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Patience Day 9 – Get In The Habit Of Realizing When Patience Is In Order (part 2)

August 28, 2018 Leave a comment

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Yesterday I talked about the times when the virtue of patience is definitely more in need than others. The first two areas were: when you really want something and when someone is getting on your last nerve. Here are the remaining two areas.

When You’re Feeling Stressed

With stress come a lot of strong emotions. Emotional responses are often impulses. They certainly don’t rely on patience. Stressful times call for extra patience in order to be sure you handle the situation in a manner that you won’t later regret. Stress is probably one of the best signals that patience is in order.

Psalm 118:5-6 (NKJV)- I called on the Lord in distress; The Lord answered me and set me in a broad place. The Lord is on my side; I will not fear. What can man do to me?  

When You’re Feeling Pressured

Nothing’s worse than having your boss breathing down your neck or when your own high standards are causing you to feel under the gun. When you’re feeling pressured to get something done or to meet a certain goal, you naturally want to hurry things along. This can be a mistake. Being patient and thinking things through can be your best defense against making needless mistakes that will only set you further back. It may seem counterintuitive, but taking time to strategize is your best bet when you’re under pressure.

These are some examples of when patience may be in order. Take note of any others you think of. This information can help you to make proactive decisions in the future and to employ patience when it’s most needed.

Assignment Day 9 – Read the Scripture Passage and Meditate On It

James 1:-2-4 The Message Bible (MSG) – Faith Under Pressure

“Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors. So don’t try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

Patience Day 8 -Get In The Habit Of Realizing When Patience Is In Order (Part 1)

August 27, 2018 Leave a comment

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There are some times when the virtue of patience is definitely more in need than others. It’s important to recognize when being patient is crucial to attaining a positive outcome to a particular situation. It can be hard to see the necessity during stressful or highly emotional situations, so let’s take a look at some examples ahead of time so you can recognize them when they occur. Understanding these four signs will help you to get in the habit of realizing when patience is in order. Let’s start with two of them today.

1. When You Really Want Something

You know that feeling you get when you want something so bad you can practically taste it? Well, that sensation is a clear sign that you should put on the brakes and pull out all the patience you can muster. Remember, you don’t want to wait so long that you miss out on an opportunity. Taking some time to be patient and evaluate a situation, however, can help you to more strategically get what you want.

Philippians 4:6 (NKJV)Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;  

2. When Someone Is Getting on Your Last Nerve

When someone you care about or even a stranger is pushing every button you have, you should probably realize that you need some patience. You’re feeling triggered by their actions, and there’s likely an underlying reason why your emotions are running high. Take a moment to think about it and decide how to proceed in a way that will show sensitivity for the other person, while also meeting your own needs.

“You don’t know the depth of your character until you have been brought under some pressure.” ~ Ginger London

Assignment Day 8

Selah!   Think on these things.

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Take a moment to calm your spirit

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Patience Challenge Day 5 -Quick Patience Tip – Count To Ten

August 24, 2018 Leave a comment

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In yesterday’s post, I gave you some ways to practice patience. However, there’s one I left out. The reason I did is because it deserves its very own post. That’s how important and useful I think this tip is. And it’s probably one you’ve known about since you were a child. That’s right, counting to ten. This tried and true strategy works. Let’s take a closer look at this quick patience tip and count to ten.

Why It Works

Thomas Jefferson is quoted as saying, “When angry, count to ten before you speak. If very angry, a hundred.” This is still very sage advice today. The trick to this simple strategy lies in two components. These are time and distraction. It’s quite perfect, actually, because it buys you some time to disengage from whatever is frustrating you. You can’t possible react impulsively or aggressively if you’re busy counting. It similarly distracts you because you won’t be thinking about your current problem. Counting forces you to stop obsessing for just a bit in order to gain your bearings. Just this short break can be enough to really put things in perspective.

When to Do It

The great thing about this technique is that it’s so easy. It’s also quick and requires no specific tools. In fact, no one even has to know that you’re doing it. Any time you’re feeling overwhelmed, agitated, annoyed or frustrated, you can employ this strategy. It can be used in the moment by simply taking a pause in the conversation. It will look as if you’re just thinking of what to say next. You can also count to ten before a big event you’re anticipating in order to feel more relaxed. It’s quite versatile.

Tips That Might Help

Using this technique in combination with other strategies tends to be most helpful. For example, taking deep and controlled breaths when counting to yourself can help you to relax and to become more mindful. It’s quite grounding to engage in breathing exercises. Also, taking note of the feelings within your body at the current moment is a way to bring you back to the here and now, as well as to release the tension you’re feeling. These little extras will ensure you’re cooled off and thinking more clearly at the end of your ten count.

