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Forgiveness, Why Is It So Difficult? Part 2

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Think of a time when you needed forgiveness for something you thoughtlessly did that hurt another person. How did you feel about how the other person reacted to the transgression? What would have made you understand the action you perpetrated better and help you see how hurtful it was?

Chances are, you reacted to the anger of the other person by making up excuses that it wasn’t really your fault. But, if that same person forgave you in a calm manner, it’s more likely you were better to see the error of your ways and sincerely apologize to the other person.

Resentment and anger can imprison you for the rest of your life and impede your ability to form other relationships. When you forgive (without condoning) you’ll be able to walk away from the prison and let go of the pain that had you locked in to negative feelings and thoughts.

Forgiveness isn’t something that suddenly washes over you when you least expect it. Instead, forgiveness is a process that must be worked through, beginning with a commitment to let nothing stand in your way.

Learn to forgive – be free!

Change Your Thinking!

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Change Your Thinking and Start Thinking Big

In many ways, big thinking is all about changing the way that you currently think. Often, you need to look deep inside yourself in order to see deeply entrenched patterns of behavior that you may not have previously been aware of. This, while difficult, is a necessary process. You see, we often operate on automatic pilot. Our brains are programmed this way on order to save on caloric energy. Have you ever driven home and realized once you’ve arrived that you have absolutely no memory of the drive itself? That’s your brain on automatic pilot. When we are in this mental mode, our brains rely on old behaviors, ones that have been laid down over long periods of time, to keep us moving and reacting appropriately.

Unfortunately, some of these patterns of behavior are not always optimal. If you have a tendency to be negative, then it is virtually guaranteed that some of your patterns of behavior exhibit these tendencies, as well. When you go into autopilot mode this negativity is manifested in a knee-jerk reflexive action because the pattern of behavior is so ingrained. So, while the pattern is saving the caloric energy that is required of creative and reflective thought, it may also be causing you to experience negative outcomes over and over again without you even consciously realizing what it is that you are doing.

The answer to this situation is to assess all of your behaviors and reactions and identify the ones that are the most problematic. Are there patterns to your current way of approaching the world that you can see? Are any of these patterns mostly negative or producing negative outcomes? Are you able to see connections and patterns that you weren’t even aware of?

The key to successfully changing the way that you think is to root out these “automatic” ingrained behaviors. Sometimes, these behaviors can be so deeply ingrained that you may simply be incapable of recognizing them. If you look at your behavior and find nothing wrong, yet you still seem to be unable to reach your goals, this may be what’s going on. In this case, you might need to have your behavior assessed by a third party. A second set of eyes, especially when they aren’t yours, may be able to point out some troublesome areas. Pick someone you trust, someone who’s close to you and knows you well, and ask them about your potentially negative behaviors. You might be surprised to find out what someone else sees.

25 Days of Power – Day 3 Empowerment Fun Day

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25 Days of Power – Day 3 “Empowerment Fun Today”
 
It’s the weekend! At times, I know we take life waaaay too seriously. Some people take it to the point of not being able to enjoy their life’s journey. They don’t laugh, do fun things, or even just relax. I encourage you today (Saturday) to empower yourself and others around you with fun and laughter.
 
Proverbs 17:22 (KJV) – “A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit dries the bones.”
 
Today’s Power Challenge:
Do Something Empowering Today That is Filled With Laughter, Fun and Lots of Love.

 

 

 

 

 

Do You Consider Yourself To Be A Compassionate Person?

September 27, 2015 Leave a comment

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It can be difficult to understand what being compassionate really means. Of course you feel sorry for someone when they get hurt or become sick. But being compassionate means doing a little more than just ‘feeling’ something.

People who are known to be compassionate follow through on the way they feel about a particular situation. This can be seen when someone decides to go all out and raise money for a certain cause or charity. While we see many celebrities do this, numerous other people do the same thing and start working with an organization.

You may have seen someone walking across part of the country to raise money for cancer or another foundation. They are doing this because they are compassionate about the cause. This could be because they were directly impacted by this. Maybe a loved one didn’t survive their battle with cancer and this is their way of showing compassion for others going through the same situation.

While these examples could be seen on the more extreme side, there are other ways to show compassion. In fact, numerous employers are helping their employees by showing compassion.

With so many families having both parents work, things like daycare can be difficult to find and can be expensive. Some employers now offer daycare on their premises. This allows the parents to drop off their children without driving across town. Plus it means that they can visit their child on their lunch break or be available if they suddenly get sick.

As you can see from this example showing compassion is not that difficult. The next time someone you care about gets sick. Instead of just saying sorry or hoping that they get better soon. See if there is something physical that you could do for them.

This might include picking up a few groceries for them or even contacting a long distance relative for them. When you are doing this you are showing the person that you really do care about their situation and actually take some type of action to help them.

