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Life Coaching Skills: 5 Tips for Being a Better Listener for Your Coaching Clients

October 29, 2020 Leave a comment
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If you’re a coach, you better be a good listener. You need to hear what your clients say; no daydreaming allowed. Yes, you need to have expertise to help them work through their problems or to improve their mindset, but you won’t know which advice to offer if you don’t listen carefully.

In today’s busy world, however, it’s very easy to get distracted, which doesn’t bode well when you’re trying to build trust with your clients. A distracted coach is one who doesn’t fully care about their clients and is only in this business to make money or to make a name for themselves.

Here are 5 ways you can become a better listener:

1. Keep eye contact. Meet in a Zoom meeting, webinar conference room or in a real physical location and focus on the person’s face because looking around aimlessly gives the impression that you’re not listening. If you’re taking notes while on a video call, tell them that so they don’t think you’re on your phone or dozing off when you look down.

2. Pretend that you’re going to repeat this conversation. This is a mind exercise because, obviously, your clients want their sessions kept confidential. However, thinking that you need to remember the most important parts of the conversation will help you stay focused. Use this as an aid for taking notes, too.

3. Turn off your phone and other electronic devices. Or put it on silent mode and keep it in your purse or in a drawer away from your desk. The only time it should come out during a session is when you’re scheduling a follow up session and you check your calendar.

4. Ask open-ended questions. Coaching sessions are meant to be two-way conversations so instead of focusing on taking notes, pay attention to details and ask related questions. Don’t try to be a mind reader and don’t make assumptions. Simply ask questions and allow your client to elaborate.

5. Summarize the session. At the end of the session offer a summary, either verbally or via email. Also include the next steps your client should take before your next session. If they say anything during the session that is unclear or confusing, offer a summary immediately by saying, “I hear you saying…” and add in your version of what they said. They can correct any misunderstanding right away while you show them that you’re paying attention to the little details.

Take an assessment of your listening skills today. Do you really listen to what your clients say? Do you have a firm grasp on what areas they need help? Have you ever tuned out while looking at your phone? Be honest with yourself.

If you’re doing all of these things, great! Your clients should feel good that you’re listening and actually hearing what they’re saying. If you admit that you’re not a great listener, there’s no time like the present to make that change and improve your trustworthiness.

Need More Listening Help?

On November 14th I will launching my New On Demand Online Course, “How to Create Your Own Personalized Client Service Experience Plan” I have a whole lesson dedicated to listening and how to hone your listening skills into an income-generating asset. The other three lessons include tips and action plans for developing your brand image and how to create brand loyalty, which of course, leads to longtime customers and loyal clients. To Join the waitlist with others to be the first to receive information on this course signup here http://eepurl.com/b1zmur.

7 Ways to Turn Worry into Excitement

October 28, 2020 2 comments
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Everybody worries sometimes. Right now, you’ve probably even got a few worries on your mind. You might be thinking about a relationship or a situation at work, causing you trouble. Maybe you’re worried about your health or whether or not you’re going to have enough money to pay the bills at the end of the month. Whatever the case, worry happens whether we intend for it to or not. This becomes a problem, though, when worry starts to take over your life.

So, what is the goal? Is stopping worrying enough to put you on an even keel, or are you hoping for something…more? What if, instead of worrying, you could become excited, then use this excitement to get more done?

Let’s look at seven ways to achieve this:

1. Be Here Now

Worry has a way of trapping you anywhere but here. Either you’re worried about something which happened long ago, or you’re caught up in fretting about something still to come.  Neither is going to get you anywhere. To stop worrying, you need to focus on the present. What interests you right now?

2. Realize This Gets You Nowhere Fast

Worrying stops you cold. In fact, most procrastination is caused by worrying. With this in mind, why are you wasting your time and energy on worrying? Sometimes just recognizing what a waste worry is, will be enough to derail it altogether. Especially when you have better places to be.

3. Throw Yourself into Something Interesting

Worry needs your attention to survive. Get busy doing something engaging to your mind, and you’ll find you forget all about worrying.

