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Patience 12 – Using Visualization Exercises To Help With Patience

August 31, 2018 Leave a comment
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Visualization Can Help With Patience

 

Cultivating patience is something that takes time, and ironically, also requires a great deal of patience. However, you don’t have to just sit around idly twiddling your thumbs and hoping to become a more patient person. In fact, that approach would likely not result in the spiritual maturity or self-development you desire. I’ve already shown you a few ways you can proactively work to become a more patient person. In today’s post, I’d like to explore one more. Visualization is a powerful tool to reaching a number of positive gains, and it can definitely help you to acquire more patience if you take the time to invest in the practice. Let’s look at how using visualization exercises can help with patience.

About Visualization

Visualization is a process in which you create an image in your mind of a future event you’d like to see come to light. It involves imagining and seeing events unfold in a way that is desirable to you. For visualization to be effective, it is best if you focus on the details of a scenario, down to the individual steps involved and the surroundings in which the event occurs. People have been using this method for centuries to help them attain success and to achieve their goals. It’s actually been scientifically studied and proven to provide tangible benefits. “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.”

Benefits of Visualization

You can gain many benefits from visualizing yourself becoming more patient in life and in pursuing your dreams and goals. Many of the positive results of this practice can be used to help you increase your patience. In fact, one of the advantages of visualization is its versatility; it’s a tool that can be used anywhere at nearly any time and tailored to your specific needs. Professional athletes have used variations of this strategy to improve their performance. Visualizing your desires can help you to gain clarity and enhance your potential. As with meditation, this practice also has a track record of improving focus and lowering stress. Both of these are useful in becoming more patient. Seeing yourself becoming more patient, you can decrease nervousness, increase confidence, and increased patience.

Why It Works

Visualization is a process that can help you reach your goals. It actually transforms your brain and rearranges the connections within it. According to research in the field, neurons that control communication within the brain interpret visual imagery just as they would concrete actions. Therefore, actions are set in motion within our minds to form these pathways in the same manner as if you’d actually completed the steps you imagined.

Assignment Day 12

Find a quiet place where you can begin to practice visualization to develop patience in your life.

 

Patience Day 11 -Times To Be Patient vs. Times To Act

August 30, 2018 Leave a comment
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Times To Be Patient vs. Times To Act

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We’ve already talked a bit about when patience can be a bad thing. I’d like to expand on that a bit today by addressing how to know when it’s time to be patient and when it’s better to take action. There’s often a fine line in these matters, so let’s take a look at some signs to know a leap of faith may be in order. Telling the difference between times to be patient versus times to act is delicate, but knowing just a few tips can help you move from indecision to positive action.

When You Truly Want Something

Have you had a dream for so long that you can’t remember a time when it wasn’t something you wanted? If so, why haven’t you acted on it? Wanting something desperately is a clear sign you need to take some kind of action. Being patient simply isn’t cutting it anymore. Reflect on the goals you’ve always wanted or those that have been at the back of your mind for a long time. Decide which are of most importance to you and then start to make a plan for how to reach them. Even if you’re just starting with baby steps, you’re at least taking some action. And that’s better than doing nothing. “Faith without works is dead.”

When in Doubt

If you’re starting to have a nagging suspicion a promise someone has made you is never going to come to fruition, it’s probably time to stop being patient. Waiting around for others can be frustrating and, frankly, a little demeaning. It can take away your awareness of action. Instead, hop into action and let them know you’re no longer depending on them to come through for you. Go ahead and do the thing you’d been waiting for on your own or find someone reliable who will help you. It can be difficult to realize that not everyone has your best interests at heart, but also quite liberating. Hear my testimony about waiting patiently for someone to help me who never did and a testimony about one of my family members who was waiting patiently for someone to change in a relationship on the teaching audio. Here is again is the link https://stme.in/RCOzXUbF03

When Perfection Is Holding You Back

Sometimes perfectionism is disguised as patience. You may think you’re being patient by not going for what you want or trying something new. What may actually be at play is your intense need for perfection or some other negative emotion such as fear or insecurity. Dig deep to discover what it is that’s keeping you from making that move. Once you’ve identified it, kick that bad boy to the curb. You don’t need to let fear, insecurity or perfectionism keep you stuck. Take action to push past them and live the life you deserve.

These are merely a few examples of the times you should act rather than being patient. I’m sure you can think of more. It’s my hope that today’s teaching will help you to recognize when you may be relying on patience as a means of not taking the action you desire. Once you start noting the difference, you’ll start to feel much stronger and in control of your life.

 

Patience Day 10 – Reflect On When You’ve Been Too Impatient

August 29, 2018 Leave a comment

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It’s a fact of life. Sometimes we’re going to be impatient, and we’re also going to feel bad about it. Perhaps we’ve hurt someone’s feelings due to our lack of patience or maybe we’ve made a fool of ourselves because we let our frustration get the best of us. It happens. We’re only human. It’s what you do about these lapses that really matters. Let’s take a look at how to reflect on what you’ve been too impatient and how to handle such situations.

