two to begin practicing more patience.

Assignment Day 7:

How do you feel about what you are learning about patience and what you are learning about yourself as a patient or impatient person?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Patience Day 6 -Patience Is A Virtue! Or Is It?

August 26, 2018 Leave a comment

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Patience truly can be a virtue. It can assist you in a number of ways across various settings in your life. But are there times when being patience can actually be a hindrance? Yes, I believe there are. I think it’s important we address them so that you don’t find yourself getting stuck in any negative patterns in the name of being patient. Allow me to share with you just a handful of the things you may need to be wary of when it comes to your idea of patience. Don’t let patience be an excuse for any of these three things…..

  1. Missed Opportunities

“Good things come to those who wait.” This is not a phrase I’m terribly fond of. The reason is that those who wait may often be doing so out of negative emotions like fear or insecurity. When you settle in too patiently, you can sometimes miss out on a really great opportunity. It can be tempting to wait for just the right time or to tell yourself you’re being patient when, in reality, you’re giving into negative emotions and failing to leave your comfort zone. If there’s something you want and you find yourself waiting around to get it, I think it’s important to take some time for self-reflection. Ask yourself why it is you’re not taking action to go after what you desire. Be honest about those answers. Then take just one step toward your goal. You may just find yourself moving onto taking big leaps and going for your dreams.

  1. Hanging on Too Long

What about those times we hang onto things that are bad for us, just waiting for them to get better? I know I’ve fallen into that trap, and I imagine you have, too. Whether it’s an abusive relationship, a job you hate or something else entirely, you probably can identify a time you’ve stuck around waiting for someone or some situation to change. Again, this is a time for introspection. If you’re dealing with something like this right now, decide what’s keeping you from making a move. Then address the problem with proactive action. Being patient by relying on false hope is never in your best interest.

Scripture: Proverbs 13:12“Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life.”

     3. Becoming a Doormat

On a similar note, do you find yourself being far too patient with people who don’t seem to treat you with as much respect as you give them? That’s what’s known as being a doormat, and it’s no fun. Please understand that the character flaw is not yours; it belongs to those would take advantage of you. However, you do hold the power in this type of situation. Rather than sit around patiently accommodating others who don’t give you the same courtesy, try setting some boundaries. A simple “no” to an unwanted request can be an incredibly empowering tool.

These are some common ways patience can be less than a virtue. Be on the lookout for such traps. Be savvy and aware when you see them. Give yourself the power to let go of patience during these times and do what’s right for you.

Assignment Day 6:

1.  What opportunities have you missed in the act of “waiting patiently?”

2.  What area or areas of your life are you “hanging on too long?”

3.  Name the people in your life who disrespect you or who are using you as a doormat.    What do you plan to do about it?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Family Comes First

April 10, 2018 Leave a comment

 

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Sleep At The Family Reunion!!!!

 

This has been an interesting year so far. I made some new year’s commitments and set some goals for the first quarter and the rest of the year. Well, my father had some health challenges that took precedent over all other things. His medical challenges were more important than any business goals, any training I planned to host, and anything else. One thing I have learned over the last two years is family comes first. My mom and dad, brothers, sister, aunties, cousins and nieces and nephews are very important to me. How about you?

Can you truly say that you put your family first all of the time? If you don’t, there is no need to feel guilty. Many people unintentionally let other things get in the way when they shouldn’t. All that it takes to start putting your family first is a shift in your priorities.

A great example of this is when you start to work crazy hours. While your objective may be to provide those “extras” for your family, it results in you neglecting them. So you may come home with gifts and new toys, but is that what your family really wants? They would probably prefer to spend more time with you instead. Over the last 6 six years or so I have purposefully traveled with my parents on their bowling tournament trips, especially with my dad. When I travel with them, they go out of their way to make sure that I am having a good time.

One way to put your family first is by being there for them. When your son or daughter has a sports event, or is in the school play, make of point of attending. If a family member gets sick, help them out as much as possible. My God-mother, my mom’s sister, lives in New Orleans, Louisiana about 98 miles from where we live. Every chance I get I go to spend a couple of days with her in her home. She loves it! When I tell her that I am coming, she counts on it.

