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The Impact of Relationships On Your Life

Special Teaching by Minister Ginger London
Special Teaching by Minister Ginger London

The Fine Art Of Friendship

According to Webster’s Dictionary “friend” is defined as one attached to another by affection and esteem; an intimate association.

Life-long friendships, the ones that are lasting, will require good relating skills. The people involved will have to agree to being attached to one another by affection and commit to highly esteeming the other. A life-long friendship will take a lifetime of practice. It will require treating others the way you want to be treated and relating to others the way God relates to you.

There are four strong qualities of good friendships: interest, love, sympathy, and sacrifice.

  1. Interest is when the inner souls of the friends are knitted together. In 1 Samuel 18:1 Jonathan’s soul was knitted to David’s soul. They instantly became friends. There will be a common thread between friends.
  2.  Love is the most powerful force in the universe. Love in friendships is expressed through trust, shared confidences, and kept promises. Jesus said in John 13:34, “A new covenant I give unto you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.” The expression of love in friendships requires that we love and relate to one another as God relates to us.
  3. Sympathy in relationships and friendships is a genuine concern for the other person. It is shown by being there in a time of need with an understanding heart and willing hands to help through trying times and joyful times of a friend’s life. Sympathy is also expressed through a listening ear for a troubled heart.
  4. Sacrifice in friendships is shown when you recognize that there will be times when you put your friend’s needs before your own. There will be times when your friend will need you to lay down some of your plans, ideas and agendas to help him/her. As a friend are you willing to do that? Jesus teaches the believers that sacrifice is the greatest love. “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for friends (John 15:13).”

When these four qualities are present and developed in a friendship/relationship you have built on a strong foundation that will sustain the friendship for a lifetime. The values of a strong foundation in friendships are: constructive criticism (Proverbs 27:6), helpful advice (Proverbs 27:7), and faithfulness (Proverbs 17:7). These values also help the friendship to pass the tests of continued loyalty (2 Samuel 1:23), the willingness to sacrifice (John 15:13), an obedient spirit (John 15:14,15), and like-mindedness (Philippians 2:19-23).

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Character and Integrity

July 24, 2015 1 comment

Without character, the puzzle of achieving success falls apartIt is most important of all pieces to life’s puzzle.  Without character, you can make money.  But it will be worthless to you and to those around you.  Look out in the world today:  drug dealers and con artists have money—but they lack character.

If you go to all the work of achieving success, you don’t want to mar it with a lack of character that will make people pity you as you age and become less than you were intended to be.

Character equals integrity.  Integrity is doing the right thing all the time, even when no one else is watching.  You don’t have anything to fear when your integrity is in tact, because you have nothing to hide.  You experience no guilt and no fear.  And without those two traveling companions, it’s much easier to climb higher and farther, faster!

What does this mean in a practical sense?  It means that you will put the right philosophy (the golden rule) in to practice in all that you do.  You will not step on someone else to climb the corporate or success ladder; you will not stack bodies in order to reach the CEO position that you desire.  You will treat people with respect, honesty, and trust.  You will behave towards others how you want (and expect) them to behave towards you.

You will be the model of “doing the right thing” in your office, even if it isn’t appreciated or understood.  Chances are very good that if you’re the only one doing the right thing, you won’t last where you are, but you will find something better where your integrity is appreciated and applauded.

What Making Your Attitude Your Friend Can Do For You

July 22, 2015 4 comments

Once you start to live the idea of making your attitude your friend you will start to see changes, especially if you have been living with a negative attitude and have decided to change it to a positive attitude.

Adapting a positive attitude and making it the friend you travel through will impact your life in many ways. You are going to start to see the positive influence right away. People are going to start treating you in a more positive manner. People respond positive to someone who greets them with a positive attitude. I am sure you have experienced this before. Think of a time when you gave a stranger a smile. They most likely smiled back, didn’t they? That is a positive attitude at work.

It will not be that subtle either. You will be using your attitude to influence people in other ways, too. As you start to adapt your positive attitude to your life, you will begin to be able to see the positive in everything.

No matter what happens to you, your positive attitude will help you through it. You will find a way to overcome almost anything without getting mad, upset, or depressed about it. Basically, you will learn how to look at life differently.

You will be able to approach problems and difficult situations better. You will be able to handle adversity better. You will be able to overcome things that before would have dragged you down.

Making your attitude your friend will transform your life. You are going to be projecting a positive feeling and it will come back to you. You will start to see how positive things happen in your life. You will begin to draw positive influences to you. You will become a magnet for positive things. It will almost seem strange how much your new positive attitude affects your life.

