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Forgiveness, Why Is It So Difficult? Part 2

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Think of a time when you needed forgiveness for something you thoughtlessly did that hurt another person. How did you feel about how the other person reacted to the transgression? What would have made you understand the action you perpetrated better and help you see how hurtful it was?

Chances are, you reacted to the anger of the other person by making up excuses that it wasn’t really your fault. But, if that same person forgave you in a calm manner, it’s more likely you were better to see the error of your ways and sincerely apologize to the other person.

Resentment and anger can imprison you for the rest of your life and impede your ability to form other relationships. When you forgive (without condoning) you’ll be able to walk away from the prison and let go of the pain that had you locked in to negative feelings and thoughts.

Forgiveness isn’t something that suddenly washes over you when you least expect it. Instead, forgiveness is a process that must be worked through, beginning with a commitment to let nothing stand in your way.

Learn to forgive – be free!

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Forgiveness – Why Is It So Difficult? Part 1

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When someone we love and trusted has treated us with disdain the last thing on our minds at first is forgiveness. Our dreams have been shattered and we usually become angry and want revenge. Forgiveness isn’t on the horizon.

If you’re infused with anger and resentment toward another person, your thoughts are likely full of negativity. You may also have guilt for how you contributed to the situation or think that forgiving is only for the weak – and you never want to forget the transgression so it will never happen again.

Being judgmental is also a reason why it’s so hard to forgive another. If you perceive the other person as not appreciating you or all you’ve done for them or the love and trust you’ve put in the relationship, it becomes even more difficult. You’re so disappointed by the other person’s behavior that you refuse to put it in the past.

It’s important to remember that forgiveness doesn’t automatically let the person off the hook for what they’ve done. Even if they apologize or make amends for the transgression, you may think they need to continue paying by being non-forgiving and casting them out of your life for good.

You can make the choice to forgive and still not reconcile or accept what they’ve done. But, when your harshness of judging begins to permeate your own life and make you bitter and resentful, forgiveness can be a gift that you give yourself so you can pick up the pieces and go on in a healthy manner.

 

 

How To Develop A Motivated Mindset

From time to time, each of us will find ourselves in a rut of boredom and disinterest. We seem to lose our zest for life and feel tired, irritable and unmotivated. We want to hide under the covers rather than face the day. Perhaps you’re feeling overwhelmed by work, or sad about the pain and suffering in the world, or just bored with the routine of your daily life.  

You are not alone. We all go through periods like this at some point. The good news is that we can do something about it. Here are some tips to help break out of the rut and feel excited about life again:  

1) Take a “Time Out” – Prolonged stress can wear us down and zap any enthusiasm we once had. Before doing anything else, take a few minutes to breathe and just BE. Empty your mind of all stress and worry. This takes practice, but don’t give up! As thoughts come into your mind, gently push them back out and continue to keep your mind empty and calm. Take slow, deep breaths and let all of your muscles relax. Sit quietly and recharge your batteries. Try to do this daily, or even twice daily (morning and night). We need quiet time as much as we need anything else in life. Give yourself the gift of inner peace 

2) Get Inspired – Read something motivational, inspirational or uplifting. Look at some beautiful nature photos, or read something humorous. Consciously move your thoughts to a more positive place. Focusing on nothing but work and our daily tasks in life can leave us feeling pretty uninspired. It’s easy to turn it around if we want to. We just have to seek out things that will lift our spirits and our moods. Make it a point to laugh, be happy, joyful and lighthearted each day. Don’t wait for inspiration to come knocking on your door, go out and find it, or create it. Conjure up some funny or touching memories. Write them in a journal so you can go back and read them when you’re feeling down.  

3) Get Excited – Think about the things you have planned for the day, and rekindle the enthusiasm you once felt for them. When we first begin a new project, or start a new job, we are excited about the possibilities and eager to get moving! Over time, we can lose that enthusiasm for a variety of reasons. Travel back in time for a Happymoment, and think about what got you so excited at the beginning. What made your heart beat a little faster? Recapture that feeling and hang onto it! Even if your tasks aren’t anything to be really excited about, at least think of some positive benefits to doing them. For example, list the ways they will benefit your children, your spouse, yourself, your job or your home. Identify the payoff, and focus on that. Even mundane tasks have some benefits. Sometimes, it’s just a matter of switching our mindset to see the positive side 

4) Baby Steps – Sometimes the hardest part is actually getting started. A project seems so monstrous that we cringe at the thought of all that time and energy we’ll have to expend. Instead of overwhelming yourself, start small. Set a timer for 15 minutes and just start working on it. Allow yourself to stop after 15 minutes if you really want to. But most often, once we actually start working on something, we won’t want to stop. Don’t focus on the big picture, look at the smaller details and take them on one at a time. Any large task seems manageable once we break it down into smaller steps.  

