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Patience Day 30 -Reflect On How Far You’ve Come And Where To Go From Here

September 18, 2018 Leave a comment
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Reflect Back Over The Last 30 Days

Let’s take a quick walk down memory lane and browse through all the different topics we covered over the past 29 days. Here’s a quick rundown:

1. Welcome And How Patient Are You?
2. What Exactly Is Patience?
3. The Importance Of Becoming A More Patient Person
4. Patience Is A Skill – Practice Helps
5. Quick Patience Tip – Count To Ten
6. Patience Is A Virtue! Or Is It?
7. 5 Signs That You’re An Impatient Person
8. Get In The Habit Of Realizing When Patience Is In Order (Part 1)
9. Get In The Habit Of Realizing When Patience Is In Order (Part 2)
10. Reflect On When You’ve Been Too Impatient
11. Times To Be Patient vs. Times To Act
12. Using Visualization Exercises To Help With Patience
13. 3 Things You Must Do After An Impatient Outburst
14. The Physical Side Of Impatience
15. The Physical Side Of Impatience
16. Create Awareness About Losing Your Patience
17. Pinpoint What’s Causing You To Lose Your Cool
18. How To Avoid Emotional Explosion Infographic
19. Scriptures On Patience
20. Give Yourself A Time Out To Recoup Your Patience
21. Give Yourself A Time Out To Recoup Your Patience
22. Meditate Your Way To Patience
23. Why Do You Feel Rushed?
24. Build Cushions Into Your Daily Schedule To Make Time For Patience
25. Selah! – Rest Day
26. How Gratitude & Thankfulness Can Make You More Patient
27. Get Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable
28. It’s Ok To Act Patient Until You Develop It
29. Patience Is A Choice
30. Reflect On How Far You’ve Come And Where To Go From Here

We’ve reached the end of our journey. I can’t believe it! I hope this time together has been as enjoyable for you as it’s been for me. More than that, it’s my hope that you now feel you possess the information and tools you need to become a more patient person. We’ve covered a lot over the past month.

We started off our journey by defining patience and talking about why it’s important. Beginning with an understanding of the concept and a strong framework is necessary to continue learning. We then discovered some tangible tools and techniques to put in place in order to begin to demonstrate more patience and to calm down when you’re feeling frustrated.

It was early in our time together that I first introduced the idea that patience is a skill that can be learned. Because it’s so essential to the process, we re-visited the idea toward the end of our 30 days. It’s empowering to know that patience can be learned, practiced and improved upon. You aren’t a bad person or less worthy simply because patience doesn’t come easily to you.

In addition, we learned about some of the things that cause us to feel less patient. Personal triggers are a big problem for some of us. Knowing what triggers you is essential to overcoming it when you feel it happen. Feeling less rushed and more gratitude are also practices that can reduce your tendency to feel impatient.

Finally, we looked at your motivations to want to become more patient. These are all very personal to you. Knowing and acknowledging them can push you to move forward on your journey of learning ways to become more patient. Recognize that this won’t happen overnight. Bring out your list of reasons when you feel like giving up.

Assignment Day 30:

Take a few minutes today to reflect on not only how far you’ve come, but more importantly how this simple 30 day challenge has influenced you and changed you for the better.

What has had the biggest impact on you?

What tips and ideas have you found the most helpful? Those are the posts that you want to go back to again and again.

What positive experiences have you had as a result of the information you’ve gained?

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Patience Day 22 -Meditate Your Way To Patience

September 10, 2018 Leave a comment

 

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Find A Quiet Place To “Think On These Things”

We have eight (8) left on this challenge. I pray that you have been empowered and inspired to learn more about patience, as well as, learning how to become a more patient person. Starting with this post, I will discuss how to become a more patient person. Let’s get started.

You’ve probably heard about the benefits of meditation. It can lower stress, increase attention and even improve certain aspects of your health. These advantages are actually quite relevant when it comes to patience. We’ve already talked about the relationship between stress and patience. It makes sense that if you can lower your stress levels, it will help you to become a more patient person. Join me as I give you an overview of the practice and show you how meditating can lead to more patience in your life.

