Think of a time when you needed forgiveness for something you thoughtlessly did that hurt another person. How did you feel about how the other person reacted to the transgression? What would have made you understand the action you perpetrated better and help you see how hurtful it was?
Chances are, you reacted to the anger of the other person by making up excuses that it wasn’t really your fault. But, if that same person forgave you in a calm manner, it’s more likely you were better to see the error of your ways and sincerely apologize to the other person.
Resentment and anger can imprison you for the rest of your life and impede your ability to form other relationships. When you forgive (without condoning) you’ll be able to walk away from the prison and let go of the pain that had you locked in to negative feelings and thoughts.
Forgiveness isn’t something that suddenly washes over you when you least expect it. Instead, forgiveness is a process that must be worked through, beginning with a commitment to let nothing stand in your way.
Learn to forgive – be free!
When someone we love and trusted has treated us with disdain the last thing on our minds at first is forgiveness. Our dreams have been shattered and we usually become angry and want revenge. Forgiveness isn’t on the horizon.
If you’re infused with anger and resentment toward another person, your thoughts are likely full of negativity. You may also have guilt for how you contributed to the situation or think that forgiving is only for the weak – and you never want to forget the transgression so it will never happen again.
Being judgmental is also a reason why it’s so hard to forgive another. If you perceive the other person as not appreciating you or all you’ve done for them or the love and trust you’ve put in the relationship, it becomes even more difficult. You’re so disappointed by the other person’s behavior that you refuse to put it in the past.
It’s important to remember that forgiveness doesn’t automatically let the person off the hook for what they’ve done. Even if they apologize or make amends for the transgression, you may think they need to continue paying by being non-forgiving and casting them out of your life for good.
You can make the choice to forgive and still not reconcile or accept what they’ve done. But, when your harshness of judging begins to permeate your own life and make you bitter and resentful, forgiveness can be a gift that you give yourself so you can pick up the pieces and go on in a healthy manner.
- “Positive thinking” unaccompanied by action and effort is another term for “escapism”.
- “Don’t get upset with people or situations. Both are powerless without your reaction” – Unknown
- “The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time” – Thomas Edison. (All great people have said this.)
- By all means use visualization to positively achieve goals – but be aware that fantasies can also “dull the will to succeed”.
- Those who truly know the meaning of positive thinking embrace failures as learning opportunities or challenges.
- Positive thinkers don’t criticize or look down on others. Nor do they waste time blaming others for their disappointments.
- Don’t just change your own way of thinking: Encourage others in your family to think positive thoughts and talk success too.
- Life doesn’t always allow us to be positive. But true positive thinkers return to that choice and practice as soon as they can.
- Insisting you practice positive thinking 100% of the time is to deny your feelings – and often deny the feelings of others.
- If you want to practice positive thinking, learn to embrace and think change.
- When you need to raise your energy to positive, meditate on a moment, image, song or person who fills you with joy.
- Keep a “Smile File” – photos of family, friends and even strangers whose smiles lift your spirits. Use it to stay positive.
- Pin positive affirmations, quotes and reminders in your work station – but do choose ones that really resonate with you.
- If you want to develop a positive attitude, stop complaining whenever you catch yourself doing so.
- If you truly want to embrace positive thinking, practice praising yourself for even small things you do right.
How many of us can picture ourselves living in the house of our dreams or driving our dream car? How many of us allow ourselves to even consider getting out of our mundane, penny-pinching lives and living the life of our dreams?
Dreaming big is an important part of success for anyone. Allowing ourselves to dream big and believing wholeheartedly in those dreams is what separates the winners from the losers. Just look around you and see the proof in those that dream big and get better results as compared to people who dream small, or don’t allow themselves to dream at all. Think what a tragedy it is that some people don’t think it’s worth it to visualise a better life for themselves and as a result, never have the chance to live their dreams.
The other important part of achieving success is being willing to work to make those big dreams a reality. For people who dare to dream big and are willing to work hard, success can become a definite reality.
How much success we can achieve in life is limited only by how much we believe we can achieve success. Don’t be afraid to set your sights high – you can achieve anything that you want and more!
Just think of how much you can achieve simply by believing that you can. A life that offers you financial independence, the ability to make your own decisions and life goals, all that you want both materially and all the time and freedom to do what you want.
So many people feel trapped in their lives of tiny dreams, of getting by, of constantly craving more and yet thinking themselves undeserving of more. Is this how you want to live your life? Open your mind, your imagination, expand the size of your thinking and your drive for success and get to work. Think big and make those dreams happen!