GTGMT #14 Emotions

Managing Emotions

Many times people see emotions as things they have no control over or they look at emotions as things to avoid at all costs. Managing your  emotions is critical to being able to focus for your highest accomplishment. Emotions are nothing to be afraid of; they are something to be managed.

See if you recognize yourself as having one of the following patterns for dealing with your emotions:

1. AVOIDANCE – You are afraid of the intensity of your feelings so you do anything you can to avoid acknowledging them and dealing with them. There are a couple of problems with this approach. First, when you try to avoid negative emotions like fear or jealousy or anxiety, you also shut yourself off from feeling positive emotions like love, intimacy, and connection to other people. Second, you really can’t avoid feelings, so when you ignore them, they go underground and come out in more destructive ways.

2. COMPETITION – Some people try to outdo other people with the intensity of their bad emotions and experiences. They try to show others that they have it even worse. The problem with this is that it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. A much better way to deal with your emotions is to recognize them, see if they have a purpose, and learn from them.

3. LEARNING and USING – You don’t really have a choice on this one if you want to live a productive life. You can’t run from your emotions, and you can’t give in and wallow in them. The only productive thing you can do is understand what your emotions are and why you’re feeling them. And you need to see them as a call to action – you are having these emotions because something needs to change. Once you understand that, you look at negative emotions as your friends since they are the things that will make you act to improve your life.

Choose to replace negative emotions with emotions of power and focus on these emotions everyday.  You will be on your way to experiencing your highest accomplishment.

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  1. January 15, 2014 at 8:32 pm

    Thanks for sharing! As a personal trainer I often talk to people about how their emotions can impact their success. This is a helpful post.

  2. January 15, 2014 at 9:58 pm

    The three emotions that were used for us to gain clarity of how we react are on point. While reading each of them, I realized that these emotions can be identified differently based off of the situation/environment. Great article!

    • gingerlondon
      January 17, 2014 at 4:24 pm

      Hi Jewel,

      Thanks for reading the post and commenting.

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