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Patience Day 13 – 3 Things You Must Do After An Impatient Outburst

September 1, 2018 Leave a comment

No matter how patient a person is, they’re bound to lose their cool once in a while. toddler with red adidas sweat shirt

While I want to stay positive and focus on the ways you can work to build more patience, the fact remains that we’re all human and sometimes we’re simply going to lose it. Even the most patient people lose their cool sometimes. Rather than beat yourself up over it, listen to three ways to proactively deal with such situations when they arise.

Listen to the teaching audio here: https://stme.in/386wKAfmeU

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Patience Day 10 – Reflect On When You’ve Been Too Impatient

August 29, 2018 Leave a comment

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It’s a fact of life. Sometimes we’re going to be impatient, and we’re also going to feel bad about it. Perhaps we’ve hurt someone’s feelings due to our lack of patience or maybe we’ve made a fool of ourselves because we let our frustration get the best of us. It happens. We’re only human. It’s what you do about these lapses that really matters. Let’s take a look at how to reflect on what you’ve been too impatient and how to handle such situations.

Recognize Impatience Has Occurred

First, it’s important to recognize your impatient transgression. Sometimes it can be tempting to just push such things under the rug, but doing so rarely helps us to do better in the future. It’s when we acknowledge our weaknesses or mistakes that we can correct them. So take time to admit what has happened so that you can deal with it. You definitely need to admit the issue to yourself. It can also be helpful to admit your mistake to others if you’ve hurt someone or caused hard feelings.

Reflect on the Incident

Once you’ve recognized what you’ve done, the next step is to reflect upon it. Think about the underlying reasons you might have acted so impatiently. Consider how you were feeling at the time, whether there were specific things that triggered you and if this might be a pattern you encounter often. The more questions you can answer for yourself, the better you will be at resolving the problem and getting better at avoiding such un-pleasantries in the future.

Make Amends

If you have hurt someone’s feelings, you really should take time to apologize. You’ll feel better, and so will they. In addition, you’ll be letting go of any negative feelings that may hold in a pattern of continuing to exhibit such behaviors in the future. It’s easier to make change when you’ve freed yourself from the burden of regrets. Starting with a clean slate will let you move on in a positive manner.

Plan for the Future

Finally, you need to learn from your mistakes and plan for ways to avoid making the same ones in the future.

Assignment Day 10

Write down the specific things you have done wrong that caused some impatience in your life.

Beside each one, make a note of what you could have done better. This is a fantastic exercise for gaining perspective and for making real, lasting change. Seeing your proposed actions steps on paper is a powerful tool for pushing you forward along your journey to do better.

Follow these steps when you feel you’ve been impatient. Doing so will feel so much better than wallowing in your regret or simply trying to forget about the incident. The hard work of self-reflection is all a part of your journey to becoming a more patient person

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Patience Day 6 -Patience Is A Virtue! Or Is It?

August 26, 2018 Leave a comment

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Patience truly can be a virtue. It can assist you in a number of ways across various settings in your life. But are there times when being patience can actually be a hindrance? Yes, I believe there are. I think it’s important we address them so that you don’t find yourself getting stuck in any negative patterns in the name of being patient. Allow me to share with you just a handful of the things you may need to be wary of when it comes to your idea of patience. Don’t let patience be an excuse for any of these three things…..

  1. Missed Opportunities

“Good things come to those who wait.” This is not a phrase I’m terribly fond of. The reason is that those who wait may often be doing so out of negative emotions like fear or insecurity. When you settle in too patiently, you can sometimes miss out on a really great opportunity. It can be tempting to wait for just the right time or to tell yourself you’re being patient when, in reality, you’re giving into negative emotions and failing to leave your comfort zone. If there’s something you want and you find yourself waiting around to get it, I think it’s important to take some time for self-reflection. Ask yourself why it is you’re not taking action to go after what you desire. Be honest about those answers. Then take just one step toward your goal. You may just find yourself moving onto taking big leaps and going for your dreams.