4. Rewrite the Script

If you’re seeing everything blow up around you, maybe you should try focusing on the perceived disaster. Ask yourself how you could do things to handle the situation were it to happen. Once you have it, practice the scenario in your mind. Picture yourself handling matters.

5. Practice

Worried about something you need to do later? Having a dress rehearsal in your head will make things go smoother and keep worry at bay entirely.

6. Ask

Challenge your worry. Dig in and get to the roots until you understand your worry intimately. Ask yourself where the negativity came from. Peel back the layers until you get down into the heart of the matter.

7. Try a New Path

In the end, worry can become very attached to the familiar. Challenge yourself. Find a different way to do things. Explore where this path takes you.

The main point in all of these is to enjoy the journey. This is where you find the excitement and enthusiasm, which leads to getting things done. The rest is all momentum and a whole lot of brand-new accomplishments just waiting to happen.

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Train Yourself to be More Compassionate Part 2

October 25, 2020 4 comments

In the previous post I talked to you about being more self-compassionate to lighten your load and make your day brighter. In this post I will talk to you about being compassionate to others and compassion as a habit. Take on these practices and before you know it, compassion will become a natural part of your life.

Compassion to Others

  • Take time to notice, and even journal, throughout the day each time someone is compassionate to you. Take notes and learn how you can apply those same principles to other people.
  • Join an accountability group to create the new habit of being compassionate to self and others
  • Take time throughout your busy day and take a pause – ask yourself, where and how can I show compassion in this situation.
  • Instead of reacting to someone else’s negative mood, take a moment to ask them if they are okay. Chances are their negative mindset is really a cry for help, for someone to listen or for someone to simply ask!
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Compassion as a Habit

Being aware of where, how, and when you can apply compassion to both self and others is the perfect way to now create compassion as a habit.

  • Practice self-compassion
  • Ask where, how, and when you can offer compassion to others
  • Notice compassion
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Diamond Life Coach Challenge

Are you called to help others? Do you have a desire to help others to experience transformation in their lives?

Join me starting July 29th for the FREE Diamond Life Coach Challenge. This is 5 Days of Life Coach Training to teach you about the coaching profession and how to use your spiritual gifts, talents, skills and knowledge to help bring transformation into the lives of others as a Life Coach.

The LIVE training will happen at 8AM CST and 8PM CST (encore presentation) each day, July 29th thru August 2nd.

For more information and to Register go here https://gingerlondon.ck.page/diamondlifecoachchallenge

Day 1 – The Whole-Mind, Body and Spirit Life Coach
You will learn how transformation happens in the lives of people and how to self-coach your own personal transformation before coaching others in their transformation. You will learn The 3 essential components of every successful coaching business. Why (and how) to prepare for success—skip this step, and you’ll be out of business before you even begin.

Day 2 – The Coaching Basics and Business
You will learn the basics of the life coaching profession and the 3 essential components of every successful coaching business. You will learn 2 transformational coaching models.

Day 3 – Let Your Gift Make Room For You
You will learn how to choose the right coaching model based on your gifts and talents. Also, you will learn how to how to position your own unique style of coaching with the right rates and fees.

Day 4 – Coaching Conversations
The coaching conversation should be a dynamic one. One that guides and moves the client to the desired goal. You will learn about the 5 Cs of the Diamond Coaching Conversation and how to effectively navigate a coaching call through each one.

Day 5 – Coaching For Results and Live Q&A
You will learn how to coach for results using your words and time wisely. You will be able to ask your coaching questions.

For more information and to Register go here https://gingerlondon.ck.page/diamondlifecoachchallenge

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Happy New Year! New Decade!

January 14, 2020 Leave a comment

Where did the time go? This past year, 2019, was a trying one emotionally, spiritually and professionally. By the end of 2019 I realized one thing – things can not continue the same way in 2020. So, I made a commitment to myself to “launch out into the deep” for a bigger catch – for greater works!

