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Family Comes First

April 10, 2018 Leave a comment

 

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Sleep At The Family Reunion!!!!

 

This has been an interesting year so far. I made some new year’s commitments and set some goals for the first quarter and the rest of the year. Well, my father had some health challenges that took precedent over all other things. His medical challenges were more important than any business goals, any training I planned to host, and anything else. One thing I have learned over the last two years is family comes first. My mom and dad, brothers, sister, aunties, cousins and nieces and nephews are very important to me. How about you?

Can you truly say that you put your family first all of the time? If you don’t, there is no need to feel guilty. Many people unintentionally let other things get in the way when they shouldn’t. All that it takes to start putting your family first is a shift in your priorities.

A great example of this is when you start to work crazy hours. While your objective may be to provide those “extras” for your family, it results in you neglecting them. So you may come home with gifts and new toys, but is that what your family really wants? They would probably prefer to spend more time with you instead. Over the last 6 six years or so I have purposefully traveled with my parents on their bowling tournament trips, especially with my dad. When I travel with them, they go out of their way to make sure that I am having a good time.

One way to put your family first is by being there for them. When your son or daughter has a sports event, or is in the school play, make of point of attending. If a family member gets sick, help them out as much as possible. My God-mother, my mom’s sister, lives in New Orleans, Louisiana about 98 miles from where we live. Every chance I get I go to spend a couple of days with her in her home. She loves it! When I tell her that I am coming, she counts on it.

Creating stability within your family is a good way of putting your family first. Everyone loves to know that they have someone who they can count on. You can easily do this by creating family routines such as:

  • Regular dinner times
  • Chores for each family member
  • Set bed times
  • Movie night

Though, these things may sound trivial they are very important. By creating a structured routine you are also setting expectations for your family. They know that they are expected for dinner at 6pm each day. Or that every Saturday they have to spend an hour or two helping out with chores.

When you put your family first, each family member will start to follow suit. In turn this creates a caring family that will always be around for each other.

Family is important so don’t neglect yours. Yes, work and being social is important, but they shouldn’t always take precedence over your family.

Oh yeah! My next trip with my dad for one of his bowling tournaments is this May. We are going to Detroit, Michigan. We are driving (ha, ha, ha). He is doing much better, we are working on getting is blood numbers up again.

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Your Inner Circle Can Make Or Break You

August 3, 2017 Leave a comment

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Inner Circle Challenge Day 4

Anyone who has ever attempted to reach a goal knows that the road to the end goal is often filled with challenges and changes. While this is necessary, it’s usually not easy, but the reward is becoming a better, stronger, more able person – whether your goal is business, or personal.

What makes the challenges and changes so much easier is to make sure your inner circle – those you spend the most time with – are aligned with your own values and goals. Why create dysfunction in your own life by surrounding yourself with those friends who don’t “get” what it is you’re working towards? It is better to envelop yourself with friends for whom working to attain new and exciting goals is a given.

There will be lots of negativity just waiting to break down your walls. This negativity can take the form of outside forces such as the people who are around you that don’t understand you. They will tell you that you can’t do what it is you desire. They’ll make sure you know all the reasons why it won’t work. What they really are is jealous – jealous that you’ve made the decision to grow and become something that right now, you are not.

Negativity could come from within you. You may want to reach your goals, but internally you don’t believe you can. Maybe the tasks seem daunting and you get overwhelmed.

And, negativity can come from things you have no control over, as well.

Who do you want surrounding you when you need support? Of course, you want people aligned to your purpose – people who will hold you up when things get rough, and when you believe you can’t do it, they’ll tell you that you can.

The one thing you don’t want to do is assume that your own willpower will suffice. This may be true, but why take the chance? What you need is to use your inner circle to help you build up your positive habits, celebrate your successes, and if failures happen, they’ll give you a shoulder to cry on, but then they’ll encourage you to get back to work!

This is one thing that all successful people have figured out for themselves… that by surrounding themselves with positive, uplifting, and supportive people who themselves are always reaching for growth, they will reach their own growth that much easier.

So, your inner circle can indeed make or break you. Make sure you choose wisely!

Challenge Assignment:

Do you have negative people around you? Who are they? What can you do right now to start eliminating the negative in your life?

 

Finding Your Inner Circle of People

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An inner circle of friends is an awesome way to create and maintain a harmonious and balanced life. But who makes up your valued inner circle may surprise you! You want those people in your inner circle to be the ones who challenge you, make you think in new and different ways, and above all, are honest with you all the time.

It’s great to have friends who think you’re wonderful because you are, but it’s valuable to have friends who can also point out (nicely, of course, and with love) where you might need some work. And luckily, if your inner circle is made up of the right types of people, they’ll help you do the work that needs to be done to create a happier, healthier you!