  1. Hanging on Too Long

What about those times we hang onto things that are bad for us, just waiting for them to get better? I know I’ve fallen into that trap, and I imagine you have, too. Whether it’s an abusive relationship, a job you hate or something else entirely, you probably can identify a time you’ve stuck around waiting for someone or some situation to change. Again, this is a time for introspection. If you’re dealing with something like this right now, decide what’s keeping you from making a move. Then address the problem with proactive action. Being patient by relying on false hope is never in your best interest.

Scripture: Proverbs 13:12“Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life.”

     3. Becoming a Doormat

On a similar note, do you find yourself being far too patient with people who don’t seem to treat you with as much respect as you give them? That’s what’s known as being a doormat, and it’s no fun. Please understand that the character flaw is not yours; it belongs to those would take advantage of you. However, you do hold the power in this type of situation. Rather than sit around patiently accommodating others who don’t give you the same courtesy, try setting some boundaries. A simple “no” to an unwanted request can be an incredibly empowering tool.

These are some common ways patience can be less than a virtue. Be on the lookout for such traps. Be savvy and aware when you see them. Give yourself the power to let go of patience during these times and do what’s right for you.

Assignment Day 6:

1.  What opportunities have you missed in the act of “waiting patiently?”

2.  What area or areas of your life are you “hanging on too long?”

3.  Name the people in your life who disrespect you or who are using you as a doormat.    What do you plan to do about it?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Revive Me Again, O Lord!

July 23, 2018 3 comments

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It has been some time since I have written on my blog. This year so far has been one that has required me to focus on others. My dad had some medical challenges at the beginning of the year and I did some traveling with him to make sure he would be okay (not to mention I got a trip out of it). He still has some challenge with getting his blood count number up, but things seem to be going well. If you know of any foods he can eat to bring the number up, please post below. I will be very appreciative for any information that will help him. 

After doctor appointments and several trips (fun trips!), I find myself saying the words that can be found in Psalm 51:10-12, “Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a loyal spirit within me. Do not banish me from your presence,  and don’t take your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of your salvation, and make me willing to obey you.”

I know my life’s purpose and assignment and my prayer now is to be restore with joy and renewed with a loyal spirit.  I love my family, but it is mid-July and time for me to regroup and refocus on what I am suppose to be doing in the earth. I have a trip planned in September that will bring a “time of refreshing” opportunity so that I can “get myself together!”

Keep me in your prayers as I finish this year strong and on top.

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Your Inner Circle Can Make Or Break You

August 3, 2017 Leave a comment

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Anyone who has ever attempted to reach a goal knows that the road to the end goal is often filled with challenges and changes. While this is necessary, it’s usually not easy, but the reward is becoming a better, stronger, more able person – whether your goal is business, or personal.

What makes the challenges and changes so much easier is to make sure your inner circle – those you spend the most time with – are aligned with your own values and goals. Why create dysfunction in your own life by surrounding yourself with those friends who don’t “get” what it is you’re working towards? It is better to envelop yourself with friends for whom working to attain new and exciting goals is a given.

There will be lots of negativity just waiting to break down your walls. This negativity can take the form of outside forces such as the people who are around you that don’t understand you. They will tell you that you can’t do what it is you desire. They’ll make sure you know all the reasons why it won’t work. What they really are is jealous – jealous that you’ve made the decision to grow and become something that right now, you are not.

Negativity could come from within you. You may want to reach your goals, but internally you don’t believe you can. Maybe the tasks seem daunting and you get overwhelmed.

And, negativity can come from things you have no control over, as well.

Who do you want surrounding you when you need support? Of course, you want people aligned to your purpose – people who will hold you up when things get rough, and when you believe you can’t do it, they’ll tell you that you can.

The one thing you don’t want to do is assume that your own willpower will suffice. This may be true, but why take the chance? What you need is to use your inner circle to help you build up your positive habits, celebrate your successes, and if failures happen, they’ll give you a shoulder to cry on, but then they’ll encourage you to get back to work!

