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Patience Day 30 -Reflect On How Far You’ve Come And Where To Go From Here

September 18, 2018 Leave a comment
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Reflect Back Over The Last 30 Days

Let’s take a quick walk down memory lane and browse through all the different topics we covered over the past 29 days. Here’s a quick rundown:

1. Welcome And How Patient Are You?
2. What Exactly Is Patience?
3. The Importance Of Becoming A More Patient Person
4. Patience Is A Skill – Practice Helps
5. Quick Patience Tip – Count To Ten
6. Patience Is A Virtue! Or Is It?
7. 5 Signs That You’re An Impatient Person
8. Get In The Habit Of Realizing When Patience Is In Order (Part 1)
9. Get In The Habit Of Realizing When Patience Is In Order (Part 2)
10. Reflect On When You’ve Been Too Impatient
11. Times To Be Patient vs. Times To Act
12. Using Visualization Exercises To Help With Patience
13. 3 Things You Must Do After An Impatient Outburst
14. The Physical Side Of Impatience
15. The Physical Side Of Impatience
16. Create Awareness About Losing Your Patience
17. Pinpoint What’s Causing You To Lose Your Cool
18. How To Avoid Emotional Explosion Infographic
19. Scriptures On Patience
20. Give Yourself A Time Out To Recoup Your Patience
21. Give Yourself A Time Out To Recoup Your Patience
22. Meditate Your Way To Patience
23. Why Do You Feel Rushed?
24. Build Cushions Into Your Daily Schedule To Make Time For Patience
25. Selah! – Rest Day
26. How Gratitude & Thankfulness Can Make You More Patient
27. Get Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable
28. It’s Ok To Act Patient Until You Develop It
29. Patience Is A Choice
30. Reflect On How Far You’ve Come And Where To Go From Here

We’ve reached the end of our journey. I can’t believe it! I hope this time together has been as enjoyable for you as it’s been for me. More than that, it’s my hope that you now feel you possess the information and tools you need to become a more patient person. We’ve covered a lot over the past month.

We started off our journey by defining patience and talking about why it’s important. Beginning with an understanding of the concept and a strong framework is necessary to continue learning. We then discovered some tangible tools and techniques to put in place in order to begin to demonstrate more patience and to calm down when you’re feeling frustrated.

It was early in our time together that I first introduced the idea that patience is a skill that can be learned. Because it’s so essential to the process, we re-visited the idea toward the end of our 30 days. It’s empowering to know that patience can be learned, practiced and improved upon. You aren’t a bad person or less worthy simply because patience doesn’t come easily to you.

In addition, we learned about some of the things that cause us to feel less patient. Personal triggers are a big problem for some of us. Knowing what triggers you is essential to overcoming it when you feel it happen. Feeling less rushed and more gratitude are also practices that can reduce your tendency to feel impatient.

Finally, we looked at your motivations to want to become more patient. These are all very personal to you. Knowing and acknowledging them can push you to move forward on your journey of learning ways to become more patient. Recognize that this won’t happen overnight. Bring out your list of reasons when you feel like giving up.

Assignment Day 30:

Take a few minutes today to reflect on not only how far you’ve come, but more importantly how this simple 30 day challenge has influenced you and changed you for the better.

What has had the biggest impact on you?

What tips and ideas have you found the most helpful? Those are the posts that you want to go back to again and again.

What positive experiences have you had as a result of the information you’ve gained?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Patience Day 28 -It’s Ok To Act Patience Until You Develop It

September 16, 2018 Leave a comment
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It’s Okay To Practice Patience Until You Get It!

Surely, you’ve heard the phrase, “fake it ’til you make it.” I would rather say, “act it ‘til you develop it.” It refers to professing to have a quality you wish you possessed and believing that you’ll eventually get to a place in which you genuinely have that trait. Usually, some work is required behind the scenes in order to get to that place, as merely professing it alone won’t get the job done. However, it is possible to put on the appearance of a patient person until you start to gain genuine patience. This mind strategy can be quite helpful in reaching your ultimate goal. I’ll show you how it works.

Patience Can Be Learned

First of all, it’s important to remember that patience can be learned. It isn’t necessarily something that you’re born with. Some people appear to be, and that’s great for them. However, if you weren’t, it doesn’t mean you’re a bad person nor does it mean you won’t ever become more patient. Patience is, in fact, a skill. Like any other, it requires practice to improve. Knowing this puts the keys in your hand. You have the power and control to take action that will result in you becoming more patient.

Change Your Attitude

A change of attitude is the beginning of seeing actual improvement. It’s the first step to seeing patience come more naturally to you. Part of this change is the realization that patience isn’t a stagnant, inherent quality. No longer should you think you were just born without much patience and that there’s nothing you can do to fix that. You’re not broken. You simply lack something you’d like more of. Usually when you want something in your life, you know you have to work and take strategic effort to get it. Same is true with patience.