Your inner circle is a circle of close friends that surrounds you that you trust implicitly. They are the people who you naturally turn to for advice and reasoning. They know how to listen, and give you their opinions without bias. It goes without saying that choosing the people who are in your inner circle is a decision that should not be taken lightly.

Your inner circle will grow organically – you can’t simply go out and pick and choose who is involved. You meet and learn about people, and get together with them, and you’ll notice that some will naturally gravitate to the top of your “favorites” list. Ask yourself why.

Be aware of what it is about them you enjoy and value. It’s easy to choose inner circle members who think you’re wonderful, but much more difficult to choose those who will challenge you instead. This takes an honest assessment of yourself, your strengths and weaknesses, and helps you choose your inner circle according to what is best for you – not necessarily what feels best at the time, or all of the time.

Overall, the people you want closest to you should be supportive, empathetic, honest, energetic, trustworthy, intelligent, kind, loving, and enthusiastic. Above all, each member must be positive-minded, and optimistic! You should admire each of the members and look up to them.

Surrounding yourself with challenging people who you feel are “above” you in certain areas of your life will help you rise to their level, and you’ll see successes in areas you may never have dreamed of! This is the true beauty of an inner circle that challenges you.

Challenge Assignment:

Review the list of names that make up your inner circle. Should you remove any of them?

 

Thanks For Your Patience

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I know it has been a while since I have posted a blog.  Over the past few months a lot has been going on. My father experienced some medical challenges and we had a big family reunion, which I was spear heading. I wasn’t able to post on a regular basis or do any challenges.

I want to thank those of you who prayed for me and my family. Also, I want to thank all for your patience in following my blog. We are more than half way through the year. I am ready now to get started once again with some blog posts on  spiritual and personal growth challenges, as well as, personal, business, and ministry development training.

Please continue to pray for me. I will be humbled and would greatly appreciate it.

The next challenge will be the “Inner Circle” Challenge starting in a week. If you are like me, you are believing God to place or send into your people who are genuine and authentic when it comes to respecting, praying and believing God for your life and success.

Until then, stay encouraged and strong.

Forgiveness – Why Is It So Difficult? Part 1

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When someone we love and trusted has treated us with disdain the last thing on our minds at first is forgiveness. Our dreams have been shattered and we usually become angry and want revenge. Forgiveness isn’t on the horizon.

If you’re infused with anger and resentment toward another person, your thoughts are likely full of negativity. You may also have guilt for how you contributed to the situation or think that forgiving is only for the weak – and you never want to forget the transgression so it will never happen again.

Being judgmental is also a reason why it’s so hard to forgive another. If you perceive the other person as not appreciating you or all you’ve done for them or the love and trust you’ve put in the relationship, it becomes even more difficult. You’re so disappointed by the other person’s behavior that you refuse to put it in the past.

It’s important to remember that forgiveness doesn’t automatically let the person off the hook for what they’ve done. Even if they apologize or make amends for the transgression, you may think they need to continue paying by being non-forgiving and casting them out of your life for good.

You can make the choice to forgive and still not reconcile or accept what they’ve done. But, when your harshness of judging begins to permeate your own life and make you bitter and resentful, forgiveness can be a gift that you give yourself so you can pick up the pieces and go on in a healthy manner.

 

 

25 Days of Power – Day 3 Empowerment Fun Day

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25 Days of Power – Day 3 “Empowerment Fun Today”
 
It’s the weekend! At times, I know we take life waaaay too seriously. Some people take it to the point of not being able to enjoy their life’s journey. They don’t laugh, do fun things, or even just relax. I encourage you today (Saturday) to empower yourself and others around you with fun and laughter.
 
Proverbs 17:22 (KJV) – “A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit dries the bones.”
 
Today’s Power Challenge:
Do Something Empowering Today That is Filled With Laughter, Fun and Lots of Love.

 

 

 

 

 

I Make Friends Easily Positive Affirmation

July 29, 2015 3 comments

I make friends easily wherever I go.

I have many friends. It seems that I make a new friend every time I step out of the house.

I find it easy to talk to everyone and people always seem to like me. My friends think I have a magnetic personality and I think they are correct.

I have a genuine interest in others and I find that making friends is easy when I care about them.

I make it a point to smile at everyone I see. I naturally have a smile on my face and can feel my smile spreading throughout my body. I am a walking, talking smile.

Whenever I am speaking with someone, I make sure to use their name in conversation. I like to make other people feel special and using their name is a great way to accomplish that. Everyone likes to hear his own name.

I always ask for the contact information of any new, potential friend. I follow-up and make an effort to keep in touch.

I realize that there are countless new friends out there I have yet to meet. Every new person is a potential new friend. I give everyone a chance to become a friend.

Today, I am keeping my eyes open for any new friends I can make. I am kind to everyone I meet and treat them like a long-lost friend. I make friends easily wherever I go.

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