Your act of kindness will certainly not go un-noticed.

Colossians 3:12 – “Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience,”

The Impact of Relationships On Your Life

Special Teaching by Minister Ginger London
Special Teaching by Minister Ginger London

The Fine Art Of Friendship

According to Webster’s Dictionary “friend” is defined as one attached to another by affection and esteem; an intimate association.

Life-long friendships, the ones that are lasting, will require good relating skills. The people involved will have to agree to being attached to one another by affection and commit to highly esteeming the other. A life-long friendship will take a lifetime of practice. It will require treating others the way you want to be treated and relating to others the way God relates to you.

There are four strong qualities of good friendships: interest, love, sympathy, and sacrifice.

  1. Interest is when the inner souls of the friends are knitted together. In 1 Samuel 18:1 Jonathan’s soul was knitted to David’s soul. They instantly became friends. There will be a common thread between friends.
  2.  Love is the most powerful force in the universe. Love in friendships is expressed through trust, shared confidences, and kept promises. Jesus said in John 13:34, “A new covenant I give unto you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.” The expression of love in friendships requires that we love and relate to one another as God relates to us.
  3. Sympathy in relationships and friendships is a genuine concern for the other person. It is shown by being there in a time of need with an understanding heart and willing hands to help through trying times and joyful times of a friend’s life. Sympathy is also expressed through a listening ear for a troubled heart.
  4. Sacrifice in friendships is shown when you recognize that there will be times when you put your friend’s needs before your own. There will be times when your friend will need you to lay down some of your plans, ideas and agendas to help him/her. As a friend are you willing to do that? Jesus teaches the believers that sacrifice is the greatest love. “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for friends (John 15:13).”

When these four qualities are present and developed in a friendship/relationship you have built on a strong foundation that will sustain the friendship for a lifetime. The values of a strong foundation in friendships are: constructive criticism (Proverbs 27:6), helpful advice (Proverbs 27:7), and faithfulness (Proverbs 17:7). These values also help the friendship to pass the tests of continued loyalty (2 Samuel 1:23), the willingness to sacrifice (John 15:13), an obedient spirit (John 15:14,15), and like-mindedness (Philippians 2:19-23).

I Make Friends Easily Positive Affirmation

July 29, 2015 3 comments

I make friends easily wherever I go.

I have many friends. It seems that I make a new friend every time I step out of the house.

I find it easy to talk to everyone and people always seem to like me. My friends think I have a magnetic personality and I think they are correct.

I have a genuine interest in others and I find that making friends is easy when I care about them.

I make it a point to smile at everyone I see. I naturally have a smile on my face and can feel my smile spreading throughout my body. I am a walking, talking smile.

Whenever I am speaking with someone, I make sure to use their name in conversation. I like to make other people feel special and using their name is a great way to accomplish that. Everyone likes to hear his own name.

I always ask for the contact information of any new, potential friend. I follow-up and make an effort to keep in touch.

I realize that there are countless new friends out there I have yet to meet. Every new person is a potential new friend. I give everyone a chance to become a friend.

Today, I am keeping my eyes open for any new friends I can make. I am kind to everyone I meet and treat them like a long-lost friend. I make friends easily wherever I go.

15 The Power of Positive Thinking Quotes

July 23, 2015 1 comment

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  1. Thoughts are not static. They gather momentum like a snowball on a hill. Positive thoughts blossom – negative thoughts flatten.
  2. Negative thoughts can quickly become catastrophic. Learn to “re-frame” them into more positive, realistic thoughts.
  3. Find ways to turn even negatives into positives.
  4. Use music to help shift thoughts from negative to positive. Make a playlist of tunes or songs you find energizing or inspiring.
  5. Don’t feed negativity by hanging with negative people or listening to negative music. Raise your energy by using positive stimuli.
  6. “If you want light to come into your life, you need to stand where it is shining” – Guy Finley
  7. The difference between being truly rich or poor is how you choose to feel – no matter what is going on around you.
  8. If you truly want to embrace positive thinking, stop paying attention to (and feeding) your negative thoughts and fears.
  9. If positive thinking is to work, you need to realistically decide where you need to change your thoughts.
  10. Pay attention to your words. They create your reality. Negative words create a negative reality; positive words create a positive reality.
  11. Humor can help stimulate a positive attitude, which helps positive thinking. So as they say, use it – don’t lose it.
  12. Do one thing daily you truly enjoy and let yourself look forward to it. That is the secret to shifting a negative outlook to positive.
  13. “You are never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.” – C.S Lewis
  14. Positive thinking doesn’t mean sitting back and waiting for the Universe to drop Twinkies on your lap: It’s never giving up.
  15. Try starting the day by thinking of 10 things you are grateful for. (If 10 is too much, pick a number that feels comfortable.)
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