Change Your Thoughts

Once you’ve refined your attitude, you can begin to reframe your thoughts. This process involves changing nagging, hostile thoughts into more reasonable ones. It’s part of the “fake it ’til you make it” bit. For example, if you’re in line and find yourself really annoyed by the customer who’s taking forever at the register, you may be likely to tell yourself how rude that guy is to be holding everyone up or that the cashier must not be very good at her job if she can’t move things a long a little faster. Chances are, neither of these things is true.

Instead, tell yourself a story that will help to increase your patience or one that will at least help the situation to become more tolerable. Maybe it would help to think that the customer is using all of those coupons to help feed his larger family and that he’s really smart to take the time to do that. Such a narrative with a positive spin can go far toward helping you to feel better.

Once you begin this practice, you’ll find it starts to become more natural. Soon you may not have to fake it at all.

 

 

 

Patience Day 23 -Why Do You Feel Rushed?

September 11, 2018 Leave a comment
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Why Do You Feel Rushed?

If you’re like most people in today’s hectic world, you often feel pressed for time. We have a lot of obligations. In addition, we’ve become pressed to multi-task much more in the digital age. This can leave us in a state of constant urgency, and that’s no good for our health. Both our emotional condition and physical state are compromised when living on high alert. Let’s examine some ways to deal with this ever-present issue.

Become Comfortable with Discomfort

One of the keys to overcoming this need to hurry all the time is to actually learn to deal with how uncomfortable you feel when something has slowed you down. Learning to sit quietly when you’re in line at the store, stuck in traffic or otherwise in a place you’d rather not be is something that will help you tremendously in the long run. Practice just being, without the aid of your smartphone or a magazine to keep you occupied. You’ll soon find yourself feeling less impatient.

Focus on One Thing at a Time

While multi-tasking has become a way of life these days, experts have indicated it’s not an especially productive strategy. Practice doing just one thing at a time and giving it your undivided attention. This focus will likely help you to get more done and to feel more accomplished, leading you to also feel less rushed.

Put Limits on Screen Time

I’m a big fan of electronic devices and social media. I am. However, I also know that along with the benefits they offer can come some significant drawbacks. One of these is that you can become a slave to your devices if you’re not proactive in putting a stop to it. Try to give yourself a time limit for each social media visit and don’t answer every email as it arrives in your inbox. By choosing when and how much time you will engage in these activities, you’ll start to notice less of an urgent need to be readily available.

When tempted to pick up your smartphone or log into your computer, try choosing a different activity. Go for a walk. Call a friend. Clean your living room. You’ll start to see less dependence on your devices also.

Cut Down Your To-Do List

Much of our hurry is self-imposed. You are the only one who can help in these situations. Take inventory of the things you think you “have” to do. Try to find ways to cut some of them off your list. By lessening your obligations, you’re bound to feel less rushed and pressured. This is one act that might help the most.

Give these suggestions a try if you think you’re feeling too rushed lately. Lowering your sense of urgency will go far toward increasing your patience levels.

Assignment Day 23: Answer These Questions. Use Your Journal to Record Your Answers

  1. Why do you feel rushed, and what can you do about it?
  2. What role does this sense of always battling the clock have on our overall patience?

 

 

 

 

Patience Day 22 -Meditate Your Way To Patience

September 10, 2018 Leave a comment

 

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Find A Quiet Place To “Think On These Things”

We have eight (8) left on this challenge. I pray that you have been empowered and inspired to learn more about patience, as well as, learning how to become a more patient person. Starting with this post, I will discuss how to become a more patient person. Let’s get started.

You’ve probably heard about the benefits of meditation. It can lower stress, increase attention and even improve certain aspects of your health. These advantages are actually quite relevant when it comes to patience. We’ve already talked about the relationship between stress and patience. It makes sense that if you can lower your stress levels, it will help you to become a more patient person. Join me as I give you an overview of the practice and show you how meditating can lead to more patience in your life.

About Meditation

Meditation is a spiritual practice that dates back centuries. Today, people may engage in meditative activities for reasons other than the spiritual, but it is still a deeply personal and customizable practice. Meditation involves focusing the mind on the present moment. It forces you to push away all the jumbled thoughts that may be running through your mind. There are various forms of the practice such as guided imagery, mindful meditation and spiritual meditation. What’s important to know is that the process doesn’t need to be complicated, nor does it require a great deal of time.

How It Works

You can meditate in any quiet area. In fact, it’s possible to do so in stolen moments among a crowd. All that’s required is that you tune out the outside distractions and pinpoint your thoughts on the current moment or on a specific mantra. This can be done in a seated position or while lying down. Repeated practice leads to a host of benefits.

