The Impact of Relationships On Your Life

Special Teaching by Minister Ginger London
Special Teaching by Minister Ginger London

The Fine Art Of Friendship

According to Webster’s Dictionary “friend” is defined as one attached to another by affection and esteem; an intimate association.

Life-long friendships, the ones that are lasting, will require good relating skills. The people involved will have to agree to being attached to one another by affection and commit to highly esteeming the other. A life-long friendship will take a lifetime of practice. It will require treating others the way you want to be treated and relating to others the way God relates to you.

There are four strong qualities of good friendships: interest, love, sympathy, and sacrifice.

  1. Interest is when the inner souls of the friends are knitted together. In 1 Samuel 18:1 Jonathan’s soul was knitted to David’s soul. They instantly became friends. There will be a common thread between friends.
  2.  Love is the most powerful force in the universe. Love in friendships is expressed through trust, shared confidences, and kept promises. Jesus said in John 13:34, “A new covenant I give unto you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.” The expression of love in friendships requires that we love and relate to one another as God relates to us.
  3. Sympathy in relationships and friendships is a genuine concern for the other person. It is shown by being there in a time of need with an understanding heart and willing hands to help through trying times and joyful times of a friend’s life. Sympathy is also expressed through a listening ear for a troubled heart.
  4. Sacrifice in friendships is shown when you recognize that there will be times when you put your friend’s needs before your own. There will be times when your friend will need you to lay down some of your plans, ideas and agendas to help him/her. As a friend are you willing to do that? Jesus teaches the believers that sacrifice is the greatest love. “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for friends (John 15:13).”

When these four qualities are present and developed in a friendship/relationship you have built on a strong foundation that will sustain the friendship for a lifetime. The values of a strong foundation in friendships are: constructive criticism (Proverbs 27:6), helpful advice (Proverbs 27:7), and faithfulness (Proverbs 17:7). These values also help the friendship to pass the tests of continued loyalty (2 Samuel 1:23), the willingness to sacrifice (John 15:13), an obedient spirit (John 15:14,15), and like-mindedness (Philippians 2:19-23).

I Make Friends Easily Positive Affirmation

July 29, 2015 3 comments

I make friends easily wherever I go.

I have many friends. It seems that I make a new friend every time I step out of the house.

I find it easy to talk to everyone and people always seem to like me. My friends think I have a magnetic personality and I think they are correct.

I have a genuine interest in others and I find that making friends is easy when I care about them.

I make it a point to smile at everyone I see. I naturally have a smile on my face and can feel my smile spreading throughout my body. I am a walking, talking smile.

Whenever I am speaking with someone, I make sure to use their name in conversation. I like to make other people feel special and using their name is a great way to accomplish that. Everyone likes to hear his own name.

I always ask for the contact information of any new, potential friend. I follow-up and make an effort to keep in touch.

I realize that there are countless new friends out there I have yet to meet. Every new person is a potential new friend. I give everyone a chance to become a friend.

Today, I am keeping my eyes open for any new friends I can make. I am kind to everyone I meet and treat them like a long-lost friend. I make friends easily wherever I go.

How Your Friendships Affect Your Life

July 28, 2015 2 comments
Close Friends

Close Friends

Just about every individual is aware that his friends can affect his life in one way or another. However, most people are just not aware that such effect can be more influential than they could ever imagine. Your friends do not only influence you when making your decisions, they can also change how you view the world, alter your insight and change you into the different person.

The Impact

Your friends can really influence you. Friends can indeed alter your beliefs about things. Beliefs and values can be a changed when they are constantly challenged and when new beliefs are constantly repeated.  For instance, if you have a circle of friends who have a negative view of the employment market even before they had the opportunity to work with it, it can also affect you. Such pessimistic view probably came from the constant idea they obtained from friends in the form of suggestions which are repeated again and again, such as “it is very hard to search for a job nowadays”.

Your friends can affect your self-confidence. Friends have the ability to change the perception of one another. When the majority of your group is thinking that a certain person is snobbish and arrogant, this belief may be transferred to the entire group.

While believing that a person is treating you in an unfavorable way, you might interpret it as being a sign showing that you’re not really worthy. Such belief can badly affect the level of your self-confidence.

Your friends can also affect the way you behave. Being very attached to your friends can also affect your behavior. For instance, if you see that your friend is polite to someone, particularly old, even when you are not, you can think that doing such thing is indeed a delightful thing.  You will in turn do the same thing.

In addition to affecting your beliefs, your friends can also affect how you react of things. For instance, you are initially not afraid of snakes, yet after you know how it affects your friend beaten by one, your point of view and behavior, should you see one, will also change. This is how influential friendships can be.

Your friends could stir you with good and bad emotions. Depending on the type of friends you are connecting with, your emotions can be greatly affected by them. If you have friends who are happy at most times, you can observe yourself to be happy around them as well. Of course, if you care about your friends you will feel sad whenever they are sad.

How are your friendships impacting your life?

 

Know Your Spiritual Gift – What Should You Do Next?

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What should You do once You know my Gift(s)? Here are seven ways to unwrap your spiritual gifts.