You might not have realized just how powerful this little exercise can be. I hope you now remember to count to ten during impatient times. I assure you it is likely to bring you positive results.

Assignment Day 5:

Try counting to 10 over the next two days 3 times a day. Write in your journal how you felt physically, spiritually, and mentally when counting and afterwards.

 

 

 

 

Patience Challenge Day 4 – Patience Is A Skill – Practice Helps

August 22, 2018 Leave a comment

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Patience doesn’t come easily to all of us. It’s a skill that has to be practiced in order to be fully developed. Rather than feel frustrated with yourself for your lack of this precious trait, I’d like to show you just how you can work to gain competence and start to become a more patient person. Don’t worry. You can learn to improve upon this skillset. It just takes practice.

Why You Need to Practice Patience

Patience can hurt you in a great many ways, even in areas you may never have suspected. If you’re regularly an impatient person, chances are good that others have noticed. When you develop a reputation for being short-tempered or unsympathetic, people will begin to react accordingly. You could miss out on career opportunities due to your reputation, and your personal relationships could be damaged.

Signs and Causes of Impatience

Pay attention to your body and its reactions when you find yourself feeling impatient. There are probably some common signs you exhibit during such times. Once you recognize them, you can take proactive steps to address your emotional state. Perhaps you find your fists clenching or your muscles becoming tense. Many people first notice they are becoming agitated when their breathing changes. It may become shallow and rapid. Maybe your feet start to become restless or particular emotions are running high. Take note of your particular physical cues to help identify when you are feeing less than patient. Once identified, you can work harder to overcome these specific issues.

Ways to Practice Patience

If you feel tension in your body, practice relaxing your muscles in order to release that pent-up energy. You can start from the top of your body and slowly relax each muscle group. This focus will give you time to calm down and to then deal with the cause of your impatience. Also, some positive self-talk can help. Remind yourself that you are in charge of your feelings; they don’t control you. This type of encouraging yourself can change your mood dramatically. Another strategy is to move your attention from yourself and how you’re feeling onto others. If you’re impatient with someone else, try to imagine what is causing them to act in the manner they are. A little empathy goes a long way.

If you’re not a naturally patient person, it’s okay. It truly is. You can practice patience on a regular basis in order to become better at showing it. You’ll soon see it really is possible to be more patient with yourself and with those around you.

Assignment Day 4:  Write down in your journal the things that cause you to become impatient. Then look over your list once it begins to accumulate so that you can search for common patterns.

 

 

 

Patience Challenge Day 2 – What Exactly Is Patience?

August 21, 2018 Leave a comment

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“Patience is a virtue!” But what exactly is patience? It’s important to have at least a basic understanding of the concept and the areas of life that are affected by it if you are to cultivate more of this virtue in your life. That’s what today’s post is all about. We’ll look at brief definitions of what it means to be patient spiritually and naturally, along with an overview of the ways patience touches your life and why it’s important.

About Patience

Here are a few of the ways Merriam-Webster defines patient. Patient is, “bearing pains or trials calmly or without complaint.” “Not hasty or impetuous,” and “steadfast, despite opposition, difficulty or adversity,” are also definitions found within this dictionary. While the concept can be used in different ways, it generally seems to refer to the ability to tolerate discomfort.

This tolerance can be in terms of waiting for something we greatly desire, managing negative feelings during difficult times or maintaining composure when feeling rattled by the behavior of another. One thing to note is that, despite the dictionary definition, how each of us defines patience is likely to be different, even across various stages of our lives.

Biblically, patience comes from a Greek word which is derived from two words. Hupo which means “under” and Meno which means to abide. Simply said, “If you rest or remain in God, no matter what things or circumstances you are brought under you will endure” (Ginger London). God uses patience to as one of the processes to make this happen in your life.

The Impact of Patience Throughout Life

Because patience involves tolerating discomfort across settings, it makes sense that the concept would have unique significance to individuals at various times in their lives. The ability to be patient also affects different parts of your life, no matter what stage you may currently be in.

Being able to handle frustration in whatever form it presents itself is beneficial to your mental health. The ability to be patient during particularly stressful or hectic life stages can save you a great deal of unhappiness and strife. It can improve relationships when you are better able to manage your emotions with regard to the behavior of others. Patience is necessary on the job, during life transitions such as becoming a parent or moving away and as you reach old age when you find yourself unable to complete tasks with your former ease.