About Meditation

Meditation is a spiritual practice that dates back centuries. Today, people may engage in meditative activities for reasons other than the spiritual, but it is still a deeply personal and customizable practice. Meditation involves focusing the mind on the present moment. It forces you to push away all the jumbled thoughts that may be running through your mind. There are various forms of the practice such as guided imagery, mindful meditation and spiritual meditation. What’s important to know is that the process doesn’t need to be complicated, nor does it require a great deal of time.

How It Works

You can meditate in any quiet area. In fact, it’s possible to do so in stolen moments among a crowd. All that’s required is that you tune out the outside distractions and pinpoint your thoughts on the current moment or on a specific mantra. This can be done in a seated position or while lying down. Repeated practice leads to a host of benefits.

Benefits of Meditation

Your overall emotional well-being, as well as your physical health, is likely to be enhanced through exposure to meditation. You will likely begin to become more mindful of your present feelings, feel less stressed about daily worries, become less prone to agitation and improve your self-awareness.

Meditation and Patience

The relation between meditation and patience is clear once you realize the other benefits that come with the practice. When you’re less stress, you won’t be as subject to becoming upset or annoyed by things outside your control. Being more mindful of your present state also leads to increased patience. You’ll feel less at the whim of outside events when you’re able to focus on what is going on in the moment.

Meditation doesn’t have to be an intimidating thing. You can practice it in any way that makes sense to you. The encouragement now is to learn about various types of meditation and start practicing them on a regular basis. It will get easier with time, and you’ll soon begin noticing the rewards.

Assignment Day 22:

Find a quiet place to meditate on scriptures that resonate with you concerning patience and peace.

Here is one to get you started:  Philippians 4:6-8 New King James Version (NKJV)

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Patience Day 9 – Get In The Habit Of Realizing When Patience Is In Order (part 2)

August 28, 2018 Leave a comment

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Yesterday I talked about the times when the virtue of patience is definitely more in need than others. The first two areas were: when you really want something and when someone is getting on your last nerve. Here are the remaining two areas.

When You’re Feeling Stressed

With stress come a lot of strong emotions. Emotional responses are often impulses. They certainly don’t rely on patience. Stressful times call for extra patience in order to be sure you handle the situation in a manner that you won’t later regret. Stress is probably one of the best signals that patience is in order.

Psalm 118:5-6 (NKJV)- I called on the Lord in distress; The Lord answered me and set me in a broad place. The Lord is on my side; I will not fear. What can man do to me?  

When You’re Feeling Pressured

Nothing’s worse than having your boss breathing down your neck or when your own high standards are causing you to feel under the gun. When you’re feeling pressured to get something done or to meet a certain goal, you naturally want to hurry things along. This can be a mistake. Being patient and thinking things through can be your best defense against making needless mistakes that will only set you further back. It may seem counterintuitive, but taking time to strategize is your best bet when you’re under pressure.

These are some examples of when patience may be in order. Take note of any others you think of. This information can help you to make proactive decisions in the future and to employ patience when it’s most needed.

Assignment Day 9 – Read the Scripture Passage and Meditate On It

James 1:-2-4 The Message Bible (MSG) – Faith Under Pressure

“Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors. So don’t try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

Patience Day 8 -Get In The Habit Of Realizing When Patience Is In Order (Part 1)

August 27, 2018 Leave a comment

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There are some times when the virtue of patience is definitely more in need than others. It’s important to recognize when being patient is crucial to attaining a positive outcome to a particular situation. It can be hard to see the necessity during stressful or highly emotional situations, so let’s take a look at some examples ahead of time so you can recognize them when they occur. Understanding these four signs will help you to get in the habit of realizing when patience is in order. Let’s start with two of them today.

1. When You Really Want Something

You know that feeling you get when you want something so bad you can practically taste it? Well, that sensation is a clear sign that you should put on the brakes and pull out all the patience you can muster. Remember, you don’t want to wait so long that you miss out on an opportunity. Taking some time to be patient and evaluate a situation, however, can help you to more strategically get what you want.