  1. Dedicate yourself to learning more about your gift and how God wants you to use it. He will let you know in his time what you are to do.
  2. Develop your gift by using it. Seek out a Pastor or biblically based life coach, take courses that relate to the gift, and pay attention to how you develop in your gift.
  3. Study the Scripture.
  4. Talk to others having the same gifts because they will either have insights or may need your encouragement.
  5. Pray for guidance and strength. You may become discouraged at times about your gift and how you are being use or not being used.
  6. Be sensitive to the need of others when it comes to executing your gift.
  7. Do not neglect your role because God entrusted it to you for a reason.

Facts about Spiritual Gifts:

  • Spiritual Gifts are not natural ability or talent.
  • Spiritual Gifts are not the Fruit of Spirit (Galatians 5:22-25).
  • Spiritual Gifts can be abused.
  • Spiritual Gifts are received, not achieved.
  • The Gifts allow for diversity within unity because we each have unique work to do.
  • Each member of the Body of Christ is unique, important, and useful.
  • Spiritual Gifts are good but only when ministered in love (1 Corinthians 13).
  • The Gifts are diverse, but all are equally honorable.

Eight Ways to Discover Your Spiritual Gifts

Discovering your Spiritual Gifts

How do you discover your Spiritual Gifts? Here are eight ways I believe will help you.

  1. Understand what the gifts are. Once you understand each gift you will be able to discern more effectively what yours might be.
  2. Accept that you are gifted with these special endowments given to you by the Holy Spirit on behalf of our Father who has a great plan for you.
  3. Analyze yourself. Look at your interests, passions, personality, and even your talents and skills.
  4. Seek confirmation from others. Sometimes people who are in tune with spiritual things can see what gifts you may have.
  5. Evaluate the results of all that you learned and observed about the gifts you believe you are blessed with. Do you see evidence of these gifts in your life?
  6. Dedicate yourself to ministry because in doing so you will eventually find your gifted path.
  7. Take an assessment online.
  8. Sit with a Biblical/Christian Coach, Counselor or pastor to determine where God might be using you.

Know Your Spiritual Gifts

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Some people believe that knowing what your gifts are bare no true meaning. However, knowing the purpose of a thing is very useful. Not knowing the purpose of your gifts will cause you to live in what I call the “Haphazard Zone”.  That is the zone where you walk aimlessly through life, day-to-day not knowing who you are or what is going on. You are allowing life to happen to you and not living life to the fullest.

Discovering your spiritual gifts will open your eyes to the purpose of your life.

Can you imagine where your life would be if you understood what God had for you? Or what you were born to do? Everything has a purpose. When you don’t know the purpose of something you will abuse it. You have a destiny. You have a call. God gave you gifts that you were designed specifically for.

The three main reasons why you need to discover your Spiritual Gifts:

  1. Knowing your spiritual gift(s) will enable you to find your place of ministry in the Body of Christ. Every Christian has a particular function in the body of Christ. Your spiritual gifts equip you to carry that purpose out and to enhance the Body of Christ.
  2.  Knowing your spiritual gift(s) will enable you to determine your priorities. Knowing your gifts will keep your life with boundaries around it. You will not just let any and everything into your life. One of the most common problems we all face is having more things to do than we have time to do them. Paul says in Romans 12:6-8, that we should make the use of our spiritual gifts a priority in our lives. In simple terms, when we have too many things to do we must choose to function in the area of our spiritual gifts. In order to set priorities you must know what your spiritual gifting is.
  3. Knowing your spiritual gift(s) will be of great help in discerning God’s will. To expand our last point just a little bit further, knowing your spiritual gift(s) can be very helpful in discerning the will of God in the direction your life takes, especially your occupation. For example, if you do not have the gift of teaching or leadership, a teaching position perhaps that is not the field for you.  There is a very distinct relationship between knowing the will of God (Romans 12:1-2) and understanding your spiritual gift (Romans 12:3-8).

Here are a few more reasons why knowing your gift is important:

  • Commitment based on the focus of our gifts rather than abstract commitment will help you keep your commitments
  • You will have more effective service in whatever area you are working in
  • Appropriate commitment to ministry
  • You will have more confidence in overcoming inferiority about who you are and what you are to do

Character and Integrity

July 24, 2015 1 comment

Without character, the puzzle of achieving success falls apartIt is most important of all pieces to life’s puzzle.  Without character, you can make money.  But it will be worthless to you and to those around you.  Look out in the world today:  drug dealers and con artists have money—but they lack character.

If you go to all the work of achieving success, you don’t want to mar it with a lack of character that will make people pity you as you age and become less than you were intended to be.

Character equals integrity.  Integrity is doing the right thing all the time, even when no one else is watching.  You don’t have anything to fear when your integrity is in tact, because you have nothing to hide.  You experience no guilt and no fear.  And without those two traveling companions, it’s much easier to climb higher and farther, faster!

What does this mean in a practical sense?  It means that you will put the right philosophy (the golden rule) in to practice in all that you do.  You will not step on someone else to climb the corporate or success ladder; you will not stack bodies in order to reach the CEO position that you desire.  You will treat people with respect, honesty, and trust.  You will behave towards others how you want (and expect) them to behave towards you.

You will be the model of “doing the right thing” in your office, even if it isn’t appreciated or understood.  Chances are very good that if you’re the only one doing the right thing, you won’t last where you are, but you will find something better where your integrity is appreciated and applauded.

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