Creating stability within your family is a good way of putting your family first. Everyone loves to know that they have someone who they can count on. You can easily do this by creating family routines such as:

  • Regular dinner times
  • Chores for each family member
  • Set bed times
  • Movie night

Though, these things may sound trivial they are very important. By creating a structured routine you are also setting expectations for your family. They know that they are expected for dinner at 6pm each day. Or that every Saturday they have to spend an hour or two helping out with chores.

When you put your family first, each family member will start to follow suit. In turn this creates a caring family that will always be around for each other.

Family is important so don’t neglect yours. Yes, work and being social is important, but they shouldn’t always take precedence over your family.

Oh yeah! My next trip with my dad for one of his bowling tournaments is this May. We are going to Detroit, Michigan. We are driving (ha, ha, ha). He is doing much better, we are working on getting is blood numbers up again.

Your Inner Circle Can Make Or Break You

August 3, 2017 Leave a comment

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Inner Circle Challenge Day 4

Anyone who has ever attempted to reach a goal knows that the road to the end goal is often filled with challenges and changes. While this is necessary, it’s usually not easy, but the reward is becoming a better, stronger, more able person – whether your goal is business, or personal.

What makes the challenges and changes so much easier is to make sure your inner circle – those you spend the most time with – are aligned with your own values and goals. Why create dysfunction in your own life by surrounding yourself with those friends who don’t “get” what it is you’re working towards? It is better to envelop yourself with friends for whom working to attain new and exciting goals is a given.

There will be lots of negativity just waiting to break down your walls. This negativity can take the form of outside forces such as the people who are around you that don’t understand you. They will tell you that you can’t do what it is you desire. They’ll make sure you know all the reasons why it won’t work. What they really are is jealous – jealous that you’ve made the decision to grow and become something that right now, you are not.

Negativity could come from within you. You may want to reach your goals, but internally you don’t believe you can. Maybe the tasks seem daunting and you get overwhelmed.

And, negativity can come from things you have no control over, as well.

Who do you want surrounding you when you need support? Of course, you want people aligned to your purpose – people who will hold you up when things get rough, and when you believe you can’t do it, they’ll tell you that you can.

The one thing you don’t want to do is assume that your own willpower will suffice. This may be true, but why take the chance? What you need is to use your inner circle to help you build up your positive habits, celebrate your successes, and if failures happen, they’ll give you a shoulder to cry on, but then they’ll encourage you to get back to work!

This is one thing that all successful people have figured out for themselves… that by surrounding themselves with positive, uplifting, and supportive people who themselves are always reaching for growth, they will reach their own growth that much easier.

So, your inner circle can indeed make or break you. Make sure you choose wisely!

Challenge Assignment:

Do you have negative people around you? Who are they? What can you do right now to start eliminating the negative in your life?

 

Finding Your Inner Circle of People

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An inner circle of friends is an awesome way to create and maintain a harmonious and balanced life. But who makes up your valued inner circle may surprise you! You want those people in your inner circle to be the ones who challenge you, make you think in new and different ways, and above all, are honest with you all the time.

It’s great to have friends who think you’re wonderful because you are, but it’s valuable to have friends who can also point out (nicely, of course, and with love) where you might need some work. And luckily, if your inner circle is made up of the right types of people, they’ll help you do the work that needs to be done to create a happier, healthier you!

Your inner circle is a circle of close friends that surrounds you that you trust implicitly. They are the people who you naturally turn to for advice and reasoning. They know how to listen, and give you their opinions without bias. It goes without saying that choosing the people who are in your inner circle is a decision that should not be taken lightly.

Your inner circle will grow organically – you can’t simply go out and pick and choose who is involved. You meet and learn about people, and get together with them, and you’ll notice that some will naturally gravitate to the top of your “favorites” list. Ask yourself why.

Be aware of what it is about them you enjoy and value. It’s easy to choose inner circle members who think you’re wonderful, but much more difficult to choose those who will challenge you instead. This takes an honest assessment of yourself, your strengths and weaknesses, and helps you choose your inner circle according to what is best for you – not necessarily what feels best at the time, or all of the time.

Overall, the people you want closest to you should be supportive, empathetic, honest, energetic, trustworthy, intelligent, kind, loving, and enthusiastic. Above all, each member must be positive-minded, and optimistic! You should admire each of the members and look up to them.

Surrounding yourself with challenging people who you feel are “above” you in certain areas of your life will help you rise to their level, and you’ll see successes in areas you may never have dreamed of! This is the true beauty of an inner circle that challenges you.