5) Care of the Body – Sometimes our feelings of fatigue are caused by physical deficiencies, not mental. Be sure you are getting enough rest, eating food that nourishes your body, drinking enough water, getting enough exercise, etc. Especially when we’re very busy, we tend to grab the quickest, easiest meals, which aren’t always the best choice for our bodies. Eating a lot of highly processed foods and sugar is like putting watered-down gasoline into our cars. In order for our cars to run smoothly, we need to maintain them properly, and so it is with our bodies also. Remember, the body is the vehicle for the mind and soul!   

Finally, remember to reward yourself from time to time, and be gentle with yourself! There will always be things that “need” to be done. But some of us take on way more than we can handle, and our lives turn into a pit of drudgery because of it. Try to eliminate the things that truly don’t bring you joy, or at least minimize the time you spend on them. Do what you can, and let the rest go. Or ask for help. Don’t feel you have to do everything yourself.

 Remember that motivation, just like happiness, is something we CHOOSE. We may need to give ourselves a little push at the beginning, but once we get into the right mindset, it’s simple to stay there if we choose to.

 

 

Big Thinking vs Small Thinking

July 6, 2016 2 comments

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Big Thinking vs Small Thinking

What exactly is big thinking? Well, that’s a simple question that requires a complex answer. You see, thinking big encompasses a lot of territory. It takes in self-worth and strengths. It involves attitude and belief. It requires courage and the ability to see the world in a different way. Above all, it requires a real desire to effectuate change in your life. It requires that you get rid of misconceptions and that you break damaging and ingrained old habits. In short, thinking big requires work. It is definitely not a shortcut or a hack. Instead, it is a slow and steady movement in a positive direction. Because of this, thinking big is not for everyone.

The opposite of thinking big, obviously, is thinking small. One of the best ways to understand big thought is to take a look at small thinking. Small thinking is everything big thinking is not. People who are in the habit of thinking small have an inability to take a long view. They value more immediate, and more transitory, gratifications. They tend to be unable to defer smaller, easily obtainable, rewards in favor of larger, more difficult rewards. Because of these habits, small thinkers often settle for less. They actually do believe that less is more, mainly because they can’t imagine themselves obtaining more than they already have.

This doesn’t mean that small thinkers don’t have dreams, they do. They just don’t see how any of their dreams could ever become real. This results in some interesting actions. A small thinker may dream about and talk about goal X. However, because they don’t think big enough, they actually take steps towards result Y. X and Y are the exact opposite of each other. Yet, the small thinker doesn’t see the contradiction in wanting one thing and then actively moving to achieve that thing’s opposite. That strange result is objectively obvious, but subjectively, to the small thinker it’s simply business as usual.

So, how do you stop thinking small and start thinking big? By changing the way you think and act. Your thoughts influence you actions. Your actions influence your thoughts. This means that big thoughts have an incredible amount of power to influence your actions. If you’re a small thinker, this means no more contradictory behavior. You can start aligning your actions with your thoughts and your thoughts with your actions and start seeing some solid positive gains in your life.

 

 

 

How To Regain Personal Momentum

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Have you lost the enthusiasm and sense of purpose in your personal life? Some signs might be that you’re tired all the time, out of shape, bored, lack self-confidence and feel stuck in a rut. You’ve lost your momentum.

When you lose your personal momentum you lose the desire to pull yourself up and get going again. It’s like you’re stuck in quicksand and it keeps pulling you down. Unlike quicksand, you have to start moving again to gain the momentum you lost and get back into the life you want. Here are some tips to get back in the momentum game:

  • Socialize – Gain energy from positive people in your life. Take advantage of friends and family members you feel great being around.
  • Set ONE priority – It’s easy to become overwhelmed by things you must do. If you set one priority for an activity, you’ll be more apt to finish it.
  • Make time – Set a time in concrete to begin the activity. Do it no matter how you feel at the moment.
  • Make space for the activity – Set yourself up for success by making room for the work you’re about to do. That may mean clearing off your desk or setting your alarm clock for an earlier wake-up time.
  • Complete the project – Don’t stop or look back or forward until you completely finish the project at hand.
  • Use a timer – Until that timer goes off, be committed to work on the activity or project you set as a priority. No checking emails or answering the phone until it’s completed or the timer rings.
  • Set small increments of time – Especially at first – you don’t want to overwhelm yourself, so set small amounts of time to devote to your project that will be easy to do.
  • Don’t let anything stand in your way – Take some type of action toward your goal even if you don’t feel like it or something monumental happens to ruin your day. Do something.
  • Don’t skip your work times –Whether it’s exercising or getting busy on a novel, meet the times you set for work like it’s a life or death appointment.