Benefits of Meditation

Your overall emotional well-being, as well as your physical health, is likely to be enhanced through exposure to meditation. You will likely begin to become more mindful of your present feelings, feel less stressed about daily worries, become less prone to agitation and improve your self-awareness.

Meditation and Patience

The relation between meditation and patience is clear once you realize the other benefits that come with the practice. When you’re less stress, you won’t be as subject to becoming upset or annoyed by things outside your control. Being more mindful of your present state also leads to increased patience. You’ll feel less at the whim of outside events when you’re able to focus on what is going on in the moment.

Meditation doesn’t have to be an intimidating thing. You can practice it in any way that makes sense to you. The encouragement now is to learn about various types of meditation and start practicing them on a regular basis. It will get easier with time, and you’ll soon begin noticing the rewards.

Assignment Day 22:

Find a quiet place to meditate on scriptures that resonate with you concerning patience and peace.

Here is one to get you started:  Philippians 4:6-8 New King James Version (NKJV)

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Patience Day 19- Scriptures on Patience

September 7, 2018 Leave a comment
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Here are some scriptures on patience to help ease your evening before you take your sleep rest for the night.

Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick-tempered displays folly.
Proverbs 14:29 | NIV |

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.
Ephesians 4:2 | NIV |

Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.
Romans 12:12 | NIV |

Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city.
Proverbs 16:32 | NIV |

Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; do not fret when people succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes.
Psalm 37:7 | NIV |

Be always humble, gentle, and patient. Show your love by being tolerant with one another.
(Ephesians 4:2)

Hot tempers cause arguments, but patience brings peace.
(Proverbs 15:18)

Let your hope keep you joyful, be patient in your troubles, and pray at all times.
(Romans 12:12)

 

 

 

 

Patience Day 13 – 3 Things You Must Do After An Impatient Outburst

September 1, 2018 Leave a comment

No matter how patient a person is, they’re bound to lose their cool once in a while. toddler with red adidas sweat shirt

While I want to stay positive and focus on the ways you can work to build more patience, the fact remains that we’re all human and sometimes we’re simply going to lose it. Even the most patient people lose their cool sometimes. Rather than beat yourself up over it, listen to three ways to proactively deal with such situations when they arise.

Listen to the teaching audio here: https://stme.in/386wKAfmeU

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TAKE A TIME OUT!

 

 

Patience Day 10 – Reflect On When You’ve Been Too Impatient

August 29, 2018 Leave a comment

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It’s a fact of life. Sometimes we’re going to be impatient, and we’re also going to feel bad about it. Perhaps we’ve hurt someone’s feelings due to our lack of patience or maybe we’ve made a fool of ourselves because we let our frustration get the best of us. It happens. We’re only human. It’s what you do about these lapses that really matters. Let’s take a look at how to reflect on what you’ve been too impatient and how to handle such situations.

Recognize Impatience Has Occurred

First, it’s important to recognize your impatient transgression. Sometimes it can be tempting to just push such things under the rug, but doing so rarely helps us to do better in the future. It’s when we acknowledge our weaknesses or mistakes that we can correct them. So take time to admit what has happened so that you can deal with it. You definitely need to admit the issue to yourself. It can also be helpful to admit your mistake to others if you’ve hurt someone or caused hard feelings.

Reflect on the Incident

Once you’ve recognized what you’ve done, the next step is to reflect upon it. Think about the underlying reasons you might have acted so impatiently. Consider how you were feeling at the time, whether there were specific things that triggered you and if this might be a pattern you encounter often. The more questions you can answer for yourself, the better you will be at resolving the problem and getting better at avoiding such un-pleasantries in the future.

Make Amends

If you have hurt someone’s feelings, you really should take time to apologize. You’ll feel better, and so will they. In addition, you’ll be letting go of any negative feelings that may hold in a pattern of continuing to exhibit such behaviors in the future. It’s easier to make change when you’ve freed yourself from the burden of regrets. Starting with a clean slate will let you move on in a positive manner.

Plan for the Future

Finally, you need to learn from your mistakes and plan for ways to avoid making the same ones in the future.

Assignment Day 10

Write down the specific things you have done wrong that caused some impatience in your life.

Beside each one, make a note of what you could have done better. This is a fantastic exercise for gaining perspective and for making real, lasting change. Seeing your proposed actions steps on paper is a powerful tool for pushing you forward along your journey to do better.

Follow these steps when you feel you’ve been impatient. Doing so will feel so much better than wallowing in your regret or simply trying to forget about the incident. The hard work of self-reflection is all a part of your journey to becoming a more patient person

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Every Day Is A Fresh Start!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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