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In Loving Memory of Henry London, Jr.

January 10, 2019 Leave a comment
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Henry London, Jr. at Family Gathering

On Monday, January 7, 2019 my family lost one of our beloved family members – Henry London, Jr. He is very dear to our hearts. You see, my cousin was “wrongfully shot” by police officers in 1972. A place was being robbed, he picked up the phone to call the police to report it, the police came to the scene and shot the wrong person.

From that shooting, Henry was paralyzed from the waist down – to never walk again. After the shooting, he lived a productive and love-filled life. He had some medical challenges throughout the years, but he would always come out successfully. He was one of the first people in Baton Rouge, La to have van designed for paralyzed drivers. He was a father and grandfather. He touched so many different lives  (family and a host of friends) with his encouragement, correction, laughter and love. At times, I would spend hours talking with him when I went over to visit.

On Sunday, January 6, 2019 he took sick at home and was rushed to the hospital. It was discovered that his body had an infection. He fought a good fight. When we visited him Monday in the hospital he wasn’t awake, but when his mother began talking to him, he responded with body movements, as best he could. He would do the same type of response when his close friends came and would talk to him. Amazing!!!

Henry lived an additional “47 Years” after the police shooting that left him paralyzed.

His Celebration of Life Ceremony will be Saturday, January 12, 2019 at 10am at the Mt. Pilgrim Baptist Church in Baton Rouge, Louisiana.

We need your prayers as we welcome traveling family members and as we greet community members and friends who are calling and stopping by offering their condolences.

Thank you your prayers.

Minister Ginger London

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Patience Day 16 -Create Awareness About Losing Your Patience

September 4, 2018 Leave a comment

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In today’s blog post, I’d like to focus on understanding patience a bit more. When you become aware of the times you lose your patience, you can begin to take more control of the ways in which you react to stressful situations. Sometimes we don’t even realize when we’ve become impatient until it’s too late, but it is possible to change that by taking time to observe and make note of things that lead you to lose your cool. Let me show you how it works.

Be Aware

First thing’s first. In order to understand and address your specific issues surrounding impatience, you need to know what they are. Gaining insight on this requires some keen observation, self-reflection and brutal honesty. Take some time to brainstorm examples of times you’ve been impatient in the past. What are some of the more disturbing events? Can you guess what the underlying cause of distress was for you? What about the triggers or why you may have reacted as impatiently as you did? Next make a resolve to pay attention to your daily encounters. Decide when an occurrence with others or with only yourself may fall under the category of problematic impatience.

Take Note

When something comes up in your day to day routine that is troubling with regard to stress and becoming impatient, take some notes as soon as you’re in a quiet place and can compose your thoughts. Write down what happened, what triggered the issue, how you felt during and after, along with the actions you took. Once you’ve compiled some examples, review your notes. These will include the earlier notations you made about past events. Look for patterns or clues. Perhaps there are common triggers or reactions. Maybe your reactions to certain types of events are stronger than others. Try to come up with some conclusions regarding your impatience as impartially and honestly as you can.

Make Change In Your Life

Then use your newfound awareness to make change in your life. Again, this won’t happen overnight. But now that you’re armed with relevant information regarding your impatient nature, its causes and manifestations, you can begin to address it proactively. You’ll be far more ready the next time a similar event occurs, and you can better practice your preferred response to such encounters. If it helps, keep taking notes. Write down what you’ve tried, what works and what doesn’t. Use that information to take control of your behavior and responses in the future.

This might seem like a lot of work and even a little intimidating. Don’t worry. I assure you that developing an awareness of the ways you deal with impatience will be well worth your time. There’s nothing like the empowerment of taking control of your own behavioral reactions. Taking charge like this is life changing.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Patience 12 – Using Visualization Exercises To Help With Patience

August 31, 2018 Leave a comment
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Visualization Can Help With Patience

 

Cultivating patience is something that takes time, and ironically, also requires a great deal of patience. However, you don’t have to just sit around idly twiddling your thumbs and hoping to become a more patient person. In fact, that approach would likely not result in the spiritual maturity or self-development you desire. I’ve already shown you a few ways you can proactively work to become a more patient person. In today’s post, I’d like to explore one more. Visualization is a powerful tool to reaching a number of positive gains, and it can definitely help you to acquire more patience if you take the time to invest in the practice. Let’s look at how using visualization exercises can help with patience.

About Visualization

Visualization is a process in which you create an image in your mind of a future event you’d like to see come to light. It involves imagining and seeing events unfold in a way that is desirable to you. For visualization to be effective, it is best if you focus on the details of a scenario, down to the individual steps involved and the surroundings in which the event occurs. People have been using this method for centuries to help them attain success and to achieve their goals. It’s actually been scientifically studied and proven to provide tangible benefits. “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.”