Philippians 4:6 (NKJV)Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;  

2. When Someone Is Getting on Your Last Nerve

When someone you care about or even a stranger is pushing every button you have, you should probably realize that you need some patience. You’re feeling triggered by their actions, and there’s likely an underlying reason why your emotions are running high. Take a moment to think about it and decide how to proceed in a way that will show sensitivity for the other person, while also meeting your own needs.

“You don’t know the depth of your character until you have been brought under some pressure.” ~ Ginger London

Assignment Day 8

Selah!   Think on these things.

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Take a moment to calm your spirit

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Patience Day 7 – 5 Signs That You’re An Impatient Person

August 26, 2018 Leave a comment

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You’re taking part in this challenge, so it’s likely you want to improve upon your level of patience. However, do you consider yourself to be an impatient person? It can be difficult to see ourselves in a less-than-pleasant light and to actually admit to our weaknesses. However, self-improvement requires honest introspection. You don’t have to tell anyone else, but it’s good for you to be able to admit to yourself if you could use some work in this area. So here are five signs you may be an impatient person.

You Rarely Live in the Moment

Are you always looking ahead to tomorrow, next month or someday? Failing to live in the moment may be an indicator of impatience. You want great things to happen, and you want them now. While that’s understandable, it’s also not very realistic. I suppose this may be a case for the saying of, “Good things come to those who wait.” It’s very unlikely that you’ll get what you want immediately, so learning to deal with the discomfort of waiting will definitely help to make your life a lot easier. Plus, it’s just more fun to enjoy the here and now. Otherwise, you’re missing out on some great stuff.

You Get Angry Over Little Things

Do you find yourself losing your temper frequently? That can have disastrous results on your health, your mental state, your job and your relationships. If you get mad a lot, consider the reasons. It could be that you’re not very patient, and you’re becoming frustrated when things don’t immediate happen as you’d like them to. Gaining some perspective and learning to employ patience can truly help you to overcome a lot of your agitation.

You Interrupt

Are you constantly interrupting others so you can make your point? It may not be that you think what they have to say isn’t important. You probably are just so impatient to make your own contribution to the conversation that you find it hard to resist jumping in. Frequent interrupting is definitely a sign of impatience and is one small area you can begin to work on.

You Lack Empathy

This one may be hard to admit. Impatient people sometimes lack empathy for what others are going through. They find themselves being frustrated with people instead of trying to relate to them and figure out why they’re behaving as they are. If you find yourself being critical of those around you quite frequently, consider whether this is a sign you could stand to work on your patience.

You Hate Wasting Time

Does the idea of wasting even a minute of time make you cranky? Impatient folks often despise being anything other than efficient as they go about their day. Time wasted is seen as opportunity lost. If this is you, it’s important to understand that not everyone is on your time table. They aren’t likely to view things in the same way. What’s important to you may seem rather insignificant to them. People don’t mean to be inconsiderate when you perceive them as slowing you down or wasting your time. Go easy on them and try to decide what absolutely must get done now and what can wait a bit.

Do you see yourself in any of these five signs? If so, you may be an impatient person. You now have a starting point or two to begin practicing more patience.

Assignment Day 7:

How do you feel about what you are learning about patience and what you are learning about yourself as a patient or impatient person?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Patience Day 6 -Patience Is A Virtue! Or Is It?

August 26, 2018 Leave a comment

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Patience truly can be a virtue. It can assist you in a number of ways across various settings in your life. But are there times when being patience can actually be a hindrance? Yes, I believe there are. I think it’s important we address them so that you don’t find yourself getting stuck in any negative patterns in the name of being patient. Allow me to share with you just a handful of the things you may need to be wary of when it comes to your idea of patience. Don’t let patience be an excuse for any of these three things…..