It has been awhile since I have blogged. I have decided to make blogging one of my continued activities in pursuing greater works in the earth. Writing, speaking, coaching/counseling and teaching are main areas used to get my message across to the masses and for people to experience the gifts and talents entrusted to me by God.

What’s New in 2020?

What’s new in 2020 is my “Greater Commitment” to my divine assignment and calling. I am committed to doing the following:

  • Writing More!
  • Teaching More!
  • Training More!
  • Preaching and Speaking More!
  • Helping More People To Become Certified Life Coaches and Ministers!
  • Just Doing More!

What Are Your Commitments For 2020?

Happy New Year!

Patience Day 30 -Reflect On How Far You’ve Come And Where To Go From Here

September 18, 2018 1 comment

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Reflect Back Over The Last 30 Days

Let’s take a quick walk down memory lane and browse through all the different topics we covered over the past 29 days. Here’s a quick rundown:

1. Welcome And How Patient Are You?
2. What Exactly Is Patience?
3. The Importance Of Becoming A More Patient Person
4. Patience Is A Skill – Practice Helps
5. Quick Patience Tip – Count To Ten
6. Patience Is A Virtue! Or Is It?
7. 5 Signs That You’re An Impatient Person
8. Get In The Habit Of Realizing When Patience Is In Order (Part 1)
9. Get In The Habit Of Realizing When Patience Is In Order (Part 2)
10. Reflect On When You’ve Been Too Impatient
11. Times To Be Patient vs. Times To Act
12. Using Visualization Exercises To Help With Patience
13. 3 Things You Must Do After An Impatient Outburst
14. The Physical Side Of Impatience
15. The Physical Side Of Impatience
16. Create Awareness About Losing Your Patience
17. Pinpoint What’s Causing You To Lose Your Cool
18. How To Avoid Emotional Explosion Infographic
19. Scriptures On Patience
20. Give Yourself A Time Out To Recoup Your Patience
21. Give Yourself A Time Out To Recoup Your Patience
22. Meditate Your Way To Patience
23. Why Do You Feel Rushed?
24. Build Cushions Into Your Daily Schedule To Make Time For Patience
25. Selah! – Rest Day
26. How Gratitude & Thankfulness Can Make You More Patient
27. Get Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable
28. It’s Ok To Act Patient Until You Develop It
29. Patience Is A Choice
30. Reflect On How Far You’ve Come And Where To Go From Here

We’ve reached the end of our journey. I can’t believe it! I hope this time together has been as enjoyable for you as it’s been for me. More than that, it’s my hope that you now feel you possess the information and tools you need to become a more patient person. We’ve covered a lot over the past month.

We started off our journey by defining patience and talking about why it’s important. Beginning with an understanding of the concept and a strong framework is necessary to continue learning. We then discovered some tangible tools and techniques to put in place in order to begin to demonstrate more patience and to calm down when you’re feeling frustrated.

It was early in our time together that I first introduced the idea that patience is a skill that can be learned. Because it’s so essential to the process, we re-visited the idea toward the end of our 30 days. It’s empowering to know that patience can be learned, practiced and improved upon. You aren’t a bad person or less worthy simply because patience doesn’t come easily to you.

In addition, we learned about some of the things that cause us to feel less patient. Personal triggers are a big problem for some of us. Knowing what triggers you is essential to overcoming it when you feel it happen. Feeling less rushed and more gratitude are also practices that can reduce your tendency to feel impatient.

Finally, we looked at your motivations to want to become more patient. These are all very personal to you. Knowing and acknowledging them can push you to move forward on your journey of learning ways to become more patient. Recognize that this won’t happen overnight. Bring out your list of reasons when you feel like giving up.

Assignment Day 30:

Take a few minutes today to reflect on not only how far you’ve come, but more importantly how this simple 30 day challenge has influenced you and changed you for the better.

What has had the biggest impact on you?

What tips and ideas have you found the most helpful? Those are the posts that you want to go back to again and again.