Benefits of Visualization

You can gain many benefits from visualizing yourself becoming more patient in life and in pursuing your dreams and goals. Many of the positive results of this practice can be used to help you increase your patience. In fact, one of the advantages of visualization is its versatility; it’s a tool that can be used anywhere at nearly any time and tailored to your specific needs. Professional athletes have used variations of this strategy to improve their performance. Visualizing your desires can help you to gain clarity and enhance your potential. As with meditation, this practice also has a track record of improving focus and lowering stress. Both of these are useful in becoming more patient. Seeing yourself becoming more patient, you can decrease nervousness, increase confidence, and increased patience.

Why It Works

Visualization is a process that can help you reach your goals. It actually transforms your brain and rearranges the connections within it. According to research in the field, neurons that control communication within the brain interpret visual imagery just as they would concrete actions. Therefore, actions are set in motion within our minds to form these pathways in the same manner as if you’d actually completed the steps you imagined.

Assignment Day 12

Find a quiet place where you can begin to practice visualization to develop patience in your life.

 

Patience Day 8 -Get In The Habit Of Realizing When Patience Is In Order (Part 1)

August 27, 2018 Leave a comment

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There are some times when the virtue of patience is definitely more in need than others. It’s important to recognize when being patient is crucial to attaining a positive outcome to a particular situation. It can be hard to see the necessity during stressful or highly emotional situations, so let’s take a look at some examples ahead of time so you can recognize them when they occur. Understanding these four signs will help you to get in the habit of realizing when patience is in order. Let’s start with two of them today.

1. When You Really Want Something

You know that feeling you get when you want something so bad you can practically taste it? Well, that sensation is a clear sign that you should put on the brakes and pull out all the patience you can muster. Remember, you don’t want to wait so long that you miss out on an opportunity. Taking some time to be patient and evaluate a situation, however, can help you to more strategically get what you want.

Philippians 4:6 (NKJV)Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;  

2. When Someone Is Getting on Your Last Nerve

When someone you care about or even a stranger is pushing every button you have, you should probably realize that you need some patience. You’re feeling triggered by their actions, and there’s likely an underlying reason why your emotions are running high. Take a moment to think about it and decide how to proceed in a way that will show sensitivity for the other person, while also meeting your own needs.

“You don’t know the depth of your character until you have been brought under some pressure.” ~ Ginger London

Assignment Day 8

Selah!   Think on these things.

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Take a moment to calm your spirit

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Patience Day 7 – 5 Signs That You’re An Impatient Person

August 26, 2018 Leave a comment

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You’re taking part in this challenge, so it’s likely you want to improve upon your level of patience. However, do you consider yourself to be an impatient person? It can be difficult to see ourselves in a less-than-pleasant light and to actually admit to our weaknesses. However, self-improvement requires honest introspection. You don’t have to tell anyone else, but it’s good for you to be able to admit to yourself if you could use some work in this area. So here are five signs you may be an impatient person.

You Rarely Live in the Moment

Are you always looking ahead to tomorrow, next month or someday? Failing to live in the moment may be an indicator of impatience. You want great things to happen, and you want them now. While that’s understandable, it’s also not very realistic. I suppose this may be a case for the saying of, “Good things come to those who wait.” It’s very unlikely that you’ll get what you want immediately, so learning to deal with the discomfort of waiting will definitely help to make your life a lot easier. Plus, it’s just more fun to enjoy the here and now. Otherwise, you’re missing out on some great stuff.

You Get Angry Over Little Things

Do you find yourself losing your temper frequently? That can have disastrous results on your health, your mental state, your job and your relationships. If you get mad a lot, consider the reasons. It could be that you’re not very patient, and you’re becoming frustrated when things don’t immediate happen as you’d like them to. Gaining some perspective and learning to employ patience can truly help you to overcome a lot of your agitation.

You Interrupt

Are you constantly interrupting others so you can make your point? It may not be that you think what they have to say isn’t important. You probably are just so impatient to make your own contribution to the conversation that you find it hard to resist jumping in. Frequent interrupting is definitely a sign of impatience and is one small area you can begin to work on.

You Lack Empathy

This one may be hard to admit. Impatient people sometimes lack empathy for what others are going through. They find themselves being frustrated with people instead of trying to relate to them and figure out why they’re behaving as they are. If you find yourself being critical of those around you quite frequently, consider whether this is a sign you could stand to work on your patience.

You Hate Wasting Time

Does the idea of wasting even a minute of time make you cranky? Impatient folks often despise being anything other than efficient as they go about their day. Time wasted is seen as opportunity lost. If this is you, it’s important to understand that not everyone is on your time table. They aren’t likely to view things in the same way. What’s important to you may seem rather insignificant to them. People don’t mean to be inconsiderate when you perceive them as slowing you down or wasting your time. Go easy on them and try to decide what absolutely must get done now and what can wait a bit.

Do you see yourself in any of these five signs? If so, you may be an impatient person. You now have a starting point or two to begin practicing more patience.