  1. Missed Opportunities

“Good things come to those who wait.” This is not a phrase I’m terribly fond of. The reason is that those who wait may often be doing so out of negative emotions like fear or insecurity. When you settle in too patiently, you can sometimes miss out on a really great opportunity. It can be tempting to wait for just the right time or to tell yourself you’re being patient when, in reality, you’re giving into negative emotions and failing to leave your comfort zone. If there’s something you want and you find yourself waiting around to get it, I think it’s important to take some time for self-reflection. Ask yourself why it is you’re not taking action to go after what you desire. Be honest about those answers. Then take just one step toward your goal. You may just find yourself moving onto taking big leaps and going for your dreams.

  1. Hanging on Too Long

What about those times we hang onto things that are bad for us, just waiting for them to get better? I know I’ve fallen into that trap, and I imagine you have, too. Whether it’s an abusive relationship, a job you hate or something else entirely, you probably can identify a time you’ve stuck around waiting for someone or some situation to change. Again, this is a time for introspection. If you’re dealing with something like this right now, decide what’s keeping you from making a move. Then address the problem with proactive action. Being patient by relying on false hope is never in your best interest.

Scripture: Proverbs 13:12“Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life.”

     3. Becoming a Doormat

On a similar note, do you find yourself being far too patient with people who don’t seem to treat you with as much respect as you give them? That’s what’s known as being a doormat, and it’s no fun. Please understand that the character flaw is not yours; it belongs to those would take advantage of you. However, you do hold the power in this type of situation. Rather than sit around patiently accommodating others who don’t give you the same courtesy, try setting some boundaries. A simple “no” to an unwanted request can be an incredibly empowering tool.

These are some common ways patience can be less than a virtue. Be on the lookout for such traps. Be savvy and aware when you see them. Give yourself the power to let go of patience during these times and do what’s right for you.

Assignment Day 6:

1.  What opportunities have you missed in the act of “waiting patiently?”

2.  What area or areas of your life are you “hanging on too long?”

3.  Name the people in your life who disrespect you or who are using you as a doormat.    What do you plan to do about it?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Patience Challenge Day 5 -Quick Patience Tip – Count To Ten

August 24, 2018 Leave a comment

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In yesterday’s post, I gave you some ways to practice patience. However, there’s one I left out. The reason I did is because it deserves its very own post. That’s how important and useful I think this tip is. And it’s probably one you’ve known about since you were a child. That’s right, counting to ten. This tried and true strategy works. Let’s take a closer look at this quick patience tip and count to ten.

Why It Works

Thomas Jefferson is quoted as saying, “When angry, count to ten before you speak. If very angry, a hundred.” This is still very sage advice today. The trick to this simple strategy lies in two components. These are time and distraction. It’s quite perfect, actually, because it buys you some time to disengage from whatever is frustrating you. You can’t possible react impulsively or aggressively if you’re busy counting. It similarly distracts you because you won’t be thinking about your current problem. Counting forces you to stop obsessing for just a bit in order to gain your bearings. Just this short break can be enough to really put things in perspective.

When to Do It

The great thing about this technique is that it’s so easy. It’s also quick and requires no specific tools. In fact, no one even has to know that you’re doing it. Any time you’re feeling overwhelmed, agitated, annoyed or frustrated, you can employ this strategy. It can be used in the moment by simply taking a pause in the conversation. It will look as if you’re just thinking of what to say next. You can also count to ten before a big event you’re anticipating in order to feel more relaxed. It’s quite versatile.

Tips That Might Help

Using this technique in combination with other strategies tends to be most helpful. For example, taking deep and controlled breaths when counting to yourself can help you to relax and to become more mindful. It’s quite grounding to engage in breathing exercises. Also, taking note of the feelings within your body at the current moment is a way to bring you back to the here and now, as well as to release the tension you’re feeling. These little extras will ensure you’re cooled off and thinking more clearly at the end of your ten count.

You might not have realized just how powerful this little exercise can be. I hope you now remember to count to ten during impatient times. I assure you it is likely to bring you positive results.

Assignment Day 5:

Try counting to 10 over the next two days 3 times a day. Write in your journal how you felt physically, spiritually, and mentally when counting and afterwards.

 

 

 

 

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