Recognize Impatience Has Occurred

First, it’s important to recognize your impatient transgression. Sometimes it can be tempting to just push such things under the rug, but doing so rarely helps us to do better in the future. It’s when we acknowledge our weaknesses or mistakes that we can correct them. So take time to admit what has happened so that you can deal with it. You definitely need to admit the issue to yourself. It can also be helpful to admit your mistake to others if you’ve hurt someone or caused hard feelings.

Reflect on the Incident

Once you’ve recognized what you’ve done, the next step is to reflect upon it. Think about the underlying reasons you might have acted so impatiently. Consider how you were feeling at the time, whether there were specific things that triggered you and if this might be a pattern you encounter often. The more questions you can answer for yourself, the better you will be at resolving the problem and getting better at avoiding such un-pleasantries in the future.

Make Amends

If you have hurt someone’s feelings, you really should take time to apologize. You’ll feel better, and so will they. In addition, you’ll be letting go of any negative feelings that may hold in a pattern of continuing to exhibit such behaviors in the future. It’s easier to make change when you’ve freed yourself from the burden of regrets. Starting with a clean slate will let you move on in a positive manner.

Plan for the Future

Finally, you need to learn from your mistakes and plan for ways to avoid making the same ones in the future.

Assignment Day 10

Write down the specific things you have done wrong that caused some impatience in your life.

Beside each one, make a note of what you could have done better. This is a fantastic exercise for gaining perspective and for making real, lasting change. Seeing your proposed actions steps on paper is a powerful tool for pushing you forward along your journey to do better.

Follow these steps when you feel you’ve been impatient. Doing so will feel so much better than wallowing in your regret or simply trying to forget about the incident. The hard work of self-reflection is all a part of your journey to becoming a more patient person

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Patience Day 9 – Get In The Habit Of Realizing When Patience Is In Order (part 2)

August 28, 2018 Leave a comment

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Yesterday I talked about the times when the virtue of patience is definitely more in need than others. The first two areas were: when you really want something and when someone is getting on your last nerve. Here are the remaining two areas.

When You’re Feeling Stressed

With stress come a lot of strong emotions. Emotional responses are often impulses. They certainly don’t rely on patience. Stressful times call for extra patience in order to be sure you handle the situation in a manner that you won’t later regret. Stress is probably one of the best signals that patience is in order.

Psalm 118:5-6 (NKJV)- I called on the Lord in distress; The Lord answered me and set me in a broad place. The Lord is on my side; I will not fear. What can man do to me?  

When You’re Feeling Pressured

Nothing’s worse than having your boss breathing down your neck or when your own high standards are causing you to feel under the gun. When you’re feeling pressured to get something done or to meet a certain goal, you naturally want to hurry things along. This can be a mistake. Being patient and thinking things through can be your best defense against making needless mistakes that will only set you further back. It may seem counterintuitive, but taking time to strategize is your best bet when you’re under pressure.

These are some examples of when patience may be in order. Take note of any others you think of. This information can help you to make proactive decisions in the future and to employ patience when it’s most needed.

Assignment Day 9 – Read the Scripture Passage and Meditate On It

James 1:-2-4 The Message Bible (MSG) – Faith Under Pressure

“Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors. So don’t try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

Patience Day 8 -Get In The Habit Of Realizing When Patience Is In Order (Part 1)

August 27, 2018 Leave a comment

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There are some times when the virtue of patience is definitely more in need than others. It’s important to recognize when being patient is crucial to attaining a positive outcome to a particular situation. It can be hard to see the necessity during stressful or highly emotional situations, so let’s take a look at some examples ahead of time so you can recognize them when they occur. Understanding these four signs will help you to get in the habit of realizing when patience is in order. Let’s start with two of them today.

1. When You Really Want Something

You know that feeling you get when you want something so bad you can practically taste it? Well, that sensation is a clear sign that you should put on the brakes and pull out all the patience you can muster. Remember, you don’t want to wait so long that you miss out on an opportunity. Taking some time to be patient and evaluate a situation, however, can help you to more strategically get what you want.

Philippians 4:6 (NKJV)Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;  

2. When Someone Is Getting on Your Last Nerve

When someone you care about or even a stranger is pushing every button you have, you should probably realize that you need some patience. You’re feeling triggered by their actions, and there’s likely an underlying reason why your emotions are running high. Take a moment to think about it and decide how to proceed in a way that will show sensitivity for the other person, while also meeting your own needs.

“You don’t know the depth of your character until you have been brought under some pressure.” ~ Ginger London

Assignment Day 8

Selah!   Think on these things.

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Take a moment to calm your spirit

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Patience Day 7 – 5 Signs That You’re An Impatient Person

August 26, 2018 Leave a comment

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You’re taking part in this challenge, so it’s likely you want to improve upon your level of patience. However, do you consider yourself to be an impatient person? It can be difficult to see ourselves in a less-than-pleasant light and to actually admit to our weaknesses. However, self-improvement requires honest introspection. You don’t have to tell anyone else, but it’s good for you to be able to admit to yourself if you could use some work in this area. So here are five signs you may be an impatient person.