You can look at making your attitude your friend in many different ways. It really depends upon your personal ideas and thoughts. No matter what your opinion is on how a positive attitude works in your life, the bottom line is that making your attitude your friend is a winning idea. You cannot deny the power of making your attitude your friend once you start implementing it in your life.

How to Overcome A Stagnate Life

July 11, 2015 4 comments

Live on Purpose

Do you feel like you’re stuck in a rut now that you are seven months into another year? Are you having the same struggles in your love life, career, friendships, or passion?

It’s time to take action to fix the problem. You’ll first want to identify the areas of your life that feel “off.”

Take some time to reflect on what’s bothering you and why. Once you know what’s going on, it’s easier to find a solution.

Having a Goal

It’s important to have goals in all aspects of your life because it focuses your energy onto the big picture. When you have a purpose for your actions, you’ll begin to see those little steps being important building blocks for your end goal. Your life won’t seem so stale when you have your end goal in mind at all times.

Here are some tips for setting goals:

  • Make your goals attainable. If you have lofty goals, break them up into smaller pieces.
  • Write your goals down on paper and keep them handy.
  • Always state your goals in a positive fashion (i.e. “I will be free of unhealthy relationships or bad business/ministry deals…” instead of: “I will stop hanging with the wrong people or I will stop making bad decisions…”)
  • Be as detailed as you can when planning out your goals step by step.
  • Fight the urge to procrastinate.

Take Action

Once you’ve discovered the areas of your life that need changing, and you have goals in mind, it’s time to take action. When things have hit a point of stagnation there is no other choice you have but to take swift action.

Remember that you can think, plan, or worry all day long but it’ll do nothing positive for your life if you don’t act.

Here are some strategies to keep in mind as you put your goals into action:

  1. Don’t Hold Yourself Back. If you already know what’s holding you back, it’s time to fix the problem so you can take action. Is fear holding you back? If so, it’d be in your best interest to master your fears. A life full of stagnation because of fear will do more harm than good.
  2. Be Consistent. Many people will crack down on changing their life and then drift back into a world of stagnation. Once you’ve started to take action, make sure it’s consistent action. This is the only way you’ll reach your life goals.
  3. Right Now. You already have your plan in place and it’s broken up into small pieces. Ask yourself what you can accomplish right now to put yourself a positive step closer toward your goal. It doesn’t matter if you only have 15 minutes, there is sure to be something you can accomplish in that time period.
  4. Take Time to Unwind. It’s easy to get excited and eager about your new goals and dreams, but ensure you schedule some “me time” as well. You need to be able to get a good night’s sleep and rejuvenate your body and mind. Otherwise, you risk physical and mental exhaustion, which will only bring you back to stagnation!
  5. Take Notes. Be sure to take notes of your observations and tweak your actions along the way. Doing so will help you figure out what’s working for you and what’s not.

Picture Yourself

At the end of the day you should picture yourself having broken the chain of stagnation. Even if you’re not quite there yet, it’s important to remember that it’s possible and likely when you’re willing to change!

What Have You Learned So Far? Your Life Lessons

Special Teaching of Minister Ginger Lodnon

Special Teaching of Minister Ginger London

Life is a fascinating journey that provides many twists, turns, and surprises. You can’t always predict which way your life will go. Sometimes, you might want to sit back and survey what’s important to you and what you’ve learned so far.

Reflecting on what you know to be true about life can actually help you live a rewarding existence and keep enjoying the best parts of life.

What are the life lessons you’ve learned so far? Listed below are some commonly identified life lessons. If you haven’t learned these lessons yet, maybe reading about them will cultivate your thoughts about what you have learned. Plus, you’ll expose your mind to these ideas and if you choose, you can incorporate these important concepts into your own life lesson repertoire.