What positive experiences have you had as a result of the information you’ve gained?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Patience Day 28 -It’s Ok To Act Patience Until You Develop It

September 16, 2018 Leave a comment

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It’s Okay To Practice Patience Until You Get It!

Surely, you’ve heard the phrase, “fake it ’til you make it.” I would rather say, “act it ‘til you develop it.” It refers to professing to have a quality you wish you possessed and believing that you’ll eventually get to a place in which you genuinely have that trait. Usually, some work is required behind the scenes in order to get to that place, as merely professing it alone won’t get the job done. However, it is possible to put on the appearance of a patient person until you start to gain genuine patience. This mind strategy can be quite helpful in reaching your ultimate goal. I’ll show you how it works.

Patience Can Be Learned

First of all, it’s important to remember that patience can be learned. It isn’t necessarily something that you’re born with. Some people appear to be, and that’s great for them. However, if you weren’t, it doesn’t mean you’re a bad person nor does it mean you won’t ever become more patient. Patience is, in fact, a skill. Like any other, it requires practice to improve. Knowing this puts the keys in your hand. You have the power and control to take action that will result in you becoming more patient.

Change Your Attitude

A change of attitude is the beginning of seeing actual improvement. It’s the first step to seeing patience come more naturally to you. Part of this change is the realization that patience isn’t a stagnant, inherent quality. No longer should you think you were just born without much patience and that there’s nothing you can do to fix that. You’re not broken. You simply lack something you’d like more of. Usually when you want something in your life, you know you have to work and take strategic effort to get it. Same is true with patience.

Change Your Thoughts

Once you’ve refined your attitude, you can begin to reframe your thoughts. This process involves changing nagging, hostile thoughts into more reasonable ones. It’s part of the “fake it ’til you make it” bit. For example, if you’re in line and find yourself really annoyed by the customer who’s taking forever at the register, you may be likely to tell yourself how rude that guy is to be holding everyone up or that the cashier must not be very good at her job if she can’t move things a long a little faster. Chances are, neither of these things is true.

Instead, tell yourself a story that will help to increase your patience or one that will at least help the situation to become more tolerable. Maybe it would help to think that the customer is using all of those coupons to help feed his larger family and that he’s really smart to take the time to do that. Such a narrative with a positive spin can go far toward helping you to feel better.

Once you begin this practice, you’ll find it starts to become more natural. Soon you may not have to fake it at all.

 

 

 

Patience Day 23 -Why Do You Feel Rushed?

September 11, 2018 Leave a comment

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Why Do You Feel Rushed?

If you’re like most people in today’s hectic world, you often feel pressed for time. We have a lot of obligations. In addition, we’ve become pressed to multi-task much more in the digital age. This can leave us in a state of constant urgency, and that’s no good for our health. Both our emotional condition and physical state are compromised when living on high alert. Let’s examine some ways to deal with this ever-present issue.

Become Comfortable with Discomfort

One of the keys to overcoming this need to hurry all the time is to actually learn to deal with how uncomfortable you feel when something has slowed you down. Learning to sit quietly when you’re in line at the store, stuck in traffic or otherwise in a place you’d rather not be is something that will help you tremendously in the long run. Practice just being, without the aid of your smartphone or a magazine to keep you occupied. You’ll soon find yourself feeling less impatient.

Focus on One Thing at a Time

While multi-tasking has become a way of life these days, experts have indicated it’s not an especially productive strategy. Practice doing just one thing at a time and giving it your undivided attention. This focus will likely help you to get more done and to feel more accomplished, leading you to also feel less rushed.

Put Limits on Screen Time

I’m a big fan of electronic devices and social media. I am. However, I also know that along with the benefits they offer can come some significant drawbacks. One of these is that you can become a slave to your devices if you’re not proactive in putting a stop to it. Try to give yourself a time limit for each social media visit and don’t answer every email as it arrives in your inbox. By choosing when and how much time you will engage in these activities, you’ll start to notice less of an urgent need to be readily available.