Benefits of Being Patient

Beyond aiding one’s mental state, there are lots of benefits to being patient. With patience, you’re better able to achieve the goals you set for yourself. Because you don’t have the need for immediate gratification, you can weather the struggles in order to wait for the reward of achieving your desired result. You’ll form stronger relationships when you’re a patient person because you are able to be tolerant of behaviors that frustrate you. This tolerance, combined with communication, allows relationships to withstand adversity and continue to grow. Learning to be more patient may even be good for your physical health because it helps to lower stress, which is associated with problems like headaches, digestive issues and ulcers.

Patience is different things to different people. It manifests itself and is needed more at various times in your life and across a number of settings. Above all else, it can benefit you in countless ways to learn to cultivate patience, and that’s just what we’ll do throughout this journey.

Day 2 Assignment:

Write down in a journal five areas in your life you need to practice and develop more  patience. (for example, relationships, work)

 

 

 

Patience Challenge Day 1 – Welcome And How Patient Are You?

August 20, 2018 Leave a comment

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Hello and welcome to the “Let Patience Have Its Perfect Work!” 30 Day Practice Patience Challenge! Chances are, you’re here because you want to become a more patient person. You may even feel your patience level could use some serious improvement, and that’s okay. We all have our weaknesses. Becoming a patient person takes work for many.

The key to becoming more patient in your day-to-day life is to first understand what your current patience level is, the areas in which you’d most like to improve and what it will take to reach your ideal vision of patience in your life. You also need to know why it is you want to do better. Knowing your “why” is often the key to sustaining new habits. Good news! All of these things are just what I’m here to help you accomplish over the next 30 days.

We’ll begin the challenge by defining patience and exploring why it’s important to gain more of it. I’ll also cover ways to become more patient with practice. You’ll learn hands-on tools for bringing more patience to your life, not just fluff. These are real strategies and biblical principles you can practice each step of the way.

I’ll also ask you to engage in a great deal of self-reflection. Making any kind of change requires introspection. You have to understand your motivations, areas in which you might be resistant and, once again, why it’s so important to you to undertake a particular transformation. Taking time to answer such questions allows you to be sure you’re getting what you need out of the process and helps you to keep yourself on track toward your desired outcomes, all the while making adjustments and tweaks along the way.

We’ll discuss the other side of patience – those times when we lose our cool. We all do it, and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. However, bouts of impatience, depending upon their severity, can cause us some serious problems in our lives and in our relationships. I’ll show you what to do when you lose it or feel overwhelmed. There are a number of tricks and tools you can employ to calm yourself when you’re feeling impatient and some ways to manage your emotions until patience is matured in you.

So, are you feeling ready to start learning? I sure hope so! I’m excited to help you along this journey of gaining greater patience, with other people and with yourself. There are an awful lot of things in this world that are out of our control. We truly become powerful when we learn to accept that and to utilize our stores of patience to get us through the most frustrating times.

Assignment Day 1

Use a writing journal to capture your journey over the next 30 days. Start with a self-reflection answering the following question. Today, how patient are you?

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Inner Circle Challenge

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It’s Time for the “Inner Circle” Challenge – The Power of Surrounding Yourself With The Right People.

If you are like me, you have been believing for the right people to connect with to advance to the next level, to support you in life, ministry or business, or just to be there as a genuine friend. So, to encourage myself, I put together a challenge on the Inner Circle – The Power of Surrounding Yourself With The Right People.

I’m tired of making connections with people, that don’t last. My desire is for the real connections that are life-long.

This challenge will  teach you the importance of having a strong and like-minded support system. There will be three main areas the challenge will focus on which include, Inner Circle Pitfalls, Inner Circle Power, and Building Your Circle. Some of the topics addressed during this challenge will be:

*What is an Inner Circle?
•Why You Should Keep Your Inner Circle Small
•Your Inner Circle Can Make or Break You
•Your Inner Circle Environment
•Your Inner Circle Hierarchy
•7 Personality Types to Beware within Your Inner Circle
•8 Traits to Seek in Inner Circle Members
•Finding Your Inner Circle People
•How an Inner Circle Can Help You Reach Your Goals
•Removing Someone from Your Inner Circle

This challenge will include Blog Posts, Facebook Group Posts, Radio Shows, Telecalls, and Webinars.

Let’s Get Started.

Day 1 Challenge Assignment:

Make a list of the names of the  people who have immediate access to you or who surround your life on a daily basis.

 

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