  1. Recognize and cope with your own feelings. Learning this lesson early in life will prevent you from making many mistakes in terms of your choices and relationships. Take time to label what you’re feeling and learn how to express and cope with your emotions positively. Learning this life lesson will enrich your existence.
  2. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Somebody said this phrase a long time ago and it really caught on. Learn to tell the difference between something that really matters to you and something that, in the scheme of things, will not affect your life in any dramatic or real way.
  3. Take care of your health and appearance. Whether you like it or not, the health decisions you make each day have a profound impact on the kind of life you’ll experience in the present and future. And those decisions directly affect your personal appearance.
  4. Respect others. You don’t have to like all the people you meet and you certainly don’t have to make friends with them. But if you respect everyone, your own life will likely be easier and more enjoyable. Although you might not feel respected by someone, you can’t go wrong in respecting them anyway.
  5. Learn to delay your own gratification. Whether it’s putting your opinions out there, imbibing in alcohol, wanting to buy yourself the latest expensive toy, or just insisting on getting your own way about something, don’t expect or demand that your needs be met immediately,
  6. Keep your mind open and your mouth closed. When you’re open to accepting new people, places, and things, your possibilities are endless. Rather than disagree or criticize something you don’t understand, try to expand your mind to the new concept and take it all in. Who knows, it might become your next favorite thing.
  7. When it’s all over, only love matters. A lesson that most of us don’t learn until very late in our lives is that the place you worked, the money you made, and the “toys” you collected don’t add up to much as you near life’s end. What does matter is that you’ve loved and been loved. Everything else falls away.

Your life lessons might look quite different from this list. The most important point is that you identify the deepest, most meaningful lessons you’ve learned about life. When you recognize what really matters to you, you’ll live each day consciously and full of purpose.

5 Recommendations You Should Follow if You Want to Be Recognized as An Authority

July 8, 2015 3 comments

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If you want people in your niche to recognize you as an authority and expert, you need to act accordingly. People have certain expectations of authority figures, and unless you live up to them you’ll risk losing your authority status eventually. Here are some of the most important things to keep in mind:

Be a leader

This one is a given. Authority figures should be leaders who aren’t afraid to take the initiative. What this means in practice depends on the niche and situation, but the key is to never act like a follower. People should follow you, not the other way around.

Do not fear controversy

Some people fear being controversial, but as an authority you should in fact embrace it. People are drawn to controversy and there is no better chance to market yourself than placing yourself right in the middle of it. Don’t stir things up just to be controversial though, that will likely be counterproductive. The key is recognizing chances to voice an unpopular (but right) opinion and going against the grain – that’s when controversy can play into your hands.

Be humble and respectful

No matter what you do, you should always respect others and be humble, even if you know more than almost everyone else in your niche. Staying in an authority position is just so much easier when people actually like you, not just tolerate you because of your skills and knowledge. This also shouldn’t require much effort from you, so it’s a winning strategy in every way.

Help others

A great way to cement your authority status is taking every opportunity you get to help others who need it, even if you don’t benefit directly from it yourself. This is perfect for creating lifelong, loyal fans who will stop at nothing to return the favor in the future. It doesn’t have to take much time either, simply answering questions daily on an industry forum can be more than enough.

Be social

You cannot become an authority without knowing and interacting with people in your niche. Whether it’s offline or online on social networks, making an effort to be social and continually make new friends and contacts is one of the most powerful things you can do to make sure your authority status will remain today and in the future. All the connections you make have the potential to help you and stick up for you, so never pass up an opportunity to make a new friend!

Become An Authority Expert In Your Niche

July 5, 2015 2 comments

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Practically every niche in existence has its own set of experts and authorities who get to enjoy the respect and admiration of the community. No doubt being an authority comes with a range of perks and benefits, and it’s no wonder that so many strive to reach that level. If you’ve been considering giving it a shot, but you’re still not convinced it’s worth all the hard work required, here is a short list of some of the advantages that may aid you in making a decision:

You have the power of the whole community at your disposal

When you’re at the top of the food chain in a niche, getting everyone under you to rally towards a common cause becomes fully doable. Say you get an idea to create the most comprehensive website in the niche – all you have to do is reach out to the community and you’ll most likely get all the help you need.

Opportunity will be everywhere

Whether it’s someone who wants to offer you 50% of their latest project in exchange for expert advice, or someone who wants to pay you obscene amounts of money to come speak at an event, opportunity will be everywhere once you reach authority status. Making money will be easier than ever before. In fact, you will probably have to turn down most of the offers you get due to the simple fact that you cannot do everything.

People will trust your word

As an authority your word will be treated like gold. Even if you have an opinion that people disagree with, they’ll still respect it because you are, after all, the authority. If anyone should know, it’s you. Don’t expect everyone to always agree with you though – even when you’re an undisputed authority there will always be people who think of things differently.

Your network will grow effortlessly

As an unknown nobody trying to get started, building a network can be difficult and time-consuming. If you haven’t got much to bring to the table it will be a very slow process. Everyone wants to network with those higher up on the ladder than themselves, ensuring they stand to gain something from it. It therefore follows that when you’re at the top of the ladder, everyone will want to connect with you. You won’t have to make any effort yourself, but can just sit back and build your network passively.

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