Challenge Assignment:

Review the list of names that make up your inner circle. Should you remove any of them?

 

What Is An Inner Circle?

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An inner circle is a group of very close friends that you look to for support. They come from all walks of life, and each has a specific skill set or set of talents that they bring to the table within your friendship. You, too, have this specific set of strengths that others admire. Within your inner circle of friends, you want to have a wide variety of personalities that will not accept mediocrity but will challenge you to be more than you are today. This is truly what an inner circle is all about.

You naturally gravitate towards those people you admire. It could be that someone has accomplished something you’d like to accomplish. Maybe you admire the level of success they’ve achieved within their personal, social, or business life. You may feel as if they are “higher up” than you, so you look up to them.

These are the people you want to make up your inner circle. Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” So you want those five people (five being a somewhat arbitrary number) to be people who are in a position in life that you’d like to be in as well.

People who have achieved a measure of success in life have learned myriad lessons from their experiences along the way. They have earned wisdom through those experiences. These lessons and wisdom are passed on in inner circles to those who are up-and-coming and need the support, direction, and guidance of someone who has already traveled the road.

If personal growth, ministry or business success is something you desire, surround yourself with people in your inner circle who are emotionally and spiritually at a level that you’d like to achieve. This may mean learning new and different spiritual teachings, or finally dealing with emotional baggage that’s been holding you back. While uncomfortable to deal with, imagine life without that baggage!

If business growth is your goal, search out mentors in the business world who are enjoying a level of success that you think is impossible for you to find. Then let the lessons from these people stretch your limits and help you grow to achieve your own business success. Keep an open mind, and tell your ego to take a vacation while you’re working to learn new lessons and open your mind to new possibilities.

Challenge Assignment:

How do you define Inner Circle? Why?

 

 

 

Inner Circle Challenge

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It’s Time for the “Inner Circle” Challenge – The Power of Surrounding Yourself With The Right People.

If you are like me, you have been believing for the right people to connect with to advance to the next level, to support you in life, ministry or business, or just to be there as a genuine friend. So, to encourage myself, I put together a challenge on the Inner Circle – The Power of Surrounding Yourself With The Right People.

I’m tired of making connections with people, that don’t last. My desire is for the real connections that are life-long.

This challenge will  teach you the importance of having a strong and like-minded support system. There will be three main areas the challenge will focus on which include, Inner Circle Pitfalls, Inner Circle Power, and Building Your Circle. Some of the topics addressed during this challenge will be:

*What is an Inner Circle?
•Why You Should Keep Your Inner Circle Small
•Your Inner Circle Can Make or Break You
•Your Inner Circle Environment
•Your Inner Circle Hierarchy
•7 Personality Types to Beware within Your Inner Circle
•8 Traits to Seek in Inner Circle Members
•Finding Your Inner Circle People
•How an Inner Circle Can Help You Reach Your Goals
•Removing Someone from Your Inner Circle

This challenge will include Blog Posts, Facebook Group Posts, Radio Shows, Telecalls, and Webinars.

Let’s Get Started.

Day 1 Challenge Assignment:

Make a list of the names of the  people who have immediate access to you or who surround your life on a daily basis.

 

GTGMT Relationship 2 – All My Relationships Are Loving and Harmonious – Self-Reflection Exercise

February 8, 2014 Leave a comment

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All my relationships are loving and harmonious.

I have such wonderful relationships. I understand that the key to harmony is communication, so I make it a point to communicate effectively and compassionately with everyone I know. I only enter into relationships that are healthy and beneficial to me.

My relationships are full of love because I have caring people in my life. I show my love toward them, too. I have a genuine interest in others and want them to be happy.

At work, I remain professional, but I reach out to others. My clients, co-workers, and boss know that they can trust me. I feel comfortable with all of these people. My work place is loving and harmonious.

At home, I regularly ask myself what I can do to strengthen my relationships. I accept that positive relationships require daily time and effort. It is 100% worth it. Good relationships make life worth living.

With my friends, I strive to be understanding, even when it is challenging. Everyone is different and has his or her own needs and challenges. I am always kind and considerate. My relationships with my friends are very important to me.