This is one thing that all successful people have figured out for themselves… that by surrounding themselves with positive, uplifting, and supportive people who themselves are always reaching for growth, they will reach their own growth that much easier.

So, your inner circle can indeed make or break you. Make sure you choose wisely!

Challenge Assignment:

Do you have negative people around you? Who are they? What can you do right now to start eliminating the negative in your life?

 

Finding Your Inner Circle of People

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An inner circle of friends is an awesome way to create and maintain a harmonious and balanced life. But who makes up your valued inner circle may surprise you! You want those people in your inner circle to be the ones who challenge you, make you think in new and different ways, and above all, are honest with you all the time.

It’s great to have friends who think you’re wonderful because you are, but it’s valuable to have friends who can also point out (nicely, of course, and with love) where you might need some work. And luckily, if your inner circle is made up of the right types of people, they’ll help you do the work that needs to be done to create a happier, healthier you!

Your inner circle is a circle of close friends that surrounds you that you trust implicitly. They are the people who you naturally turn to for advice and reasoning. They know how to listen, and give you their opinions without bias. It goes without saying that choosing the people who are in your inner circle is a decision that should not be taken lightly.

Your inner circle will grow organically – you can’t simply go out and pick and choose who is involved. You meet and learn about people, and get together with them, and you’ll notice that some will naturally gravitate to the top of your “favorites” list. Ask yourself why.

Be aware of what it is about them you enjoy and value. It’s easy to choose inner circle members who think you’re wonderful, but much more difficult to choose those who will challenge you instead. This takes an honest assessment of yourself, your strengths and weaknesses, and helps you choose your inner circle according to what is best for you – not necessarily what feels best at the time, or all of the time.

Overall, the people you want closest to you should be supportive, empathetic, honest, energetic, trustworthy, intelligent, kind, loving, and enthusiastic. Above all, each member must be positive-minded, and optimistic! You should admire each of the members and look up to them.

Surrounding yourself with challenging people who you feel are “above” you in certain areas of your life will help you rise to their level, and you’ll see successes in areas you may never have dreamed of! This is the true beauty of an inner circle that challenges you.

Challenge Assignment:

Review the list of names that make up your inner circle. Should you remove any of them?

 

What Is An Inner Circle?

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An inner circle is a group of very close friends that you look to for support. They come from all walks of life, and each has a specific skill set or set of talents that they bring to the table within your friendship. You, too, have this specific set of strengths that others admire. Within your inner circle of friends, you want to have a wide variety of personalities that will not accept mediocrity but will challenge you to be more than you are today. This is truly what an inner circle is all about.

You naturally gravitate towards those people you admire. It could be that someone has accomplished something you’d like to accomplish. Maybe you admire the level of success they’ve achieved within their personal, social, or business life. You may feel as if they are “higher up” than you, so you look up to them.

These are the people you want to make up your inner circle. Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” So you want those five people (five being a somewhat arbitrary number) to be people who are in a position in life that you’d like to be in as well.

People who have achieved a measure of success in life have learned myriad lessons from their experiences along the way. They have earned wisdom through those experiences. These lessons and wisdom are passed on in inner circles to those who are up-and-coming and need the support, direction, and guidance of someone who has already traveled the road.

If personal growth, ministry or business success is something you desire, surround yourself with people in your inner circle who are emotionally and spiritually at a level that you’d like to achieve. This may mean learning new and different spiritual teachings, or finally dealing with emotional baggage that’s been holding you back. While uncomfortable to deal with, imagine life without that baggage!

If business growth is your goal, search out mentors in the business world who are enjoying a level of success that you think is impossible for you to find. Then let the lessons from these people stretch your limits and help you grow to achieve your own business success. Keep an open mind, and tell your ego to take a vacation while you’re working to learn new lessons and open your mind to new possibilities.

Challenge Assignment:

How do you define Inner Circle? Why?

 

 

 

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