You Rarely Live in the Moment

Are you always looking ahead to tomorrow, next month or someday? Failing to live in the moment may be an indicator of impatience. You want great things to happen, and you want them now. While that’s understandable, it’s also not very realistic. I suppose this may be a case for the saying of, “Good things come to those who wait.” It’s very unlikely that you’ll get what you want immediately, so learning to deal with the discomfort of waiting will definitely help to make your life a lot easier. Plus, it’s just more fun to enjoy the here and now. Otherwise, you’re missing out on some great stuff.

You Get Angry Over Little Things

Do you find yourself losing your temper frequently? That can have disastrous results on your health, your mental state, your job and your relationships. If you get mad a lot, consider the reasons. It could be that you’re not very patient, and you’re becoming frustrated when things don’t immediate happen as you’d like them to. Gaining some perspective and learning to employ patience can truly help you to overcome a lot of your agitation.

You Interrupt

Are you constantly interrupting others so you can make your point? It may not be that you think what they have to say isn’t important. You probably are just so impatient to make your own contribution to the conversation that you find it hard to resist jumping in. Frequent interrupting is definitely a sign of impatience and is one small area you can begin to work on.

You Lack Empathy

This one may be hard to admit. Impatient people sometimes lack empathy for what others are going through. They find themselves being frustrated with people instead of trying to relate to them and figure out why they’re behaving as they are. If you find yourself being critical of those around you quite frequently, consider whether this is a sign you could stand to work on your patience.

You Hate Wasting Time

Does the idea of wasting even a minute of time make you cranky? Impatient folks often despise being anything other than efficient as they go about their day. Time wasted is seen as opportunity lost. If this is you, it’s important to understand that not everyone is on your time table. They aren’t likely to view things in the same way. What’s important to you may seem rather insignificant to them. People don’t mean to be inconsiderate when you perceive them as slowing you down or wasting your time. Go easy on them and try to decide what absolutely must get done now and what can wait a bit.

Do you see yourself in any of these five signs? If so, you may be an impatient person. You now have a starting point or two to begin practicing more patience.

Assignment Day 7:

How do you feel about what you are learning about patience and what you are learning about yourself as a patient or impatient person?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Patience Day 6 -Patience Is A Virtue! Or Is It?

August 26, 2018 Leave a comment

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Patience truly can be a virtue. It can assist you in a number of ways across various settings in your life. But are there times when being patience can actually be a hindrance? Yes, I believe there are. I think it’s important we address them so that you don’t find yourself getting stuck in any negative patterns in the name of being patient. Allow me to share with you just a handful of the things you may need to be wary of when it comes to your idea of patience. Don’t let patience be an excuse for any of these three things…..

  1. Missed Opportunities

“Good things come to those who wait.” This is not a phrase I’m terribly fond of. The reason is that those who wait may often be doing so out of negative emotions like fear or insecurity. When you settle in too patiently, you can sometimes miss out on a really great opportunity. It can be tempting to wait for just the right time or to tell yourself you’re being patient when, in reality, you’re giving into negative emotions and failing to leave your comfort zone. If there’s something you want and you find yourself waiting around to get it, I think it’s important to take some time for self-reflection. Ask yourself why it is you’re not taking action to go after what you desire. Be honest about those answers. Then take just one step toward your goal. You may just find yourself moving onto taking big leaps and going for your dreams.

  1. Hanging on Too Long

What about those times we hang onto things that are bad for us, just waiting for them to get better? I know I’ve fallen into that trap, and I imagine you have, too. Whether it’s an abusive relationship, a job you hate or something else entirely, you probably can identify a time you’ve stuck around waiting for someone or some situation to change. Again, this is a time for introspection. If you’re dealing with something like this right now, decide what’s keeping you from making a move. Then address the problem with proactive action. Being patient by relying on false hope is never in your best interest.

Scripture: Proverbs 13:12“Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life.”

     3. Becoming a Doormat

On a similar note, do you find yourself being far too patient with people who don’t seem to treat you with as much respect as you give them? That’s what’s known as being a doormat, and it’s no fun. Please understand that the character flaw is not yours; it belongs to those would take advantage of you. However, you do hold the power in this type of situation. Rather than sit around patiently accommodating others who don’t give you the same courtesy, try setting some boundaries. A simple “no” to an unwanted request can be an incredibly empowering tool.

These are some common ways patience can be less than a virtue. Be on the lookout for such traps. Be savvy and aware when you see them. Give yourself the power to let go of patience during these times and do what’s right for you.

Assignment Day 6:

1.  What opportunities have you missed in the act of “waiting patiently?”

2.  What area or areas of your life are you “hanging on too long?”

3.  Name the people in your life who disrespect you or who are using you as a doormat.    What do you plan to do about it?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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