“Stuff” is bound to happen to push you off track. You or a family member could catch the flu and be inundated with doctors’ appointments and bed rest. Your car might break down or your job might require that you work evenings.

The main thing about regaining personal momentum is not to give up. You’ve got to drag yourself back up and begin or restart again and never look back. It’s a skill that all those who have accomplished great things has learned –and it’s a skill you must practice to reach your goals and fulfill your dreams.

 

 

 

 

 

 

25 Days of Power – Day 3 Empowerment Fun Day

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25 Days of Power – Day 3 “Empowerment Fun Today”
 
It’s the weekend! At times, I know we take life waaaay too seriously. Some people take it to the point of not being able to enjoy their life’s journey. They don’t laugh, do fun things, or even just relax. I encourage you today (Saturday) to empower yourself and others around you with fun and laughter.
 
Proverbs 17:22 (KJV) – “A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit dries the bones.”
 
Today’s Power Challenge:
Do Something Empowering Today That is Filled With Laughter, Fun and Lots of Love.

 

 

 

 

 

My 21 Days of Fasting and Prayer Journey

August 11, 2015 Leave a comment

testimonyI pray that this article finds you experiencing the goodness of God in your everyday life, ministry and business.

As some people know I completed 21 days of fasting and prayer on August 8th. The purpose of the fast was for clarity, understanding and direction. The reasons I decided to fast were because one, I feeling sluggish in my spirit, second, I was spiritually tired and weary, third, I knew something was missing spiritually and naturally, but I couldn’t put my finger on it and fourth, I wanted God to reveal to me what I couldn’t see going on around me and what I didn’t understand was going on within me.

I chose the Daniel’s fast because the Word of God teaches in Daniel 10 that Daniel set his mind to gain understanding and he humbled himself before God through 21 days of fasting. I wanted the spiritual warfare to be defeated by the power of the Holy Spirit on my behalf and I needed a strength stronger than my own to conquer the state of mind that I was in.

What Has This 21 Days Journey Been Like For Me?

Overall, this experience was a blessing for me. It started off good, however, I was disappointed that some people who I thought would (and should) join me didn’t. There were some family and friends that I was depending on to be a part of this journey. What a “breakthrough” for me that they did not. In the past, my discouragement would come from expecting people I know to be a part of what I was doing. Today, I only expect the ones God wants to be a part to be a apart of what I am doing?

As my inner man was being strengthen, the Lord revealed to me three main things that were lacking in my life concerning my ministry, calling and business:

  1. Momentum –  mine was low because I was focusing on the wrong people wanting the right results.
  2. Asking – I was asking the wrong person for help. The right person became the wrong person when he/she doesn’t honor their word. I was wrong to continue asking the person for help.
  3. Accountability – I wasn’t accountable to the right people because my momentum  was low and I was focused on the wrong person.

What I Know For Sure!

I have been entrusted with the wisdom of God, a preaching assignment, and an awesome gift of teaching. Because my momentum and excitement became weary in doing well, I sat on my gifts for a season – using them “just a little bit.” God revealed to me that I am equipped and trained with all that I need to experience the more abundant life purposed for me.

The Lord showed me that there are people who I am assigned to – that’s you and others – that are waiting for me to continue on in my assignment showing up in a big way for them with what He has given me. I have been entrusted  with the solutions to their problems and answers to their questions.

What’s My Commitment To God and You!

As a result of this time of fasting and prayer my commitments are:

  1. I commit to trusting completely in God being led by His Spirit in knowing who to trust in the natural.
  2. I commit to using my spiritual gifts and talents wholeheartedly to empower, equip and train the Body of Christ with biblical principles and strategies for victorious living.
  3. I commit to using my business and ministry training and skills to teach other how to be successful in the market place and in marketplace ministry.
  4. I commit to establishing divine connections for spiritual growth and success in kingdom living and prosperity.

Having the gift of wisdom means having other gifts connected to it. One can teach without wisdom just releasing information. However, with the gift of wisdom, it is hard to teach and not bring about transformation in the lives of others.

I have been entrusted with a lot from God and I commit to doing “greater works” from now until it’s time for my glory transition.

Thanks to those who took this 21 day journey with me, those who prayed for me and for being connected to me.

My commitment to you is to stay connected to you, serving you with what I have in a spirit of truth, integrity and loyalty.

My Special Gift For You!

As a thank you for reading this article (or shall I say long article – lol) and for being connected with me I will be giving to you some items from my teaching products to help you in your life, ministry and/or business.

I will post another article tomorrow with the web page link for you to access your special gifts.  The web page will be live until August 31, 2015. Be sure to access your “special free” gifts by then.

YOU are Very Special to me. I am humbled and honored to be connected to you.  My prayer is that you will experience God’s very best for your life, ministry and/or career.

I love you with the love of the Lord.

In His Integrity,

Minister Ginger London

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