Assignment Day 7:

How do you feel about what you are learning about patience and what you are learning about yourself as a patient or impatient person?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Patience Day 6 -Patience Is A Virtue! Or Is It?

August 26, 2018 Leave a comment

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Patience truly can be a virtue. It can assist you in a number of ways across various settings in your life. But are there times when being patience can actually be a hindrance? Yes, I believe there are. I think it’s important we address them so that you don’t find yourself getting stuck in any negative patterns in the name of being patient. Allow me to share with you just a handful of the things you may need to be wary of when it comes to your idea of patience. Don’t let patience be an excuse for any of these three things…..

  1. Missed Opportunities

“Good things come to those who wait.” This is not a phrase I’m terribly fond of. The reason is that those who wait may often be doing so out of negative emotions like fear or insecurity. When you settle in too patiently, you can sometimes miss out on a really great opportunity. It can be tempting to wait for just the right time or to tell yourself you’re being patient when, in reality, you’re giving into negative emotions and failing to leave your comfort zone. If there’s something you want and you find yourself waiting around to get it, I think it’s important to take some time for self-reflection. Ask yourself why it is you’re not taking action to go after what you desire. Be honest about those answers. Then take just one step toward your goal. You may just find yourself moving onto taking big leaps and going for your dreams.

  1. Hanging on Too Long

What about those times we hang onto things that are bad for us, just waiting for them to get better? I know I’ve fallen into that trap, and I imagine you have, too. Whether it’s an abusive relationship, a job you hate or something else entirely, you probably can identify a time you’ve stuck around waiting for someone or some situation to change. Again, this is a time for introspection. If you’re dealing with something like this right now, decide what’s keeping you from making a move. Then address the problem with proactive action. Being patient by relying on false hope is never in your best interest.

Scripture: Proverbs 13:12“Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life.”

     3. Becoming a Doormat

On a similar note, do you find yourself being far too patient with people who don’t seem to treat you with as much respect as you give them? That’s what’s known as being a doormat, and it’s no fun. Please understand that the character flaw is not yours; it belongs to those would take advantage of you. However, you do hold the power in this type of situation. Rather than sit around patiently accommodating others who don’t give you the same courtesy, try setting some boundaries. A simple “no” to an unwanted request can be an incredibly empowering tool.

These are some common ways patience can be less than a virtue. Be on the lookout for such traps. Be savvy and aware when you see them. Give yourself the power to let go of patience during these times and do what’s right for you.

Assignment Day 6:

1.  What opportunities have you missed in the act of “waiting patiently?”

2.  What area or areas of your life are you “hanging on too long?”

3.  Name the people in your life who disrespect you or who are using you as a doormat.    What do you plan to do about it?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Patience Challenge Day 5 -Quick Patience Tip – Count To Ten

August 24, 2018 Leave a comment

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In yesterday’s post, I gave you some ways to practice patience. However, there’s one I left out. The reason I did is because it deserves its very own post. That’s how important and useful I think this tip is. And it’s probably one you’ve known about since you were a child. That’s right, counting to ten. This tried and true strategy works. Let’s take a closer look at this quick patience tip and count to ten.

Why It Works

Thomas Jefferson is quoted as saying, “When angry, count to ten before you speak. If very angry, a hundred.” This is still very sage advice today. The trick to this simple strategy lies in two components. These are time and distraction. It’s quite perfect, actually, because it buys you some time to disengage from whatever is frustrating you. You can’t possible react impulsively or aggressively if you’re busy counting. It similarly distracts you because you won’t be thinking about your current problem. Counting forces you to stop obsessing for just a bit in order to gain your bearings. Just this short break can be enough to really put things in perspective.

When to Do It

The great thing about this technique is that it’s so easy. It’s also quick and requires no specific tools. In fact, no one even has to know that you’re doing it. Any time you’re feeling overwhelmed, agitated, annoyed or frustrated, you can employ this strategy. It can be used in the moment by simply taking a pause in the conversation. It will look as if you’re just thinking of what to say next. You can also count to ten before a big event you’re anticipating in order to feel more relaxed. It’s quite versatile.

Tips That Might Help

Using this technique in combination with other strategies tends to be most helpful. For example, taking deep and controlled breaths when counting to yourself can help you to relax and to become more mindful. It’s quite grounding to engage in breathing exercises. Also, taking note of the feelings within your body at the current moment is a way to bring you back to the here and now, as well as to release the tension you’re feeling. These little extras will ensure you’re cooled off and thinking more clearly at the end of your ten count.

You might not have realized just how powerful this little exercise can be. I hope you now remember to count to ten during impatient times. I assure you it is likely to bring you positive results.

Assignment Day 5:

Try counting to 10 over the next two days 3 times a day. Write in your journal how you felt physically, spiritually, and mentally when counting and afterwards.

 

 

 

 

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