When tempted to pick up your smartphone or log into your computer, try choosing a different activity. Go for a walk. Call a friend. Clean your living room. You’ll start to see less dependence on your devices also.

Cut Down Your To-Do List

Much of our hurry is self-imposed. You are the only one who can help in these situations. Take inventory of the things you think you “have” to do. Try to find ways to cut some of them off your list. By lessening your obligations, you’re bound to feel less rushed and pressured. This is one act that might help the most.

Give these suggestions a try if you think you’re feeling too rushed lately. Lowering your sense of urgency will go far toward increasing your patience levels.

Assignment Day 23: Answer These Questions. Use Your Journal to Record Your Answers

  1. Why do you feel rushed, and what can you do about it?
  2. What role does this sense of always battling the clock have on our overall patience?

 

 

 

 

Patience Day 22 -Meditate Your Way To Patience

September 10, 2018 Leave a comment

 

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Find A Quiet Place To “Think On These Things”

We have eight (8) left on this challenge. I pray that you have been empowered and inspired to learn more about patience, as well as, learning how to become a more patient person. Starting with this post, I will discuss how to become a more patient person. Let’s get started.

You’ve probably heard about the benefits of meditation. It can lower stress, increase attention and even improve certain aspects of your health. These advantages are actually quite relevant when it comes to patience. We’ve already talked about the relationship between stress and patience. It makes sense that if you can lower your stress levels, it will help you to become a more patient person. Join me as I give you an overview of the practice and show you how meditating can lead to more patience in your life.

About Meditation

Meditation is a spiritual practice that dates back centuries. Today, people may engage in meditative activities for reasons other than the spiritual, but it is still a deeply personal and customizable practice. Meditation involves focusing the mind on the present moment. It forces you to push away all the jumbled thoughts that may be running through your mind. There are various forms of the practice such as guided imagery, mindful meditation and spiritual meditation. What’s important to know is that the process doesn’t need to be complicated, nor does it require a great deal of time.

How It Works

You can meditate in any quiet area. In fact, it’s possible to do so in stolen moments among a crowd. All that’s required is that you tune out the outside distractions and pinpoint your thoughts on the current moment or on a specific mantra. This can be done in a seated position or while lying down. Repeated practice leads to a host of benefits.

Benefits of Meditation

Your overall emotional well-being, as well as your physical health, is likely to be enhanced through exposure to meditation. You will likely begin to become more mindful of your present feelings, feel less stressed about daily worries, become less prone to agitation and improve your self-awareness.

Meditation and Patience

The relation between meditation and patience is clear once you realize the other benefits that come with the practice. When you’re less stress, you won’t be as subject to becoming upset or annoyed by things outside your control. Being more mindful of your present state also leads to increased patience. You’ll feel less at the whim of outside events when you’re able to focus on what is going on in the moment.

Meditation doesn’t have to be an intimidating thing. You can practice it in any way that makes sense to you. The encouragement now is to learn about various types of meditation and start practicing them on a regular basis. It will get easier with time, and you’ll soon begin noticing the rewards.

Assignment Day 22:

Find a quiet place to meditate on scriptures that resonate with you concerning patience and peace.

Here is one to get you started:  Philippians 4:6-8 New King James Version (NKJV)

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Patience Day 19- Scriptures on Patience

September 7, 2018 Leave a comment

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Here are some scriptures on patience to help ease your evening before you take your sleep rest for the night.

Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick-tempered displays folly.
Proverbs 14:29 | NIV |

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.
Ephesians 4:2 | NIV |

Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.
Romans 12:12 | NIV |

Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city.
Proverbs 16:32 | NIV |

Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; do not fret when people succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes.
Psalm 37:7 | NIV |

Be always humble, gentle, and patient. Show your love by being tolerant with one another.
(Ephesians 4:2)

Hot tempers cause arguments, but patience brings peace.
(Proverbs 15:18)

Let your hope keep you joyful, be patient in your troubles, and pray at all times.
(Romans 12:12)

 

 

 

 

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