Today, I choose to do what I can to make all of my relationships even better. I choose to be open, supportive, compassionate, and loving to everyone in my life.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What can I do to strengthen my relationships?
2. How can I be a better friend and partner?
3. Why are my relationships important to me?

4 Strong Qualities Of Genuine Friendships

October 7, 2013 2 comments
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According to Webster’s Dictionary “friend” is defined as one attached to another by affection and esteem; an intimate association.

Life long friendships, the ones that are lasting, will require good relating skills. The people involved will have to agree to being attached to one another by affection and commit to highly esteeming the other. A life long friendship will take a lifetime of practice. It will require treating others the way you want to be treated and relating to others the way God relates to you.

There are four strong qualities of strong friendships: interest, love, sympathy, and sacrifice.

1. Interest is when the inner souls of the friends are knitted together. In 1 Samuel 18:1 Jonathan’s soul was knitted to David’s soul. They instantly became friends. There will be a common thread between friends.

2. Love is the most powerful force in the universe. Love in friendships is expressed through trust, shared confidences, and kept promises. Jesus said in John 13:34, “A new covenant I give unto you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.” The expression of love in friendships requires that we love and relate to one another as God relates to us.

3. Sympathy in relationships and friendships is a genuine concern for the other person. It is shown by being there in a time of need with an understanding heart and willing hands to help through trying times and joyful times of a friend’s life. Sympathy is also expressed through a listening ear for a troubled heart.

4. Sacrifice in friendships is shown when you recognize that there will be times when you put your friend’s needs before your own. There will be times when your friend will need you to lay down some of your plans, ideas and agendas to help him/her. As a friend are you willing to do that? Jesus teaches the believers that sacrifice is the greatest love. “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for friends (John 15:13).”

When these four qualities are present and developed in a friendship/relationship you have built on a strong foundation that will sustain the friendship for a lifetime. The values of a strong foundation in friendships are: constructive criticism (Proverbs 27:6), helpful advice (Proverbs 27:7), and faithfulness (Proverbs 17:7). These values also help the friendship to past the tests of continued loyalty (2 Samuel 1:23), the willingness to sacrifice (John 15:13), an obedient spirit (John 15:14,15), and like-mindedness (Philippians 2:19-23).

The Company You Keep – Do Friends Hold You Back

October 2, 2013 Leave a comment

667-Space-800x600What kind of people do you hang out with? Do you feel you’re losing connection with them because you’re into self growth and development and they aren’t? Are you striving to make improvements in your life, but somehow can’t seem to get your momentum going? What’s holding you back?

Sometimes, in personal growth you’re faced with the question of why you hold yourself back. The answer can be simple or it can be very complex and often a deep-seeded issue. You may think there’s something wrong with you.

It’s been said that your personality and your financial situation will match your five closest friends. Look around and see if that’s where you want to be or if you want to have more than that. It’s likely that you do want more or you wouldn’t be working so hard on yourself. However, you may unconsciously be holding yourself back from fear of leaving them behind. Or maybe it bothers you that they may not see you as the same when you reach a certain level of success. In reality, you won’t be the same. You will be a better person. Anyone who deliberately tries to hold you back, by making snide remarks or even making fun of you, isn’t really your friend.

It’s hard to leave people behind when you’ve grown beyond them. However, it’s not your responsibility to pull them along unless they want to follow your lead. Life is about growth and changes. If your current friends are content to remain where they are, you need to think about yourself and where you want to be. This is not a selfish act. It is merely striving to be the best you can. You know you want more in life. You know you can do better in life. Stop letting your friends or even your past with them stand in your way.

It’s possible that some of them will be very proud of you and your accomplishments. Some of them may stop being friends with you. That only opens the door for other friends to step in. You will not end up friend-less, you will find other friends that are more aligned with your new personality and your new ideals.

The people who really care about you will support you. Those who get angry and stop speaking to you are the ones being selfish. It’s likely that they don’t want to put forth the effort to change themselves, so it becomes easier if they try to hold you back.

Take a good inventory of your friends and decide who supports you and who doesn’t. Value the ones who support you and let go of the ones who don’t. You’ll be much happier and have less worries in the long run.

It will be difficult in the beginning. You may even grieve for these lost friends, but holding yourself back from your destination or your destiny will only make you feel worse. Strive for the best, strive to be your best. You will find new friends who support you in your endeavors.

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